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@br00t4c

I was excited when Dr Who rebooted with Ecclestone. I got a little weary during Matt Smith’s time, not because of him, but because the writing got a little tired. Or maybe it was me. I was excited to have a female Dr Who, but again, found the writing a bit ordinary on occasion. And I’m a fan of Gatwa’s, but found the characters shallow, undeveloped, and the plots too silly. There was probably some good stuff in there, but after a few episodes, I lost interest.

I don’t know what the answer is, but bringing back old favourites won’t fix it. The actors can only excel when the writing gives them something to work with.

@hellomiakoda @murdoc @punishmenthurts @filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic @autistics

I don’t think all alpha males are sexist pricks. But the ones who like noisy motors/engines etc might be. You do have a point, but I suspect many women would appreciate a quiet but powerful vacuum cleaner.

As an ADHDer, I have a “busy” mind, and I always have a “to do/buy/project” list, in my mind &/or written down. And on a good day, I can get a lot done, leaving me feeling very accomplished.

As an ADHDer, I can be easily distracted, resulting in lots of unfinished or not even started tasks, resulting in a sense of failure & sometimes, panic. I can put things down and forget where I left them, leaving a trail of clutter in my wake.

As an ADHDer, I like change. I have had a variety of jobs and studied a range of courses. I like dealing with people, getting to know different types of people from a range of backgrounds & life experiences. And I love travel. I’ve studied people all of my life, formally & informally, not just in an attempt to work myself out and try to fit in, but because I find people fascinating.

As an autistic person, I like to know what’s going on, so that I can be prepared and organised. I don’t mind surprises if they don’t result in sudden, significant, unanticipated and highly disruptive changes in plans.

I also find clutter difficult to process and sometimes overwhelming. (Think all those fluoro pricing tickets in Chemist Warehouse.) I like my house to look lived in, comfortable, not like a hotel room, but not wholly cluttered.

Crowds, certain types of noise & loud noises, bright & or flashing lights and chemical smells can be unpleasant, overwhelming and even distressing. “Participating” in a crowd, such as in an audience or a protest march is different, because I know the “rules”, and we all have the same purpose. I feel like I belong, to some extent.

Being both ADHD & autistic can be …interesting. Sometimes one will balance out the worst aspects of the other. Sometimes the best aspects of both work brilliantly together. Sometimes they clash confusingly in ways that leave ourselves & others wondering wtf.

@actuallyautistic
#actuallyautistic
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@skyfire747 @actuallyautistic

Yes, like autism, it’s not something people “grow out of”. We just get better at dealing with it.

@hellomiakoda @murdoc @punishmenthurts @filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic @autistics

The sensible solution here would be to market a vacuum cleaner that is powerful AND quiet. I’d say it’s more about capitalist motives dominated by alpha male/wannabe alpha male attitudes more than an issue of neurotypicals.

@murdoc @hellomiakoda @punishmenthurts @filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic @autistics

The thing is, motorcycles and cars don’t have to be noisy. Even F1s aren’t as noisy as they used to be. The noise is all part of the compensatory effect of big/powerful vehicles.,

@punishmenthurts @filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic @autistics

As long as medicine continues to see autism as a disorder, a mistaken deviation from the norm, people will continue to see it as a problem to be solved, rather than as a difference to be understood.

Autistic people are more vulnerable to a range of health issues, and the possibility that we could address this aspect of autism is actually encouraging. (Obviously we would also need to acknowledge that some of our health issues are indirect consequences of stress due to inadequate accommodations etc.) It would allow more autistic people to lead more fulfilling lives. But when autism itself is seen as a disorder to be fixed, as something to be understood in purely negative terms…

I know it’s wrong to evaluate people in terms of what contributions they make to society. But imagine how much more autistic people could do & be recognised as doing if we were seen as worth supporting & accommodating?

Of course the same could be said with regard to all human beings. Properly supporting and accommodating everyone’s needs and potential should be a goal of all societies and would benefit every individual and all communities. But is unlikely to happen, unless maybe if autistic people were in charge… Utopian thoughts.

@bmacDonald94

I don’t know if it’s my instance, but I just don’t see them, which is really nice.

@bmacDonald94

I must be in a very safe space. I never see them.

My avatar is a brilliant indigo hydrangea flower. The banner is a photo of the Pohangina Valley in NZ, taken on my last visit to NZ in February 2025.

Remember when the idea of “win win” came along? Hoping to reduce, resolve & head off all types of conflicts, the idea was to develop outcomes that would be good for all parties. As a consequence, expectations that “the other side” would be willing to negotiate a mutually beneficial outcome grew.

But some people, bullies, mostly men with fragile egos, only feel like they’ve “won”, if someone else loses. And the worse the loss of their opponent, the more crushing the defeat, the better they feel.

This is the attitude that explains Trump, Putin, Netanyahu & countless other men at all levels of society, in politics, business, sport and, in personal relationships.

#USPol #Gaza #Ukraine #DomesticViolence

@gidi

Lovely! Thanks for sharing. I’ve photos of myself in London in 1985 & 2015, & probably some of my parents in 1977. A project for the next generation?

@CatsWhoCode @roknrol @hadon @StarkRG @pathfinder @sasutina13 @hosford42 @actuallyautistic

It’s a tough call for autistic people whose employer &/or colleagues are reluctant to make accommodations, or if it’s a large office with lots of people. As for “hot desking”, 🤯.

@wgrav @hosford42

I think the name is a joke “Autism speaks” - except it’s mostly NTs (or Austists in denial) speaking. And they are the nes with a history of not listening.

@youronlyone@app.wafrn.net @actuallyautistic @autistics @youronlyone@c.im

❌ I don’t mind eating greasy food with my fingers, but hate rubbing butter into flour so I don’t make pastry. I abhor grisly good in my mouth. High pitched noises & bass sound effects. Flashing lights. Overheated rooms, shops etc. Crappy loud music in shops or anywhere.

✅ Lots of different natural flavours & scents, flowers, nature more generally be it arid, rainforest or sea, smoochy cats, children’s laughter…

@Uair @youronlyone@app.wafrn.net @actuallyautistic @autistics @youronlyone@c.im

We ate a lot of cheap cuts of meat when I was a kid. I didn’t mind slightly tough, but when a big streak of gristle ran through it & wasn’t slow cooked long enough…

@hellomiakoda

If you could monetise that, it would work. 😩

@GreenRoc @hellomiakoda

I can only hope that this rant has made you feel at least a tiny bit better, and that you’re not feeling as bad as it seems. The one I really, really hate is Frosty the Snowman, in an American accent, in Australia, when it’s 40 degrees C outside.

@dan613 @niamhgarvey @actuallyautistic

The crocheted cloth they’re on is rather gorgeous too!

So sad to learn of Professor Gemma Carey’s death. I used to follow her at the bird site, as I’m sure many others did.