Notices by nadja (dequbed@mastodon.chaosfield.at)

@debacle @bootblackcub @prose Oh XMPP actually got itself reactions and replies. I'm positively surprised. Only took them, what, 15 years?

@lbja @debacle @bootblackcub @prose Is pull 706 merged yet? No? Yeah, I'm not buying the "improving existing internet standards" part. But hey, there are only 495 (published) XEPs yet, I'm sure that's much better for fragmentation!

@kris yeah no, XMPP does not have e2ee in group chats. It has 'encrypt your message to each recipient with OMEMO individually' in group chats which is laughable to anybody even remotely knowledgeable of cryptography. Not to mention that OMEMO is pretty bad on the best of days.
But sure sure, MLS will fix everything. Maybe I'll even see it deployed in my lifetime :)

@kris I mean true if you just don't have e2ee for chat rooms it's much easier to never have broken e2ee in chat rooms.

@bootblackcub In terms of E2EE both are pretty bad, but XMPP is *slightly* worse. If E2EE does not matter to you (likely since you're setting up your own server anyway), then it depends if you need 1:1 chats or want a good chat room experience. XMPP can not offer the latter, but is as a whole experience better for the first (although the protocol shows how incredibly dated it is in the features it plain does not have, like replies/threads or reactions).

@schratze no, the real girl dinner is a single pill of Naproxen 500 on a heated blanket.

Getting boosted by a bigger account in the fediverse is always so fun, because you're suddenly getting favourites and boosts from all over the 'verse and you can spend a long while marveling at all the cute little gay people in your phone :blobcatheart: :blobcatlove: :blobcatmelt:

Feel free to boost or fav this if you want to show me more cute little gay people :blobcatsnuggle: :potion_progress_pride:

@erincandescent @Gaelan @theresnotime @q @izaya Speaking with my cryptographer hat on, X.509 is not fine. And no, it's not about DER. ASN.1/DER is fine, it's about as horrible as all other binary formats.

@erincandescent @Gaelan @theresnotime @q @izaya yes, the algorithm is the same, but this isn't about the algorithms. e.g. X.509 trust establishment is heinously complex and error-prone in implementation and the trust establishment is why you're doing signed certificates to begin with.

@erincandescent @Gaelan @theresnotime @q @izaya So "if you don't actually implement X.509 it's not actually complex". That's true, but not a very good counter for the argument that "X.509 is a bad, overly complex standard we shouldn't use as-is".

I had to reboot my USB dock. Apparently that's a thing now. No I mean I had to *reset my charger* for it to charge my computer again. :blobcatfearful:

@neil if not we at least can have a police officer see a kid using a smartphone and go "oi, do you have a loicense for dat?" :blobcatgooglytrash:

@fleckenstein Well see, plátano is the term for a type of banana you'd use in cooking…

@fleckenstein

@fluepke @neil I'm going to hazard a guess that for your setup bitrate is a DRM problem, not a service problem. If you have an appropiate locked down hardware-certified device none of the streaming services have an issue sending a 4K stream with appropiate bitrate to you, even at peak hours. But if you have a de-blobbed Firefox on Linux with no DRM certification you're stuck at IIRC 720p.
Seriously, the quality difference between my Firefox and my Android TV is *stark*, even with DRM blobs.

@fuomag9
Well, @neil would never admit it openly, but he does have a tiny bit of a soft spot for both @babe and me.
You know, how one likes their least favourite sock. It's itchy and you don't want to be seen in public with it but it's been with you all these years so you can't bring it over you to throw it away.

@Rasp an autistic co-dependent relationship is no more or less toxic than an allistic one, because the problem is the codependence. That's why I said "fight themselves" not "each other". Both partners need to accept themselves and their needs first so that the other person can given them the space to fulfill them. There is no need for one to "handle" the other's needs, there is only need for one to give their partner enough space to breathe and live in. But you need to accept your needs first.

@Rasp That can only happen if you have two partners that refuse to accept their specialities and insist on fighting themselves instead of trying to figure out how to respect each other's needs.
And that, honestly, starts with not treating them as "issues". An autistic person is not worse or less able than a neurotypical one for having different needs. And mutual respect dictates that both try to figure out what needs their partner has and help them to keep them satisfied.

@Rasp or you can date another autistic person. That keeps their and frankly your (you are worth just as much as your partner) discomfort down as much as possible and will allow you to not be forced to mask all the time :)

@aral On mastodon you can do the same from the settings. If you go to the "followers" tab in the *settings* (not profile) you can select profiles to unfollow and to have unfollow you. That's really useful if you want a whole bunch of accounts gone ^^