@dangerdyke@eris@winter Oh No, Don't You Want To Distance Yourself From The BAD PERSON DISABILITY? Surely this will work. Surely we will think it is okay to say that there is a Bad Person Disability and not see that shit for the psychiatric-hegemonic shit that it is.
Ok, in the most generous possible interpretation, *MAYBE* you're confusing between how this term is used in the vernacular to describe selfish / abusive people, and how it's formally applied by psychiatrists and the DSM to many different people [REGARDLESS of whether or not those people are abusing anyone.]
So if so, learn that those two are not synonymous or the same, and look at any of the several articles BY / FOR ABUSE SURVIVORS that I just linked to about the difference between someone being an abuser and someone having a psych diagnosis. Or read the excellent breakdown of the same in "Why Does He Do That."
Is there a reason you feel it's appropriate to use this kind of ableist dehumanization in the @actuallyautistic group?
Instead of treating entitled and abusive behavior as an issue of "pathology" or "deviance," you could look at the actual social norms and power-relations that give rise to it!
@housepanther@j@actuallyautistic How many other people does she have managerial / hiring-firing power over? Have you been able to talk with any of them about these grievances to see if they have similar? The Emergency Workplace Organizing Committee does trainings on how to take collective action in hostile work environments https://workerorganizing.org/support/
@winter ok this truck driver I work with who's always telling awful jokes told the "what do gay cows drink" one but what was funnier was he felt the need to demonstrate that he was Chill and Friendly and Supportive by prefacing it with, "okay, so I'm not telling you this joke, I'm just telling you that this joke was told *to me* by a guy who works at dunkin donuts who has very nice nails and who I think is bisexual"