@Dremmwel @axnxcamr @ajlanes @goatsarah @actuallyautistic

Ok, in the most generous possible interpretation, *MAYBE* you're confusing between how this term is used in the vernacular to describe selfish / abusive people, and how it's formally applied by psychiatrists and the DSM to many different people [REGARDLESS of whether or not those people are abusing anyone.]

So if so, learn that those two are not synonymous or the same, and look at any of the several articles BY / FOR ABUSE SURVIVORS that I just linked to about the difference between someone being an abuser and someone having a psych diagnosis. Or read the excellent breakdown of the same in "Why Does He Do That."