Notices by Joscelyn Transpiring (joscelyntransient@chaosfem.tw), page 2

Huh, there’s a very strange lump in our rug…

What does the immediate motive for the Minneapolis school shooting seem to be?

An extremist fandom subculture.

For those that don’t know, there is an online subculture that practices obsessive fandom of mass shooters. They call themselves TCC for “True Crime Community” (not the general sense of the term of people who watch or listen to true crime shows). Many have said the shooter’s videos and journals seem incoherent or contradictory because they are looking for an ideology, but that’s because it’s not about ideology in the classic sense. This subculture obsesses about school shooters and mass shooters, creates memes about them (the shooter’s guns and journals had tons of internet memes, including the Loss meme), they cosplay as school shooters (this is why there are kmfdm stickers and shirts in the shooter’s videos, and they talked about putting together a school shooter cosplay), and they encourage each other to imitate the shooters by doing one.

It’s of note that this subculture actually is more likely to produce shooters who are women or of other minority groups. This shooter referenced on her gun a girl who committed a school shooting that was a part of TCC. There have been other women and girls who have attempted or made plans to coming out of this space. And there was also a “Black white supremacist” who committed mass violence too from TCC.

It also appears that the shooter was exposed to or spent time around anti-trans detransitioner rhetoric. They were no longer identifying as a woman, and were talking about detransitioning because they can’t ever “actually” be a girl. If anything, this shows how anti-trans rhetoric and policies feed hopelessness and isolation, making individuals more vulnerable to radicalization.

All in all, this points to the desperate need to continue creating spaces that bring in and help young marginalized folks connect and feel like they have a life and a future. Isolation and hatred make them vulnerable and we can do something about that.

What I shared above is based upon reporting by cool zone media on the It Could Happen Here podcast, which is run by multiple journalists who have spent a decade reporting on mass shooters.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/it-could-happen-here/id1449762156?i=1000723977829

Taking abnormal psych and discussing the 4 D’s of “abnormal”: Deviance, Dysfunction, Danger, and Distress.

Hmmm…sounds like my dating profile… 🤪

The phrase “living in sin” really needs to come back, cause gosh howdy, I live in soooo many sins. Sure, I am married and live with my spouse, but I wear mixed fabrics, I work on the sabbath, and am known to regularly engage in “abominations” if you know what I mean. 😉

I can no longer read the word “gridlock” correctly…

@alice when someone falls down in the pit, we pick them back up. Kindness is the core of punk ethos.

I would really like specific blog posts, videos, or excerpts if people can share them. I'm trying to get an idea of what are some of the specific points and topics that people want to have shared or understood these days.

I am helping a professor develop a resource that I will include info on other resources as bridge for people learning more, but it needs to be something that can be used within the space of a lesson or two in a broader course. For example, what I'm trying to help them replace is an article from more than a decade ago that is now a dead link that was called "10 things I wish cis people would stop saying to trans people." A lot of what is in there is what we had to deal with over a decade ago, like questions about genitals or microaggressions. But the reality is, the landscape has shifted dramatically and I want to develop something and connect to resources that will be helpful for where things stand now.

Like Tyla in this thread gave a useful suggestion to bring to the front the way racism and transphobia intersect and are interwoven, which is exactly the kind of thing I think would be a helpful addition to these resources right now.

TRANS FOLKS: what are some of your favorite “I wish cis people would read/watch this” resources?

Not talking about 101 “what is trans” stuff, but instead the pieces that help people understand how to be better to trans people or help them empathize better.

#Trans #Queer

Just a reminder to folks, especially if you are sexually or intimately active with others: PreP is a medication that greatly reduces your chance of contracting HIV and reduces the transmission of it if you are exposed. It is safe, and there are places that will offer it for free in most parts of the US, Canada, Europe, and many other regions in the world.

The biggest side effect is nausea. If you take pills, that usually goes away after two weeks, but there is now a shot version that reduces those side effects. The shot can also be helpful if you happen to be a forgetful disaster who misses her pills sometimes like me!

By being on PreP, you are protecting yourself, your loved ones, and your community, and it is one of the easiest ways you can help.

After almost two weeks with my cishet friends, I had to recharge my gay. Gay successfully imbibed:

I had my first innocent little kid asking if I was a boy or a girl yesterday. 😅

Honestly, I didn’t actually mind it and my friend helped field the question and explained what it means to be trans. She explained, “when she was little she was a boy, but she grew up to be a woman!”And this little boy was in awe and said, “wait, that can happen?” Hehe, sooooo cute!

To be fair, my Japanese still sounds more masculine and I am REALLY tall for the average woman here in Japan. I didn’t really mind it any and the kids we were working with were adorable if chaotic

Oh my gosh, I found a Gacha machine with Ranma 1/2 mini plushies! Sooooo cute!

#NatsukashiiNatsu

Ended up talking with several Japanese lesbians last night and getting a sense of how lesbian community works here. Tonight I’m meeting up with a an old friend, but might pop back over to Agit in Nichome again tonight. Such a great vibe!

#NatsukashiiNatsu

On Tuesday, I was able to realize a dream I’ve had for so long: I was able to wear yukata and be pretty while enjoying a temple and delicious food!

It was so much fun being in that Yukata shop with other girls and the aunties fussing over us, getting us all prettied up. And sharing it all with one of my oldest friends. oh, and also…I WAS A PRETTY GIRL LOOKING GIRLY AND CUTE IN A YUKATA IN THE SUMMER!?!

#NatsukashiiNatsu

Today I learned: the Nucleus Accumbens is the area of the brain that is most active during joy and pleasures, so this may be literally the part of the brain where gender euphoria happens!

Am I using this toot to memorize parts of the limbic system for class? Yes. And I will keep leveraging random thoughts I share with you all to remember things.

Also, maybe I’ll use terrible pick-up lines as a mnemonic:
“Are you my nucleus accumbens? Cause I’m ready to give you pleasure all night long” 🤣

Friendly reminder: ACAB means the language and tone police too. Kill the cop in your head.

One of the ways I know transphobes have never actually known a trans person in real life is that they think we make lots of demands on others, insist on taking up space, and don’t care about inconveniencing others. Like, anyone who has known or cared about a trans person knows it is like pulling teeth to get them to reach out or allow others in for support. Almost all of us are all carrying the trauma of having internalized the message that asking to exist as ourselves is such an imposition on others we have been afraid to do it most of our lives.

Like, is there a single trans person on the fedi who has not said at least once that they feel like a burden if they express any of their needs or desires, much less even ask others to use the correct pronouns for them?

Meanwhile, most transphobes think that it’s discrimination against them for other people to exist.

Guess what time it is? That's right: begpost time! 😅

Being once more out of a job, one of the upsides is that I have time to write and create again. I actually just recorded to trial podcast episodes with one of my besties, and already have some writing brewing. Which you can support by subscribing to my patreon!

One thing that is going to be different this time around is that I am going to be using a pseudonym: Mallory Sinn.

I won't be linking these publicly beyond a few autodelete posts because I want to feel free to write about topics that could become liabilities in the job hunt, like kink and such.

Follow my new account for sharing what I'm creating: @mallory_sinn

And help support me on the new patreon: patreon.com/MallorySinn

I think one thing the cis world doesn't get about trans fems: we desperately want to just have someone take care of us for once.

People often say things like "Trans women are women," which okay, yeah, but they don't actually understand what we live with. So many of us, only a year or two into our transitions, are expected not only to know everything about ourselves and be able to give a full accounting of who we are and what we want and have all our ducks in rows to provide for it financially by ourselves, but we are often being asked to mother baby transes (babies raising babies) and nurturing our families too.

And having been treated as men before coming out, we often experiencing a touch and care deficit, with so few people seeing us as needing care or being able to accept it. And where cis women sometimes have cis gal pals to lean on, many of us don't have that and few cis women step up to treat us like one of the girls.

TLDR: If you got a trans fem in your life, offer to give her a massage. Offer to take her out and do all the planning. Offer to just let her snuggle in some blankets with a book or game and you'll bring her snacks and hot beverages. Offer to hold her as she cries. Offer to her to let go for a moment and just not have to be on top of everything. Offer her head pats.