Notices by Thommy (thomasjwebb@mastodon.social)

One of the tangential things mentioned in Graeber and Wengrow's Dawn of Everything that stuck with me was the mention that it's common throughout time and space for people to not necessarily like their own family and to form other identities unrelated to blood relation, sometimes spanning entire continents. Found family isn't a new thing and neither is having complex, overlapping identities. Something to keep in mind if you're guilted by "tradition" into spending time with family you don't like.

@xenotar I love how in the end, neither of the parents who fought for custody got to have him in a sense.

Italy also has interesting rules for last names. Apparently they have a streamlined way for men at least to go by their mother's last name. My great-grandfather didn't formally do that, but at some point after moving to the US, he decided to use his mother's last name without undergoing any legal name change process.

@dalias @carnage4life it's no accident that one of the scariest social medias is nextdoor.

@fesshole I'm sure he ate mujadara.

@inthehands this is very much my reasoning for why I don't fully buy that cis het people exist. I mean practically speaking they do and they're the majority, but the ideals might not actually describe anyone.

I think even if you were to try clustering things, it would be multiple clusters, not one big cluster around the means of all the parameters.

Adjustable seats is a great metaphor for freedom in general. You can't paternalistically design society for everyone even if you wanted to.

@JessTheUnstill yeah I totally agree with this. I liked the old school philosophy of making sure that your oss package can `./configure && make` on any OS ever, but the dockerization of everything has resulted in devs getting lazy about this. It's even reduced the amount of help I'm able to find when googling when something doesn't work. What really sucks is when a server project's official recommendation is to just run their official docker (especially when I'm trying to run in a freebsd jail).

@skinnylatte oftentimes their prices are ridiculous but Brooklyn Film Camera perhaps

@fesshole I would totally tell my wife if I noticed that because I'm weird.

RE: https://mastodon.social/@dansup/115406509835241848

Only old people like me still microblog. Kids are doing short video social media and tiktok is run by right-wing propagandists. So in a sense this project could be more impactful than the rest of the fediverse.

@dansup is there an allow-list mode? I want to set up an instance that starts out not federated but slowly start adding servers to federate with.

@Impossible_PhD it's so often that reporting on studies on trans people say the opposite of what the actual study says. So this basically says trans kids are no more likely than cis kids to switch between those things. Which is pretty much the opposite of Jesse Singal's bizarre misunderstanding.

@skinnylatte oh yeah that’s a good one. My favorite is avail as NA (Black Butte) but not near me 😭

@skinnylatte what's your favorite NA beer? I don't completely avoid alcohol, but I often have that as I don't feel like it.

@fesshole one of the more common places to have extra nipples.

@killyourfm yeah, people not from the area always focus on the most popular places. There were certainly people on the trail but not crowded at all. And more shade closer to the shore so much more my kind of vibes. I guess Tahoe is nice if you're into beaches you can lay around at. I just want trees and a body of water to make the air moist. I'd often see this dynamic living up in the mountains. People would crowd into popular campsites like Table Mountain, but Guffy would always be sparse.

@killyourfm nice! It's becoming a good time of the year for going into the mountains. I was just hiking at Spooner Lake, a tiny lake just to the East of Lake Tahoe.

@dansup I’m definitely considering blocking multiple jurisdictions now. We’re less safe if anything.

"I'm a villain from a dystopian sci-fi. Gimme money!" is a weird angle and weirder that it sells to a certain audience who we're led to believe are experts at putting money in all the right places.

It's wild that some people in the tech industry *want* us to believe that they have sapient beings running on their computers which, if true, would make them guilty of slavery.

@inthehands I've watched SP off and on since it first came on and yeah I've always had issues with their worldview. It's always had its moments. A lot of my issues has also just been with their audience. Like they'd make a valid point, but the audience takes it in a totally different direction.

Like, the "niccce" episode was criticizing callousness about CSA but people just played that straight. "Stunning and brave" was making fun of sanctimony, not trans people though SP is often transphobic.