Notices by Athena (athena@chaosfem.tw)

good to print off a few copies in case your ISP has an outage and you need to send some packets in an emergency

You may hear discussions about trans kids in schools and the ways teachers are required to treat them. When thinking about and discussing this, please understand:

The presence of 1 (one) accepting adult in a trans kid’s life - literally any adult, not just family - reduces their risk of suicide attempts by roughly 40%.

You know how it feels when you walk through a spiderweb and you catch it right in the face? You get the immediate, visceral disgust reaction and try to GET IT OFF as quick as possible.

But like, nobody can really see it. You can’t see it well, so you kind of flail around trying to catch enough of it to get it off of you, and everyone just sees you flailing around is like “what’s up with them??” cause they can’t see it either.

And then even after you get off (which is such a relief!!) it still sometimes feels like there’s some caught in your hair (even if there isn’t) or something crawling on you (even if there isn’t), which makes you mess around even more trying to get rid of it.

Anyway, gender dysphoria is like having a spiderweb on your face your entire life and transition is flailing around trying to get it off.

Thanks to my transmasc friend Ty who has no public online presence for this analogy.

Gov’t tries to drive as many trans kids as possible to suicide: i sleep

Gov’t kidnaps people from their homes and sends them to concentration camps: i sleep

Govt disregards every restriction and regulation about the treatment of people’s data: i sleep

Gov’t accidentally texts war plans to a reporter: REAL SHIT

@doskel my conspiracy theory is that it’s because everyone likes getting to say “scuzzy”

Blew past the Comcast data cap less than 14 hours into March, lol. Gotta love a 1G connection with a 1.2T cap

(this is fine, the overage is capped at a cost I can easily afford and I’ve been planning to do so)

@RamenCatholic ah the delights of federated social media. Lovely.

Responsibility (I don’t think “blame” is a useful concept, generally) for the actions of a country’s leaders is a complicated topic, but I don’t think we even need to get into that here. The original statement was that “not all americans” is equivalent to “not all men” or “not all white people”, phrases which are nominally good sentiments (as you note in the analogous countries example, there are some good men and good white people [too damn few, on both counts]) but in practice are almost exclusively used to absolve a member of the problematic group of any responsibility whatsoever because they don’t like the stuff the people in their group is doing.

That seems to be how “not all Americans” type sentiments are being used today, complete the same gross, evasive connotations as “not all men” etc. Like white supremacy impacts me too and I do what I can to fight it but that doesn’t mean I get to whip out “not all white people” to make myself feel better when a person of color is telling people off.

@RamenCatholic, there hasn’t been an “ally” in this thread since TheFwGuy two posts above your first so I am left mystified as to how your original comment here is meant to accomplish that goal.

@RamenCatholic Understandable. Please do it, going forward, by means other than telling trans folks to think of the feelings of cis people (all the previous people Jess was replying to, to be clear).

@RamenCatholic
Yeah I’d like some of that as a trans person living in terror.

Instead the main things I get are gaslighting that it isn’t that bad, tone policing, and lectures about thinking of the feelings of cis people. Fuck you.

@RamenCatholic
all that shit applies to me. I live in america, I tried to stop it, I’m trans and definitely in a target group.

stop fucking saying “he isn’t my president”. that’s delusional bullshit; he is your president and my president and the president of everyone in the us until and unless we fucking do something about it instead of pretending the spirit of the Rule of Law is going to descend from the heavens like an eagle and save us

if you don’t like being grouped in with everyone else in the us, too fucking bad
@JessTheUnstill

who needs a diary when your fedi app has a drafts function

@puppygirlhornypost2 commercial software folks get so weird when someone wants to pop the hood and just directly use the underlying API; this attitude has been getting more and more common at work despite nominally being an API-driven product and I think it’s a big source of dissonance with my current role. I tell coworkers to send me info about a problem they’re having and they send me a screenshot of the UI and I’m like, you’re a fucking professional software engineer asking questions about the API send me the fucking API response you’re asking about

anyway this has all been my very ADHD way of saying “yeah that’s my experience with most software…”

@RainofTerra if anyone reading the replies wants inspiration, I posted the comment I submitted here: https://chaosfem.tw/@Athena/114039922072143335

@puppygirlhornypost2 recently @ryanc has been posting about having a passport with an X successfully renewed under the last admin, but waited for pickup at an embassy until this admin, at which point it was destroyed

(IIRC, please correct me if I’m wrong)

LTO-8 Track Tapes

@elilla as I understand it elon musk wants to maintain the supply of cheap tech labor from overseas and bannon is far too racist to accept that, is roughly the shape of things

I dunno, it doesn’t really impact anything we’re doing so like sure, you and him fight I guess, I hope they tear each others guts out but I’m not going to count on it

Tell me trans YouTubers. All of them. I am most interested in niche creators, but anyone that isn’t a pick-me punching down on the rest of us, really. Any genre as long as the creator is openly any kind of non-cis.

If any other trans hams are interested in it, the call N0EGG is gonna be available on March 17

YSK playing Tetris for a while (20 minutes in the study I’m gonna link) immediately (<6h) after a traumatic incident can disrupt the formation of visual/spatial memories associated with the trauma and reduce post-traumatic symptoms. Probably any game that requires visual/spatial thinking and holds focus we’ll would work, but like, might as well just keep a copy of Tetris on your phone just in case you or someone else might need it. I recommend an emulator and a copy of a console ROM so you don’t have to deal with ads or whatever in the current official Tetris apps. Even if this is BS it’s not like it’ll be harmful either.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5822451/