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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Thursday, 29-Feb-2024 05:49:51 JST Sir Inge

I liken these things because
1. They're both super relevant, always, but especially now
2. As a Jewish trans man, I can see the parallels. There's a lot of them!
3. I think if you can wrap your head around the dynamics of zionism and Jewish oppression interplaying with privilege, you can understand how TME oppression and privilege interplay, and vice-versa

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Thursday, 29-Feb-2024 05:36:52 JST Sir Inge

I will never accept Jewish safety that comes at the expense of Palestinians. And I will never accept trans men’s/transmasc safety that comes at the expense of trans women.

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Thursday, 29-Feb-2024 05:36:46 JST Sir Inge

Also, aside from the obvious and important matters of you should care about Palestinians and you should care about trans women and there's an active genocide against the former and increasing violence and genocidal rhetoric towards the latter...

From a purely self-interested point of view, zionism won't save Jews and transmisogyny won't save trans men. Do you really, honestly, think that punching down will make you a Good One in the eyes of Christian whiteness/patriarchal gender? It's unacceptable to get blood on your hands to be "one of the good ones," but also counterproductive--Jews are called increasingly insular and warmongering, TME trans people become the centre of "trans people eat their own," and Doing A Genocide isn't going to stop white Christian supremacy or the removal of trans people and medical transition from public life. You should never commit evil in the name of safety in the first place, but these evils aren't even making you safer!!!

Israel's existence has made me less safe as a Jew, and transmisogyny has made me less safe as a trans man, but some people would rather cry that their oppression comes from the people they're (metaphorically or LITERALLY) killing in the hopes of some sort of dumbass conformist/insular "safety" than actually combat where antisemitism and transphobia are coming from

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Tuesday, 21-Nov-2023 15:43:42 JST Sir Inge

I do believe that it's better to assume ignorance than malice; to assume that people can be taught. So I'm going to talk a bit about my experiences, so it's clear why I got so set off.

I went to a Jewish school from preschool through second grade. My school semi-regularly received bomb threats, enough so that the procedure was known to me and it was never that surprising. We evacuated and got picked up by our parents. I didn't really notice until I was a bit older that the secular school I switched to in third grade never received bomb threats. It wasn't an Israeli school or anything--just a bunch of children having our lives threatened simply because we were Jewish.

I don't have large family reunions or events, because a lot of my family died during the Holocaust. My grandparents were orphaned. One of my few living relatives of that generation never had any kids, because she was beaten so badly in the camps that she became infertile. I didn't get to visit where my grandfather grew up until I was in my 20s, because there were always safety fears. When I did, we toured the "Jewish neighborhood," which hadn't been a bustling centre of Jewish life in decades, since most of the Jews were either killed or fled overseas to North amerikkka. And it was the Jewish neighborhood because Jews weren't allowed to live elsewhere. It was a ghetto.

Even in my adulthood, I've dealt with the belittling of my culture and history by others who are well-intentioned and would never view themselves as antisemitic, having it denigrated as backwards or selfish and not necessary in today's world. My sister has had her mezuzah stolen from her door. And none of this has had anything to do with Israel, or wealth. I've never been to Israel, and refused to go when my family surfaced the idea. I also have no relation to any Jewish media figures or billionaires, any more than any gentile on this site is tied to Donald Trump or Elon Musk or Tucker Carlson. There are so many poor Jews, and so many Jews who have lived before Israel was established and had never dreamed of tying their culture and religion to a colonial state, and anti-zionist Jews after.

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Seeing mutuals and other posters I like on here brush off antisemitism is distressing. So many people I otherwise like and trust treat it as a difference of opinion, or an annoying position to just roll your eyes at and ignore. Even I didn't say anything for a while!

But at a certain point, you see people that are in your circle being casually chatted with between posts about how they hate Jews. You see your mutuals and friends go "[x] isn't that bad, just edgy" or "they're just opposed to Zionism and Israel" or "I haven't seen them say anything actually antisemitic," and then you check their posts and they're going on about how Jews are allowed to commit genocide and nobody else is, or about reading the name etymology and Early Life Wikipedia sections of billionaires or media company owners (looking for a Jewish gotcha), or downplaying how bad Hitler was, or saying how they don't want to hate all Jews but every one they meet is annoying or evil, or how Jews keep proving antisemitic conspiracy theories right and we're just going "mask off."

This isn't a tolerable difference of opinion, or getting angry about "guilt by association." This is discomfort and distress about supposed friends and allies either ignoring, missing, or condoning blatant hate for Jews, and treating it as something that's just cringe and annoying, or even something you kind of agree with but think was worded poorly.

Antisemitism is real. Elon Musk is using his platform to agree with the idea that Jews are trying to replace white people. My family is dead and I have received death threats as a CHILD for being Jewish. There are streets in Europe paved with Jewish gravestones. There are universities that I would've been barred from in my grandparents' or even parents' lifetime.

So treating me getting angry about it as petty internet drama that we just need to log off and settle down from disgusts me. Saying "I find the drama dumb" as if it's a difference in opinions on fedi moderation or media, and not about openly saying you hate Jews, is disgusting.

Please think about actual fucking Jewish lives, and don't treat an actual form of bigotry with a death count as just petty online discourse.

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Tuesday, 21-Nov-2023 11:27:18 JST Sir Inge

A clarification on death threats, death wishes, etc:

I did say I wish Maija would die. I will not deny that. I don’t actually believe it, and very rarely actually wish death on anyone. I shouldn’t have said it.

There is a little bit of context: I was drunk and home alone, with nobody to mediate my worst tendencies. I have also been dealing with a lot of family “drama,” which put me on the verge of being cut off, so I’ve been particularly vulnerable.

I had been complaining about both Maija and Adiz in private for a while, but didn’t say anything on fedi because I didn’t want to cause a fuss. So many of my mutuals and other accounts I follow were following or even friends with one or both of them, not to mention others who started pulling antisemitic tropes and rhetoric later. It’s very distressing seeing such antisemitism treated as no big deal by people you otherwise respect. I had attempted to mute accounts that replied to or reposted either or both of Maija and Adiz, but things kept popping up.

I should not have told anyone that I hope they die or should die. But I didn’t do so from a stable place; I was lashing out after repressing discomfort and pain for a very long time.

If you think telling someone to die is worse than openly being antisemitic and refusing to change that, then I think we both don’t want to be around each other.

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Monday, 20-Nov-2023 09:42:55 JST Sir Inge
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@eris Your "friends" love talking about Jewish media control and how they're antisemites and I'm kinda fucking sick of it

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Monday, 20-Nov-2023 09:31:01 JST Sir Inge
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@nemesis @mja @allison >as a monarchist
Oh my god. Holy fuck. You're beyond fucking parody.

Whining about Jews having power over the West and accusing me of being an authoritarian while literally believing in fucking royal families

Grow some fucking brain cells, or drink bleach, whichever works

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Monday, 20-Nov-2023 09:04:27 JST Sir Inge
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@mja @allison @nemesis I really wish you’d die not gonna lie

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Monday, 20-Nov-2023 09:04:26 JST Sir Inge
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@nemesis @mja @allison Well I’m Jewish so obviously

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Monday, 20-Nov-2023 09:04:23 JST Sir Inge
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@nemesis @mja @allison ME getting accused of being a tankie is the funniest shit I’ve ever seen
I hate the USSR and I am the most vocally anti-government person I know
I just exist as a Jew and get called a tankie for it
I swear, an caps are fucking brainless

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Friday, 17-Nov-2023 03:56:45 JST Sir Inge
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@eris If the options presented to young people these days are either uncritical support of empire and support for the war machine, or a leftism that involves blaming Jews, I think we're doomed

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Friday, 17-Nov-2023 03:50:01 JST Sir Inge

I don't want to harp on this too much because there are self-proclaimed proud antisemites on fedi and I don't feel like getting into an argument with them. But man. Not too fond of a certain degree of antisemitism just being acceptable if you're epic enough against imperialism

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Friday, 17-Nov-2023 03:48:19 JST Sir Inge
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@eris There were actual points about US imperialism and hypocrisy in there, so it's not purely theological supremacy. But it was very baked in "and the solution to this is theocracy" and also specifically singling out Judaism

Also this kind of antisemitism (and homophobia) isn't exclusive to Muslim groups. A lot of secular radicals also have problems like that (like the FLQ if I remember right)

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Friday, 17-Nov-2023 03:43:44 JST Sir Inge

>seeing posts about Osama Bin Laden's letter being taken off of The Guardian
>"It was taken down because it's right!! He was right all along!"
>let's take a look at the archive copy
>immediately blaming Jews
>okay but in this context he's just referring to Israel and its ethnonationalism. I can see it, let's keep reading
>blames amerikkkan money as coming from Jews
>tells the US to stop capitulating to The Jews
>implicates usury as a big part of why

Okay cool

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Thursday, 16-Nov-2023 14:05:21 JST Sir Inge
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@eris Merci

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Friday, 10-Nov-2023 05:42:39 JST Sir Inge

Trying to keep suicidal ideation at bay, playing Club Penguin and listening to Nine Inch Nails on vinyl

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Thursday, 09-Nov-2023 00:36:53 JST Sir Inge
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@eris All the obvious shit aside, something about this assuming you’re a trans woman with a boyfriend and a male ID is fascinating to me

(Unless the original asker specified that, I forgot how Quora works)

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Thursday, 09-Nov-2023 00:36:40 JST Sir Inge
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@eris They will be.

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Thursday, 02-Nov-2023 10:12:45 JST Sir Inge

It’s always important to remember that you can just disregard the opinions of people online. You don’t need to agree, and you don’t even need to get mad at them or seriously disagree. You can just think “wow this is a bad or just half-baked take,” roll your eyes, and walk away

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Sir Inge (ildottore@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Wednesday, 01-Nov-2023 05:53:59 JST Sir Inge
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@eris @Arcana @Moon @ciel An example I’ve seen:

Camper A at camp is gay and autistic. Camper B has been mocking him for being gay.

Campers A and B have an encounter. A makes some sexual jokes and gestures—this is corroborated by all. Camper A did not touch Camper B—this is also corroborated by all involved.

B accuses A of sexual assault.

Now, A didn’t even touch B, and these jokes are common with boys that age. But A did make sexual comments and gestures, so the camp decides it’s sexual harassment, and A is kicked out.

If a straight kid, especially one who’s neurotypical and understands boundaries and comfort levels better than kid A, made these same jokes, it would’ve been fine.

But here’s the kicker—B really was shaken. He dealt with discomfort and pain equivalent to other sexual harassment. Can we deny that because it came from a source of homophobia, or because A didn’t intend it? B was really hurt.

In this case, models of aggressor/victim break down. One would have to either say that A is a predator simply for making jokes that straight NT kids could make, or that B wasn’t actually hurt or affected by what happened. But neither of those are true.

(As a camp counsellor at the time, this whole event really shook me and I’m still a bit fucked up over it over a year later)

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