Trust your instincts with people!
This is triggered by a post from a friend, but is also something that happened to me not so long ago.
There's a guy I know IRL who is terminally ill. His little daughter is our son's best friend, so we try to support all of them as best as we can, which is very little.
He's got good and bad phases in dealing with this, which is a very euphemistic way of phrasing his struggles. I think any attempt at trying to understand how he feels is going to miss the mark.