Notices by Giflian (giflian@techhub.social)

15 years ago I had a job where I'd be talking to my teammates about our tech infrastructure or our databases and then one of them would respond with "that's what she said". And then the rest of the team (all men) would laugh, and everyone would forget what I just said, because it had become a sex joke.

It happened a lot. Luckily I was only there a year.

The result of this is that I haven't found "that's what she said" funny since 2009. If it's used in response to something I say nowadays, I just leave. Because it's being used to discredit and belittle me, even if the person pretends it isn't.

Lately I've been hearing people (men) use it more and more, and I don't know if it's the people I'm talking to or a shift in culture. Either way, I don't like it, even if it's not directed at me or another woman.

I ask that anyone who enjoys that phrase consider how they're using it, and see if they can come up with something similarly crude but non-gendered. Punch up.

Mr. Toebeans does not trust the Christmas decorations

That thing where someone photographs you when you're mid-meow and you end up looking really funny

Sando is 4 years old

@misty are you on hold or do they call you back?

Watching yesterday's Last Week Tonight and finally seeing John Oliver learn about the BC John Oliver who was premier over 100 years ago. I've been watching/listening to this comedian for maybe 20 years now but if I hear the name my mind first translates it as the high school on Fraser. Though we referred to it as "Jayo" in the olden times.

CNBC reporting what I've been saying for months: companies lying about replacing employees with AI in order to hide financial problems (or to make the move look good, at least) https://youtu.be/8g5img1hTes?si=NWWpvQ7sHrKMY8Bp

Turns out we voted for a Conservative government anyway https://flipboard.com/@globeandmail/canadian-politics-ant6t30oz/-/a-VKl6L0hsScWRVlsq5GCGrg%3Aa%3A729020400-%2F0

Fuck it, here's another toebeans pic, since Sando is so obliging

@thomasfuchs how far back are we going?

My mother says that as a preschooler I wore out a Carpenters cassette tape.

Ha ha ha ha omg

*breathes*

Ha ha ha ha

@jonny the first comment is "This will not scale." lol

@TheBreadmonkey have you listened to the mashup that recently dropped though https://mendeddrum.org/@DJDarren/114697558460716404

@TheBreadmonkey I believe @DJDarren did something to anger the computer gods and 2 tracks played simultaneously during a live radio stream. And while there were a bunch of us in the live chat nobody said anything for over a minute.

I listened to a bit of the Mozart + Chinese bible video and I had to go lie down

@PhoenixSerenity I was thinking recently about some books I was given as a little kid, that were some Christian propaganda thing where the messaging behind the books were about thinking positively and being cheerful. Maybe there was more to it than that, but that’s what I remember. I don’t know if the person who gave them to me was trying to tell me to hide my feelings, but I was extremely bad at that as a kid.

Years later, this same person berated themselves for grieving a cat they’d had for 15+ years. Lots of self-policing of emotions.

This has been so tiring to be around.

@PhoenixSerenity So it won’t shock you this person refused any conflict resolution I attempted, then. Though that seemed like a silent gen trait, from my experiences with other people my parents’ age.

And there were times they were being badly treated by others and acted completely oblivious since friends would never treat you badly…

I think autistic people are supposed to be bad at theory of mind stuff, and recognizing the emotions of others, but I think we can recognize when neurotypical people are “masking”. Or maybe that’s just anecdata.

@PhoenixSerenity My comment about autistic people being able to detect fake behaviour is more just a reaction to the long-standing belief that we don’t have such a skill. Who knows, maybe it’s a special interest for some of us who’ve been hurt in the past.

One weird hobby of mine is detecting (or, at least guessing at) fake behaviour in news articles. People lying for the grift, or taking advantage of people. This article had me thinking the author met their childhood bully only to be manipulated all over again, for example. https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/first-person-friends-with-high-school-bully-1.6886860

@Snowshadow hmm. I don’t know about the use of predatory loans in this context, but I believe the 2023 stats say 25% of Canadians experienced food insecurity, so it wouldn’t be a stretch. And it’s not like food is cheaper now.

There was legislation this year limiting these loans to 35% (formerly closer to 50%).

@ramiro I checked their instagram and there was a 2nd image

@GreenSkyOverMe the general is signing real ASL too. I've seen Reddit posts where people list her signs and their meanings