Notices by Joscelyn Transpiring (joscelyntransient@chaosfem.tw)

Friendly reminder: ACAB means the language and tone police too. Kill the cop in your head.

One of the ways I know transphobes have never actually known a trans person in real life is that they think we make lots of demands on others, insist on taking up space, and don’t care about inconveniencing others. Like, anyone who has known or cared about a trans person knows it is like pulling teeth to get them to reach out or allow others in for support. Almost all of us are all carrying the trauma of having internalized the message that asking to exist as ourselves is such an imposition on others we have been afraid to do it most of our lives.

Like, is there a single trans person on the fedi who has not said at least once that they feel like a burden if they express any of their needs or desires, much less even ask others to use the correct pronouns for them?

Meanwhile, most transphobes think that it’s discrimination against them for other people to exist.

Guess what time it is? That's right: begpost time! 😅

Being once more out of a job, one of the upsides is that I have time to write and create again. I actually just recorded to trial podcast episodes with one of my besties, and already have some writing brewing. Which you can support by subscribing to my patreon!

One thing that is going to be different this time around is that I am going to be using a pseudonym: Mallory Sinn.

I won't be linking these publicly beyond a few autodelete posts because I want to feel free to write about topics that could become liabilities in the job hunt, like kink and such.

Follow my new account for sharing what I'm creating: @mallory_sinn

And help support me on the new patreon: patreon.com/MallorySinn

I think one thing the cis world doesn't get about trans fems: we desperately want to just have someone take care of us for once.

People often say things like "Trans women are women," which okay, yeah, but they don't actually understand what we live with. So many of us, only a year or two into our transitions, are expected not only to know everything about ourselves and be able to give a full accounting of who we are and what we want and have all our ducks in rows to provide for it financially by ourselves, but we are often being asked to mother baby transes (babies raising babies) and nurturing our families too.

And having been treated as men before coming out, we often experiencing a touch and care deficit, with so few people seeing us as needing care or being able to accept it. And where cis women sometimes have cis gal pals to lean on, many of us don't have that and few cis women step up to treat us like one of the girls.

TLDR: If you got a trans fem in your life, offer to give her a massage. Offer to take her out and do all the planning. Offer to just let her snuggle in some blankets with a book or game and you'll bring her snacks and hot beverages. Offer to hold her as she cries. Offer to her to let go for a moment and just not have to be on top of everything. Offer her head pats.

In the last week, I’ve been told at work that I talk to much, implied that I am incompetent, and that my tone is aggressive and not “collaborative and aligned”…how much you wanna bet I’m going to be told I dress too slutty by the end of the week? 😅😖

Seriously, the transmisogyny from these cis women and cis-adjacent women is showing. Ugh.

Whelp, and they fired me. So um…guess my ptsd was right in the money.

Also, probably going to be bringing my patreon back online and going to be getting back into writing full time if folks want to support

By the EOD today, I expect you all to submit a list demonstrating five things you did to contribute to the gay agenda this week. This includes any proof you have that you've helped increase our production of lesbians. Failure to do this will result in you being removed from membership in the gay agenda and being forever forced to be straight.

There’s not enough lesbians in the world just being cute and gay with each other. I demand more sapphics, dammit! You are all falling short on your production quotas for the gay agenda, and this will be reflected in your performance review.

Huh, I’m starting to wonder if putting someone in power to run the government like a business because he played a businessman on reality TV may have not been a great idea? Almost like doing that was exactly the worst decision from a purely economic standpoint? Huh. Weird.

On a serious note: folks, things are going to get really tough for the most financially vulnerable. If you can, get involved in your local mutual aid org to help keep people fed, clothed, and having access to medicine. We’re going to need to take care of each other because the state is actively cutting what little supports may have kept people afloat otherwise.

Remember trans friends: wait until tomorrow to commit crimes because today is #TransDayOfVisibility and our invisibility superpowers are deactivated!

Israel just straight up broke the ceasefire. And I am seeing people in "peacebuilding" spaces still try to do apologetics for them and blame Hamas. Netanyahu's government is and has been the problem for over a decade. This is horrific and so fucking wrong.

https://apnews.com/article/israel-palestinians-hamas-war-ceasefire-hostages-netanyahu-ff48f081b069e484955a72bc68261364

Important lesson from Poison Ivy: stop punishing whoever is convenient, and let’s go after those responsible.

@Cassandra @skinnylatte now I’m wondering what the most *exciting* word to read in braille on the clit would be 🤔🤭

Wanna help #TransYouth in the US right now?

Donate to help us buy gender-affirming items for them! Our org's GenderJunk program has seen a huge jump in demand for gender-affirming items, and we need help to expand our capacity.

Our program purchases and sends gender-affirming items to trans, non-binary, and gender diverse youth (age 30 and under) for FREE to those that can't afford it or lack family support. This includes everything from binders to makeup to wigs to packers and STPs!

With medical transition becoming increasingly hard to access, gender-affirming items are a life-changing support to those in need right now.

https://secure.givelively.org/donate/transfamily-support-services

#Trans #Transgender #ProtectTransYouth #TransKids #Queer

Now that I have red hair, I feel like the blond girlie may not be an accurate representation…and I am left in the ambiguity of Simpsons-colored emoji person, unable to be visualized!?!

Wait…I just realize that the person emojis have a variety of skin and hair colors….but no redheads? Gingers don’t even get an emoji??? 🙍♀️🙍🏻♀️🙍🏼♀️🙍🏽♀️🙍🏾♀️🙍🏿♀️

Or is it that I’m beyond the false dichotomies and arbitrary boxes the oligarchs have imposed?! I am incomprehensible to the machine and its masters! I am…a redhead.

Some good trans news: We just helped defeat a local measure in San Diego County trying to ban trans youth in sports!

So many people came out to oppose the measure and stand up for trans kids, and thousands of e-comments opposing the item. There are people who see us right now and will stand up for us. More and more people are putting their own comfort and necks on the line for trans people and especially trans kids.

More and more, I genuinely believe we can win, especially in local areas.

Friends, I have a favor to ask: please start doing something to help the trans community.

One of my mentors finally said it to me today: when you step back, you give someone else the opportunity to step up.

My dayjob allows me to do things that most folks never get a chance to do to help and make a difference. This is where I can do the most with what limited time and energy I have. But I still feel like I'm falling short, because there is so much work that needs doing right now to take care of each other or that allies can do to help out.

So please, if you are cis and care, get involved in the local groups that are organizing to push back and resist the attacks on trans and queer folks. Help organize a fundraiser for your local LGBTQ center. Get involved in local organizations like PFLAG or GLSEN where you can help push local school boards, city councils, and others to make a difference.

If you are trans, we all gotta step up to care for each other right now. I need others to step up and help with the emotional labor we give each other - reach out and make yourself actively available to talk to and support. Organize a local trans potluck and get folks talking about what you can do to make a difference. Have whatever queer friends you know over for a game night and start building up connections.

I know we are all struggling right now, but I am pushing myself too far and need to step back more. Please, take this opportunity and step up my friends. 💖