Notices by Alexandra Magin 🏳️‍🌈 (recursive@hachyderm.io)

@skinnylatte The only way I remember it is:
- Memorial Day and Labor Day roughly bound the period of time we were off school for the summer when I was a kid (late may to late august).
- Of the two, Labor Day was placed furthest from May 1 on the calendar due to fear of communism (I don't know this to be in any way actually true, aside from it being a different day than May 1)

@skinnylatte I really appreciate you writing about this

@skinnylatte @mattblaze what the actual fuck

@skinnylatte maybe there’s some older buildings somewhere, but it’s so clean and the streets are wide and I don’t see anyone that isn’t like on the way to or from a job in an office

San Jose had a bunch of weird old residential stuff adjacent to the downtown and more variety of buildings

@skinnylatte A frustration I find is that beyond casual fashion, things are typically so much more strongly gendered and it's necessary to make a lot of explicit choices about how one is going to differ from the rest of the world

But also this may be a me problem, because I want even my "lazy" choices to feel deliberate and I have extremely strong feeling about how different pieces of clothing should fit. I think a lot of people out there just regard success with clothes as "did I look like the (very gender-conforming) model in the ad?" or maybe just don't have as much feelings about the whole process as I do

@skinnylatte It's terrible. I do want to see what clothes look like, but the idea of having to deal with all that IRL and then find out that nothing I like is available in my size makes it unpleasant

@skinnylatte Congrats!!

@skinnylatte oh, yeah, that's all fair. Mostly I have a reaction to overly large quantities and the sensory experience of going there. (But to be fair, every other supermarket has gotten to be much worse for my sensory issues in the past 10-15 years)

@skinnylatte I still don’t understand the appeal. I just have a membership because it was a good deal on window coverings

@skinnylatte anything can be a skyscraper when the sky is low enough

@skinnylatte In completely different ways I feel "There are not many places in the world where I can be all of those things." about a certain set of places

Heck, I even see this with people less marginalized than me. A lot of the supposedly better places in the world don't really allow for much variety of experience

@skinnylatte so sorry you have to let her go, what a lovely cat!

@skinnylatte place as a status symbol?

@skinnylatte I seem to only really eat various Valrhona dark chocolate (Alpaco lately) that is usually sold in pastilles for commercial use... I try not to think about the uhh, labor issues. But I consume a lot less since it gives me insomnia more easily than it used to.

I do find I like some of the acidic/fruity dark chocolates, but some of them are kind of un-nuanced as compared to the high end traditional brands

My former spouse did chocolate at a professsional level, as a hobby, once a year, which led to me becoming extremely fussy about food in yet another way <3

@skinnylatte is it worth using one of those soy milk maker appliances or is it almost as easy to just use a pan on the stove and blender?

@skinnylatte I miss the Alemany farmers market so much! (Lived not far from it 18 years ago)

I'm not yet sure if there's anything like it near me now

@skinnylatte they thought being like a Black Mirror episode was the thing to do 🙃

@skinnylatte right about as I was deciding to stop having a car and move to Seattle, I was thinking about the ways in which New York would be even better

Seattle is pretty good for me, but the advantage of even more density feels obvious

It took me a long time to understand my own feelings about cities, but now I talk to friends who live in suburbs and I'm constantly mentioning how relaxing it is to not have a car

@skinnylatte And their customer service made me rage quit before I could do a order. And it's only weekly service

@skinnylatte oh wow, I wish we had stuff like that here