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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Monday, 12-May-2025 23:39:23 JST 
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Thursday, 08-May-2025 20:13:37 JST
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I just saw a video talking about how "men don't ask women for advice on dating because men bad".
Reality is, women will tell you what worked for them, but that's dumb advice for men because they're women -- the whole experience of being a woman is fundamentally different than being a man, especially in dating.
In college, my mom gave me advice like "Just talk to women on the bus!" Well she was a decent looking middle-aged woman at the time, she could just strike up a conversation, and most men would find her perfectly tolerable. Women's mental space isn't like that. Women are much more defensive, especially with strange men. The concept of a "Barrage of bore" of guys trying to get with a pretty girl every day from their 16th birthday onwards is real. Women typically have too many men expressing interest and need to pare down the number of men asking, most men outside of the top 1% typically don't have virtually any women expressing interest and need to gin up leads to have someone to accept or reject in the first place.
Eventually I did date, and I got married, and I had to use totally different techniques than women did because I'm not a woman. I had to figure out how to seem safe, how to seem interesting, and how to be fun.
In the book "Self-made man", Norah Vincent talks about dating in her man disguise. I read the book all the way back in 2005, and the chapter on dating was the descent into darkness for Vincent. She went into it going "Stupid men, I'm a lesbian, I'll show these stupid men how to get women", but the pain she experienced realizing how she was treated as a man was palpable. It was clear that the simple acts of getting a new haircut, wearing a suit, binding her chest, and gluing some stubble to her face put her in a completely different class of person and she didn't realize she was going to walk into something like that.
Many people have also completed the experience of creating a dating profile of the opposite sex to see what it's like, and for women they're shocked at the silence even when they made their dream guy, and for men they're shocked at how they're inundated by attention even when they make a horrible woman.
"Just be nice and respectful" -- no, just be nice and respectful and don't be a sycophant and don't be boring, be exciting and fun and make her feel like you could be dangerous but not to her. She wants you to be dominant but to walk a fine line where you're dominant without being domineering. It's a load of paradoxes because human beings are paradoxical.
The whole "nice guy" syndrome is in a sense a reaction to guys who did listen to women and get frustrated that the advice is bad. "I was fuckin nice just like you told me, and instead of getting a girlfriend I got a girl friend. This is bullshit I didn't want a girl friend." -- A woman who followed men's advice would likely face a similar but different frustration if she were following men's dating advice. She can't bang every guy who hits on her who seems nice. In fact, we do see that on dating apps, were women end up having sex with men who are really attractive, but they find they can't actually get a boyfriend, she just gets a friend with benefits.
By the way, I later realized that as a man I was filled with similar paradoxes. When a man hasn't had the girlfriend who wants sex all the time but actually all the time, the hot girlfriend who is also too crazy, the fun girlfriend who doesn't have any responsibility, you start to realize you don't want what you think you wanted.
Consider two groups. One lives in a fortress with a granary, the other lives on the steppe. What do you do if under attack? For the first group, you hunger down behind safe walls and eat your accumulated grain until the enemy loses interest and leaves. For the second group, you run away on your horses because you can probably outrun them. Both are legitimate tactics, but totally unapplicable to one another.
You can say "that's not fair!" -- but life isn't fair, and the quicker you learn that, the happier life will be. -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Wednesday, 07-May-2025 21:53:21 JST
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It turns out the real hacker known as 4chan was the friends we made along the way. -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Wednesday, 07-May-2025 19:25:57 JST
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I'm not allowed in professional men's sports.
Why?
Because I'm a big fat old guy without a speck of athletic capability.
I'm not gifted enough for the actual Olympics, not special enough for the special Olympics. But you know what, I bet you any money if I train for a few months and really clamp down I could probably beat a guy with no legs in a foot race.
Life isn't fair. -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Tuesday, 06-May-2025 06:24:35 JST
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I rather liked his channel in the beginning, but I don't think I've watched... I can't even think of how long it's been since I've watched. -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Saturday, 03-May-2025 04:26:18 JST
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Completed a really surprising repair today.
Someone had a dead SSD. Totally dead, not powering up, not showing up in the bios, nothing.
I did the rest where you feel for warm spots and it was painfully hot on a bank of capacitors. Caps were a dead short No way to replace them with my tools, parts, and skill, but it seemed like they could be removed without killing the drive so I removed one at a time until the short released. Drive fired back up. Was even able to boot up the original computer and removed critical files.
Surprising because I didn't think that'd actually work! -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Wednesday, 30-Apr-2025 12:41:15 JST
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No unlocked bootloaders, so I guess the e-waste will continue until conditions improve -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Tuesday, 29-Apr-2025 20:40:12 JST
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https://news.sky.com/story/child-damages-rothko-painting-worth-tens-of-millions-of-pounds-in-rotterdam-13358008
Child damages.... What the hell? Really? 40 million? I wouldn't want that poorly drawn test pattern on my wall if you paid me! -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Tuesday, 29-Apr-2025 19:19:35 JST
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What a twist!!! -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Tuesday, 29-Apr-2025 18:33:22 JST
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Apparently Canadians love tent cities, siezing dissidents bank accounts, Internet censorship, and American gangs.
That isn't Trump's fault. Apparently Canadians chose that for themselves. -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Tuesday, 29-Apr-2025 11:51:15 JST
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Meanwhile, people clap like trained seals for new projects that are going to hasten that collapse. -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Monday, 28-Apr-2025 12:14:55 JST
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Discord is like the dread pirate Roberts combined with a used car salesman. "I'll probably kill you tomorrow, you should buy nitro" -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Friday, 25-Apr-2025 19:27:08 JST
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Back in the 60s they tried to make a car that can use a turbine engine. Turbines have some really cool features that could make them more efficient than piston engines, and way fewer moving parts so they could last way longer, but they also don't really want to be doing what cars do, spinning up and down constantly to deal with the ups and downs of driving.
Seems like a big use case for generator electric, to be able to focus on building your turbine generator to be simple, reliable, and efficient.
Of course one problem with all this is if they build cars that last, nobody will need a new car every 5 years...
I have a set of PIAA silicone windshield wipers on my car. They've been on my car since February 2020 and they're still going strong. Anyone who has ever owned a car in a place that gets sun and snow in the same year will recognize that's an absolutely absurd amount of time to have the same set of windshield wipers. Nobody's trying to sell me a set of these, because replacing wiper blades every year is a useful business model. A turbine engine could potentially last for a million miles and only has a few parts. -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Friday, 25-Apr-2025 07:15:50 JST
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EVs as a class of vehicle are about a tenth as useful as a real car, so if teslas get down to about 1/10th of their normal price in the used market I'd probably even get one. -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Friday, 25-Apr-2025 07:15:41 JST
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ngl I can get behind that to a large extent without any politics at all. The guy's like a circus carney, and most of his fortune is from making people think he had a lot more success than he did. Has he *ever* met a deadline? -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Friday, 25-Apr-2025 07:00:08 JST
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Most of the time when you see so-called "Canadian Patrioism", it's just anti-Americanism.
I mean, consider that despite all these claims of patriotism, nobody seems to care all that much that China is basically going hard bareback on us. -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Friday, 25-Apr-2025 06:48:23 JST
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I can answer that one actually -- apparently if Donald Trump were to oppose it, then they're suddenly super nationalists.
At least, that's how they're running their campaigns in Canada. -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Thursday, 24-Apr-2025 18:56:19 JST
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Take_Five
You ever think you've found some neat little niche song that nobody else had heard of, only to find out it's the #1 top selling song of all time in its genre?
I will ask: Does a 66 year old song really need government copyright protection? Does a 66 year old song really need another 29 years of copyright protection? The guy who composed the song died in 1977. So he died, he could have had boomer kids, gen X grandkids, millennial great grandkids, zoomer great great grandkids, gen alpha great great great grandkids, gen beta great great great great grandkids, and gen gamma great great great great great grandkids who are finally cut off from the benefit of getting paid for a song written in the post world war 2 period. (the red cross gets the proceeds in the case of this song, but that's immaterial to my point) -- if the purpose of copyright is to promote the arts, I don't think the guy who died in 1977 is going to be producing more material just because there's another 29 years of copyright left on the song.
I put my money where my mouth is on this point. My books all have it in the legal page to release to the public domain 15 years after publication because if I can't make my money back in 15 years then maybe it just wasn't meant to be.
Honestly, my first book is now 3 years old, and I'm already at a point where I just want to move on from it. Creatively speaking, there's only so much you can extract from one work before it's just time to make something new. -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Wednesday, 23-Apr-2025 22:17:56 JST
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"remember: it is your patriotic duty to vandalize Tesla's"
I can't imagine how painful it must be to belong to these people's tribe.
I imagine taking the hit to buy an impractical 60,000 dollar virtue signal just to have the meta change before the payments are up, and suddenly I'm having my car which I bought to save the world vandalized.
How can you guys claim to have empathy for people who aren't like you when you don't even seem to have empathy for the people who are exactly like you? -
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sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Monday, 21-Apr-2025 12:24:51 JST
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The way to make it ok to murder innocent people is to convince them that they aren't innocent people, and in fact the devil.
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