One more thing before I go do what I'm supposed to be doing:

I also think, specifically in terms of forcefem or egg shitposting, it's totally fine to be uncomfortable with something without viewing it as an attack or a moral evil. I don't really like forcefem stuff in most contexts (specifically when applied to me, for obvious reasons), but I understand the context it exists in here. I simply just don't engage and tell myself "this isn't about me." Demanding clarification that you're not the subject/target of something instead of being able to be comfortable enough in yourself and the women around you to trust that something is a generalization of dynamics under patriarchy or a joke is the same shit as going "but what about me? NotAllMen" to women posting about men sucking. It's literally the same thing!

Actually, engaging with the dynamics of transfem subcultures and experiences empathetically is more productive. I've seen it taken a bit too far in my eyes (on Tumblr, not on here), with people saying that trans men are never forced into a gender that's not theirs and that any equivalent attempts at jokes or kinks around this are actually just transfem experiences; I think that comes from these communities just talking past each other instead of finding what experiences ARE common (like being forced into your assigned gender or being closeted). But that can't happen if you approach transfems as inherently hostile and ignore the privilege you have over them as a transmasc/someone TME.