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   Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 06:42:11 JST Adrianna Tan

   Holiday gift giving is very strange to me, in my culture we just give each other cold hard cash

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 06:43:06 JST Adrianna Tan

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     Honestly still don’t have any practice with gift giving but I found a life hack: buying people things from the aquarium store

     If you don’t like otter socks, I don’t want to be friends anyway

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 06:44:41 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Vincent :coffeecup:

     @vincent omg

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     Vincent :coffeecup: (vincent@mastodon.coffee)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 06:44:42 JST Vincent :coffeecup:

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     @skinnylatte As a fun prank, my MIL gave my daughter coins frozen in a brick of ice when she asked for cold hard cash.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 06:48:28 JST Adrianna Tan

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     I’m not joking. My gifts to my nuclear family are actually cold hard cash.

     One time, I was giving my aunt $100 in cash and at the same time she gave me $100 in cash. I gave it to her as a show of respect and she gave it to me as a show of care.

     We got stuck not knowing what to do but we exchanged two of the same notes as a show of symbolism lol

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 06:51:21 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Alex@rtnVFRmedia Suffolk UK

     @vfrmedia i do now also gift things like hotel stays and electronics to my parents. Not really tied to festivities or events tho just nice things to do

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     Alex@rtnVFRmedia Suffolk UK (vfrmedia@social.tchncs.de)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 06:51:22 JST Alex@rtnVFRmedia Suffolk UK

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     @skinnylatte my family do a mixture of both, but exchanging gift vouchers for online shopping are increasingly common - as many of us have specialist hobbies and even if asked what you want for a gift its often hard to describe it or something relatively obscure (in my case I often buy electronic components and modules which are unusual for most people not into this hobby)

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     Rebecca Wallace (wallacewords@mastodon.sdf.org)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 06:53:32 JST Rebecca Wallace

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     @skinnylatte I don't want to live in a world where there are no otter socks.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 06:53:32 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Rebecca Wallace

     @wallacewords heh

     https://shop.montereybayaquarium.org/products/sea-otters-socks

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 07:04:51 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Andres Salomon

     @Andres4NY hehe

     https://shop.montereybayaquarium.org/products/sea-otters-socks

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     Andres Salomon (andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 07:04:53 JST Andres Salomon

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     @skinnylatte I got my wife lemur socks last year. She got me bicycle socks like a decade ago, but no one's ever gotten me fun animal socks before..

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 07:07:38 JST Adrianna Tan

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     Maybe things have changed since, but it would be very weird to gift things to people back home. Very very weird. And to receive gifts as well.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 07:15:05 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • sanae :vbike: :vbus: (SF)

     @sanae food gifts!

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     sanae :vbike: :vbus: (SF) (sanae@carfree.city)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 07:15:06 JST sanae :vbike: :vbus: (SF)

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     @skinnylatte I have the problem of my family being in this ambiguous space of doing gifts but only kind of because it's not really our culture and we have not figured out or agreed on what our cultural norms are (this is true of the holidays in general)

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     sanae :vbike: :vbus: (SF) (sanae@carfree.city)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 07:18:42 JST sanae :vbike: :vbus: (SF)

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     @skinnylatte also needs to be things that can cross the border without explaining them to customs officials during the busiest time of the year, unfortunately

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 07:18:42 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • sanae :vbike: :vbus: (SF)

     @sanae oh, I would just order stuff in destination country for local delivery

     Although when I did that once my parents did not like the local delivery cost money

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     Scott Francis (darkuncle@infosec.exchange)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 08:02:49 JST Scott Francis

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     @skinnylatte sometimes those moments feel more like what I'm actually giving is *permission* to spend money on something I would generally not (or would feel guilty about)

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 08:02:49 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Scott Francis

     @darkuncle I didn’t grow up with gift giving as a concept, so I don’t even have the framework to think about things that way!

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     Alexandra Magin 🏳️‍🌈 (recursive@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 14-Dec-2024 08:20:28 JST Alexandra Magin 🏳️‍🌈

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     @skinnylatte I still feel like I'm bad at giving gifts, I tend to just ask my wife if she wants something and she does the same for me, but I'm trying to become one of those people who buys something small and interesting for people when I see it

     It's taking me a new kind of awareness to be thoughtful in the way I want to be, but it feels good for me, so long as I don't try to be perfectionist about it