1. I think it's a fantasy that malignant fascists can be made to "move in my direction," in large numbers by my kindness. Some fascists decide to stop being fascists of their own accord when they grow up. This has nothing to do with if their victims smiled at them while they were being beaten. Some really good people that I really respect and look up to, have the ability to be kind to their oppressors. Not me. I don't possess an ounce of that in me.
2. I don't need any of these people to "move in my direction." I have zero desire to seek middle ground with ethnic cleansers. None. There are more people that find their behavior abhorrent than people that support their actions. What I care about, is making sure that the good people, who outnumber the bad people, have their voices heard, and have their safety prioritized.
I don't want to win over fascists. I want to defeat fascists. I think attempting to win over fascist, is step one of a losing strategy.