This feels like an indictment of our society: women don't feel safe, so should we work on ending rape culture and patriarchy? Nah, just slap some glitter on the pepper spray so the girlies know it's for them. Found at target of all places. 😮💨
@hiisikoloart i've wondered this too - we have estrogen patches, are there npt equivalent ones for testosterone? I only hear talk about gel and injections most of the time, not oral or patches, which seems weird. Are these a thing? Is there a strong biological reason not to or just hasn't been prioritized?
This is kinda odd, but randomly at roughly five years into transition, I'm considering changing up my pronouns from she/they to they/she...which may not seem like much, but is still increasingly seemingly potentially meaningful for me.
For all my friends here, you know I'm a nonbinary trans woman and that ain't changing. I still have a strong sense of my own womanhood and of being "a woman *and* more." And there's so much relational meaning bound up in she/her and being treated as belonging as "one of the girls" through that.
...but then there's this thing that still happens to me, every time someone refers to me as "she," I still have to remind my brain they are talking about me. It's a lot closer and I see myself in it more than I ever did "he," but my brain doesn't register it automatically, and it's no longer just a matter of habit since I've been she/her for years now.
And when someone calls me "they," my brain immediately recognizes I'm being talked about. So...that's a thing?
It's about time that I got in on #MusicWomenWednesday (with @loewe ) and share the most recent band I've been obsessed with.
Artist: Bridge City Sinners (Frontperson: Libby, she/they)
Why? Describing this as "dark neofolk" doesn't really describe how they bring together diverse styles of vocals and instrumentation that pull both from metal and the dark sides of country and folk. Not to mention some of the songs really speak to those of us living with mental illness or otherwise on the margins.
Where to start?
"Devil Like You" cemented by obsession, telling the story of a murder most foul with just an earworm of a haunting chorus
Super random #music question: Are there any #HipHop or #Rap musical artists people would suggest that play with horror/dark fantasy/goth-y themes?
I just realized that while I know so many other genres that cross over into horror themes (from psychobilly to hyperpop), I can't name any that are more rooted in Hip Hop, Rap, or R & B. I gotta imagine that there's someone crossing over into these themes. I mean, MF Doom did amazing things playing with superhero and fantasy, gotta imagine there's someone who has done similar with horror.
Vwry important question: what is the best ideology for naps? What form of political economy best enables lazy, quiet afternoon siestas? What is the coziest social system to inhabit?
@ItsTrainingCatsAndDogs I'm honestly so heartened and joyful to see the biggest anti-war movement and student uprising in decades. It makes me particularly happy that they are showing up with specific demands and being consistent enough in their messaging that it is getting through the media sometimes. Makes me hopeful we'll have a movement that can actually disrupt and make change soon
@NeonPurpleStar@rooster I found courage by finding a one-piece with a little skirt. For transfems, definitely suggest something like that as it can be so affirming and help feel more secure around potential bulges/etc.
@rooster Also, I did not realize that a queer lady in denim shorts going to home depot was apparently a thing that is very very attractive...you might have awakened something in me 😅
Random thought: When people started sharing artist's work without their permission on Napster, there was a freakout by corporations and wealthy artists, and it was criminalized. When corporations started sharing artist's work without their permission through "AI," laws were changed to make it easier and corporations forced it on everyone.
It's almost like whoever owns the means of production will bend the media and government to increase their profits without regard to a consistent ethos. And that whatever they do will be at odds with the interests of those that actually do the work to produce things. Hmmmm.... 🧐
TRANS FEM FRIENDS: What do you wish you could say to the person you were before transition who thought it was impossible to ever actually be a girl or be fem?
I sometimes think back and find myself at a loss at what would have supported that girl best. She was so sad, hopeless, and often dissociated or in fight/flight/freeze/fawn over her distress with how she felt like she couldn't fit in the world. And like, I know "it gets better" or "it really is possible" wouldn't have gotten through.
I talk to a lot of young trans folks who go through this still every day, and so would appreciate others thoughts on this!
@lkanies@luckytran wait...if it's just people wash their hands when eating or after they use the restroom, this headline is backwards: all other generations are disgusting and need to wash their freaking hands after using the bathroom! I'm guessing it was a guy over 40 who wrote that?
Okay, here it goes, hot take on messy progesterone brain: I get really really irked when I see middle class, educated, white trans people complain about Drag.
And I apologize, I love you friends, but this is something I've heard over and over and everything I hear people say is so damn wrong. And I'm going to just rant at you for a hot second so maybe my stupid adhd trauma brain will let me sleep.
Who are the majority of drag performers? BIPOC working class gender non-conforming queer people.
Who are the majority of people in the audience at most drag shows? Gays, lesbians, and trans people, many of then working class.
How do I know? Because I actually participate in gay and lesbian communities in person in multiple countries.
Drag queens raise tens of thousands of dollars for trans youth in San Diego every year. For that matter, drag artists are the ushers, crowd control, and go-fers that make local lgbtq events run.
@amberage@ShadowJonathan this is why I apologize to all my family and friends...they insist they enjoy it for some masochistic reason...I will inflict my unstoppable exposition upon them anyway 😅
So... there's a new Harley Quinn game (supposedly there's like, some other guys and a shark in it too?). Don't be surprised if I am mysteriously quiet for like a week...
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