Notices by mekka okereke :verified: (mekkaokereke@hachyderm.io)

@KraftTea

Yes, that's a real issue, but has nothing to do with starter packs.

https://hachyderm.io/@mekkaokereke/109694404895541101

If we picture a world with 500M people on Mastodon, the infra design breaks a lot of smaller sites. Conversely, BlueSky's infra choices don't break smaller sites. I do love your focus on what it means for Fediverse to be a better Internet citizen.

"Mastodon only works because it's not popular! Stop making it popular!" is probably not the message we should lead with.

Teen Vogue stays winning! ♥️🏳️⚧️

You know my rules:
1) A space that is safe for white trans women, and is not safe for Black trans women, is not "a safe space for trans women."
2) Any article that talks about the dangers faced by trans women, that doesn't also mention race, is trash.

Thank you Angie Jamie and Teen Vogue, for writing a trans day of remembrance article that is not trash. Far from it. It's really good.

https://www.teenvogue.com/story/amid-an-violence-epidemic-against-trans-americans-these-groups-are-fighting-back

@blogdiva @dave_andersen @ahimsa_pdx

Nivenly is probably not going to fork Mastodon, at least not directly. We need to support the existing Fediverse software, including Mastodon, but yes, also the other ActivityPub software.

We need to support these existing efforts, and encourage co-op style governance, sustainable funding, excellence in User Experience design, and Trust & Safety.

We accelerate others' roadmaps.

In some cases, we support others' brand new initiatives.

@melioristicmarie @wonkothesane @digitalrodent @BrentToderian

"So, if a human doesn't use a digital platform they die?"

That's such a silly bad faith interpretation of what I said, that I've realized this conversation has come to the end of its usefulness.🤷🏿♂️

"if so... we have very different perspectives of prosocial tech use"

Correct. We do have very different perspectives of prosocial use. The difference between us, is that you have never made a space safe for Black folk. Not once. I have.

@melioristicmarie @wonkothesane @digitalrodent @BrentToderian

When the Titanic is sinking, some people are like
"We should get as many people into the life boats as we can, and as quickly as possible!" 👍🏿

But other people are like, "Fast food, and Fast life boat access, lead to indigestion! Life boats *should* be difficult to get into! If it's easy for women and children to climb in, then it's easy for trolls to climb in too! I have my seat secured, and that's who I care about!" 🤡

2/2

@melioristicmarie @wonkothesane @digitalrodent @BrentToderian

Two things:

1) If you reply to me "followers only" I'm going to screenshot it and reply public. Don't do that followers only mess in my timeline.

2) This is what I mean when I say many users on Mastodon lack basic empathy. Users that are comfortable on Mastodon, and know that Black people are being abused on Twitter, just don't care that those people's suffering should be reduced as quickly as possible by moving elsewhere.

1/N

@blaue_Fledermaus

🤣

Oh no!

Your diaper game is too strong! You overshot! A common error.

It's a game of inches my friend! We're going for "good husband," not "great husband."

@WeirdWriter @meejah

And most importantly, users can create their own starter packs.

So a Black woman cartoon illustrator, can easily make her own starter pack of "Black comics professionals." Then, when she invited her friends from Twitter, she can just say, "click on my starter packs!"

No admins need to do anything.

It gets coverage of deeply connected micro-communities that admins might not know about.

@joakimfors

Yes. A lot of the foolishness that men do to themselves is "US only," or "US first."

When I share stats about how much more involved in childcare Black dads are than white dads, understand that this only applies to the US. 🤷🏿♂️

https://hachyderm.io/@mekkaokereke/109835078446477677

The significantly more parent involvement that Black US dads have compared to white US dads, is what a white dude in Sweden or Finland would call "the normal amount of parenting." 🤡

You're not a man because you wear certain things, or act a certain way. You don't have to perform manliness.

You're a man because you are one. That's it!

There's no special kind of way that you have to be.

Wear what you want. Talk how you want. Hang out with who you want, and how you want.

If you're a man and you're doing it, that makes it something that men do.

Self imposed masculinity pressure isn't the only reason so many men are depressed. But it's a big one.

Policing your own behavior can lead to loneliness and isolation, and straight up just not enjoying things.

Bad: No one shows me affection!
Good: Aye, I love you man!

Bad: Men don't eat ice cream!
Good: This ice cream is hitting!

Bad: Changing diapers is women's work!
Good: My diaper game is unmatched! NASCAR has nothing on me! I invented the baby pit stop!

Happy international men's day!

Reminder to be more like Black men!

Black men:
* Are seen as more masculine
* See themselves as more masculine
* But we do more stuff considered feminine?🙂🙃
* And no one says a damn thing!

Because this whole masculinity thing is made up and a scam. Stop hurting yourself!

https://hachyderm.io/@mekkaokereke/113051689610950204

No seriously, stop hurting yourself. Black men have one of the lowest age adjusted suicide rates.👍🏿 White men? One of the highest.

@Stinson_108 @mastodonmigration @digitalrodent @wonkothesane @BrentToderian

🤣Why would I want a default elephant "behind me?"

I don't need weirdos confidently wrong in my mentions, presuming that their 3 second Google searches matches decades of scholarship and lived experience.

Look up "unconvicted incarcerated labor," and stop wasting my time. Go read up on how many unconvicted people in jail report being de facto forced to work pre-trial.

Happy International Mens Day, everyone!

I am (as always) tempted to be extremely silly and make a load of jokes, but it is a rare opportunity to actually be a positive force for change. Particularly considering that I am a man and I don't know if you're aware of this but men are not always like totally 100% cool, y'know?

So. I am asking you today to think about positive male role models. For every Andrew Tate (who is no longer part of International Mens Day - we all got together and voted him out), there is a Gareth from my running club, who dedicates his time to nurturing young men who are struggling, or a Ken who took me in and housed me when I was homeless and hopeless.

These heroes are almost always unsung, and if you search online for positive male role models, you are unlikely to find examples; only examples of toxic ones. Which is obviously quite sad. We need more positive role models.

I'm not talking about someone who grows a moustache for a month or does a charity walk - I'm talking about men who effect consistent positive change in their community or as an example to the young men of tomorrow. Obviously to other children aswell, but I am interested in men who serve as a positive example, growing future positive change from the roots, which is the only way we are going to move forwards.

Challenging the precept that being good or kind or vulnerable compromises our masculinity.

So I just want to beam all of you Kings out there all the best. Together, men strong (like apes, only I said men, and I meant emotionally, not like in a tug of war or anything).

Remember to support each other and yourselves. We all struggle sometimes and IT IS OK TO ASK FOR HELP. x

@rburghol

♥️ Thank you!

@dave_andersen @ahimsa_pdx

Unfortunately not.

501(c)(4)

https://nivenly.org/blog/2024/01/31/resolutions-passed/

@gatesvp @WTL

What if I told you that most of BlueSky engineering was done by 4 people?

And that the total Eng team that built most of it is 12 people?

Sometimes I think people imagine that BlueSky has an army of hundreds of engineers, sipping lattes and sitting on beanbag chairs. In reality, it's like 7 engineers sipping lattes and sitting on beanbag chairs.

@graue @Andres4NY @mekkaokereke despite being a Mastodon-first client, Phanpy now already supports bits of little features from other servers. Most of them are external contributions as I don't have the capacity to keep up and test them.

Back to topic; I agree that everything needs better funding. Even AP competitors also need the same thing.

@mekkaokereke ok. I will bet against you, for the simple fact that if I lose, I win.

I bet $150 that mastodon will not have both quote tweets and composable moderation by January 1 2026.

If I lose, I'll pony up the cash to the destination of your choice (a charity, a mastodon server, someone asking for MutualAid, your own Venmo, whatever). If I win, 🤷 I've gotten way more than $150 value from your posts so we'll call it good.

@rburghol @thisismissem @chirpbirb @esk

Short version, donate to Nivenly.

Read the below post and the next one replying to it.

https://hachyderm.io/@mekkaokereke/113506172100445466