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@bmacDonald94

I don’t know if it’s my instance, but I just don’t see them, which is really nice.

@bmacDonald94

I must be in a very safe space. I never see them.

My avatar is a brilliant indigo hydrangea flower. The banner is a photo of the Pohangina Valley in NZ, taken on my last visit to NZ in February 2025.

Remember when the idea of “win win” came along? Hoping to reduce, resolve & head off all types of conflicts, the idea was to develop outcomes that would be good for all parties. As a consequence, expectations that “the other side” would be willing to negotiate a mutually beneficial outcome grew.

But some people, bullies, mostly men with fragile egos, only feel like they’ve “won”, if someone else loses. And the worse the loss of their opponent, the more crushing the defeat, the better they feel.

This is the attitude that explains Trump, Putin, Netanyahu & countless other men at all levels of society, in politics, business, sport and, in personal relationships.

#USPol #Gaza #Ukraine #DomesticViolence

@gidi

Lovely! Thanks for sharing. I’ve photos of myself in London in 1985 & 2015, & probably some of my parents in 1977. A project for the next generation?

@CatsWhoCode @roknrol @hadon @StarkRG @pathfinder @sasutina13 @hosford42 @actuallyautistic

It’s a tough call for autistic people whose employer &/or colleagues are reluctant to make accommodations, or if it’s a large office with lots of people. As for “hot desking”, 🤯.

@wgrav @hosford42

I think the name is a joke “Autism speaks” - except it’s mostly NTs (or Austists in denial) speaking. And they are the nes with a history of not listening.

@youronlyone@app.wafrn.net @actuallyautistic @autistics @youronlyone@c.im

❌ I don’t mind eating greasy food with my fingers, but hate rubbing butter into flour so I don’t make pastry. I abhor grisly good in my mouth. High pitched noises & bass sound effects. Flashing lights. Overheated rooms, shops etc. Crappy loud music in shops or anywhere.

✅ Lots of different natural flavours & scents, flowers, nature more generally be it arid, rainforest or sea, smoochy cats, children’s laughter…

@Uair @youronlyone@app.wafrn.net @actuallyautistic @autistics @youronlyone@c.im

We ate a lot of cheap cuts of meat when I was a kid. I didn’t mind slightly tough, but when a big streak of gristle ran through it & wasn’t slow cooked long enough…

@hellomiakoda

If you could monetise that, it would work. 😩

@GreenRoc @hellomiakoda

I can only hope that this rant has made you feel at least a tiny bit better, and that you’re not feeling as bad as it seems. The one I really, really hate is Frosty the Snowman, in an American accent, in Australia, when it’s 40 degrees C outside.

@dan613 @niamhgarvey @actuallyautistic

The crocheted cloth they’re on is rather gorgeous too!

So sad to learn of Professor Gemma Carey’s death. I used to follow her at the bird site, as I’m sure many others did.

@goatsarah

I’m not sure I get you, unless you’re saying that some of the activism was pretty blatant & confrontational? Sometimes that is necessary, although it can also be counter-productive. There’s never just one “right” way to bring about change.

@goatsarah

I think it was similar with gay people a generation or so ago. Some straight people couldn’t look at a gay person without thinking about what they might get up to in the bedroom, or wherever. When I look at a person, I don’t immediately wonder what they do or don’t do in the bedroom & with whom.

I think this says a lot more about their personal insecurities about sex & gender than anything else, unless they’re just jumping on the bandwagon for political gain.

This pretty much sums up the US election result. #USPol

Our mistake was to think we lived in a better country than we do https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/nov/07/us-progressive-election-trump-maga?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

I think she’s hit the nail right on the head.

Many women, when frightened, will either retreat & try to make themselves a small target (often necessary), or bravely face their fears and seek to overcome them.
Some men express their fear as anger, their violence & aggression driven by fear, not any carefully thought out rationale.

Trump is tapping into the fears of those men who don’t have the capacity (skills, education, temperament etc) to think things through. They like him, because he expresses his own fear & insecurity as anger. He doesn’t even try to be civil or measured now, making wild claims & promising hateful actions. He is running scared, scared of being shown up as an ignorant, incompetent fool, scared of rejection, scared of facing the consequences of his criminal actions. And some men relate.

@bmacDonald94

Teaching is a great way to learn. It’s one thing to think you know something, & another entirely to know it well enough to articulate & explain to someone else.

And food, good peasant food. The rice dish was better than any other paella we’ve had. The waiter is a rugby player & was rapt to discover that partner is a fan.

Hmmm. If you Google Free walking tours Cuenca Spain, a whole lot come up, which you then sift through to find the English language one. I’d done that, & booked… a tour of Cuenca Ecuador. So I cancelled that & with a tourist map, we took ourselves on a tour. The geology & geography were as fascinating as the town. Then train back “home” to Madrid.