Notices by Mx Amber Alex (she/it) 😷 (amberage@eldritch.cafe)

Hey, you.

Yes, you.

Don't beat yourself down. You're worth it. You deserve good things in life. You deserve to treat yourself, you don't have to punish yourself by living in misery!

Don't buy those cheap plastic coat hangers. Buy the good wooden ones.

@aral as much as I enjoy anti-slop outrage:

[citation needed]

Closed nearly 100 tabs, some open for over half a year. Can I get a hell yeah in the chat?

@schratze idk, do they?

@schratze I enter the five stages of grief because "business casual" is an atrocity and every other website defines it differently and nobody seems to know what it is and the interpretation depends heavily on context

I don't know anyone who can unambiguously define that dress code and that includes neurotypical people 😭

@annika cursed or brilliant, I can't decide xD and oh hello, another Nokia flip!

@ryanc am I to understand the CN to mean this is AI-generated?

Fabric knowers, I summon thee!

Lacking any detergent, can I use either of the following to hand-wash a shirt (white, cotton), and if so, which one is preferable?

• Bar of soap from the bathroom
• Liquid dish soap (for doing dishes by hand, not machine) (BLUE. IT IS VERY VERY BLUE. IS THAT GONNA STAIN?)

#AskFedi #Laundry

@ryanc …why not just prefix with the author's name? I.e. ~/bin/amber-mycoolcommand?

@nileane @annika @renchap the name is already misleading. It's simply not possible to implement "reply controls" in a federated protocol like AP.

At most, they could be reply filters. Just like blocking and to a degree even defederating amount to nothing more than muting with a better-sounding name, there is no way to prevent replies.

@CatsOfYore bf (photographer) and I (menswear enthusiast) took our best educated guess about the time frame and speculated it's probably mid-WWII.

• way more women than men, in particular no young men in sight, comparatively few kids, we think that suggests wartime
• bf is a photographer and said the photo (grain, sharpness or lack thereof, etc.) looks like 20s–40s to him, he's handled photographs from those eras
• mother holds her son still, so longer exposure time than our modern cameras can do, but visibly shot with a flash, which dates it post-WWI, he says
• fedora hats are worn, which really took off in Europe and America after the mid-20s, also puts it post-WWI. But I see a homburg hat in the middle, I think, which fell out of use by the 60s at the latest, much earlier for your average Joe, 30s or 40s seems more likely.
• suits are nothing special, very average cothing for the time, none of the guys are dressed formally per se (that homburg is the most of it) – this is stuff a guy would have worn to church back then, and to work too if he was working in an office or anything that didn't get you dirty. today's equivalent of a polo shirt and chinos, more or less.

The arrangement of the group, the presumed exposure time, the flash all suggest this was taken with a professional photographer.

bf points out there's not a lot of fur, only fur accents on the ladies' clothing in a time when the rich standard was to wear all fur; we're guessing this is a comparatively poor family dressing up for a family portrait and the cat photobombed them. i'm also reminded of family photos from parts of my family, a great-grandmother in particular, who definitely didn't have the money to dress particularly "well".

P.S.: bf points out the young lady's bob, which he says is specifically a 30s style

P.P.S.: It's likely (exceptions prove the rule etc) not in Britain. The guy on the right wears a tie whose stripes go diagonally (from the camera's point of view) from the top left to the bottom right; British ties are traditionally striped the other way (top right, bottom left, from the front). Could be American, idk enough about continental necktie traditions to say if it could as well be another European country, or elsewhere entirely.

A depressing amount of people are still stuck on "feminism is sticking it to the men" and this idea that feminism=anti-man has informed so much of the infighting bullshit on Tumblr… just today(!!) I saw posts about both how "trans men don't belong in feminism because they're men", and apparently that calliing cis men who aren't rapey machos "performative" is the new bullshit trend (because they read books by women and drink macha latte, so clearly they must be faking being left-wing to get laid).

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I gotta quote one of my favourite sentences paragraphs sections ever, from radical feminist* Monique Wittig:

Having stood up to fight for a sexless society, we now find ourselves entrapped in the familiar deadlock of “woman is wonderful.” […] It puts us in a position of fighting within the class “women” not as the other classes do, for the disappearance of our class, but for the defense of “woman” and its reinforcement.

[…]

What does “feminist” mean? […] For many of us it means someone who fights for women as a class and for the disappearance of this class.

[…]

Our fight aims to suppress men as a class, not through a genocidal, but a political struggle. Once the class “men” disappears, “women” as a class will disappear as well, for [insensitive racial analogy excised]

— Wittig, Monique (1992). "One Is Not Born a Woman". In The Straight Mind and Other Essays.

• before that word was debased and perverted to mean "entitled middle-class woman who hates trans people and knows fuck all about feminism"

@killyourfm came to the same realisation this week about Netflix – if I'd bought all the Star Trek DVD sets six years ago, I'd probably have spent less money than I spent on Netflix in the same time, and I'd still have Star Trek (which they're pulling from Netflix)

RE: https://chaos.social/@cr/115712439627609144

IT'S THIRTY YEARS OLD? AND PEOPLE STILL MANAGE TO NOT IMPLEMENT IT?

What in the fuck… I thought IPv6 was from, idk, 2015 or something

@ryanc @Cal oh well by that logic, TOS and TNG are sitcoms as well

@ryanc @Cal I'd argue that VOY takes itself the least serious out of all the 90s shows though. TNG wants to be big and serious, DS9 wants to be mostly serious starting with S3, VOY is just silly (we don't talk about the Borg episodes)

@Cal @ryanc DS9 definitely!

@Cal @ryanc though I can see it for Voyager… they're far less science/exploration/diplomacy focused than TNG, they're largely confined to the same setting to a higher degree than TNG, and they focus more on internal problems than external…

yeah no I can definitely see it now that I think about it!

This just occured to me as I unpacked the chili cheese nuggets I'm gonna have for breakfast.

These things come in a cardboard box, and then in a separate plastic wrapper inside. I guess it makes sense, you don't want freezer burn on your food, but it's still plastic trash for each box of these.

Manufacturers should be mandated to put reusable plastic bags in these (i.e. ziploc). They should be required to take them back and re-use them. There should be a deposit system on them.

Some plastic use cannot be eliminated, but where that's the case, single-use should be eliminated.

Petition to forbid stores from sending "your order has been shipped" emails until it has actually left their facility.

You printed a shipping label, sure, but DHL hasn't even picked it up yet. It's sitting in your warehouse with a barcode on it. That's not "shipped" you filthy liars.