@mycorrhiza I don't think it gives numbers, but imho Cohen's "The New Millenium" is still a great read on this, just in case you haven't encountered it yet
A couple of days ago @girlonthenet linked to a posting about "the romance of being single", and I found much beauty in it, and it made me ache for London where I had many days just like the ones she describes (sans bike).
But it also got me thinking about how much of what she describes as the pleasures of freedom don't require singledom so much as just *not cohabiting* and maybe not doing the whole daily messaging song and dance. And living that life is possible both within and without romantic relationships, no?
And then that Rilke quote came to my mind,
"I hold this to be the highest task of a bond between two people: that each should stand guard over the solitude of the other. "
I know many people find that Xitter has become an unreadable grifter nazi hell hole, but I just looked at my timeline over there, the "Following" one, and it was so full with beautiful #art that I got sad. Filling my feed with just a shitload of amazing art from past and present is one of the things I have not been able to recreate over here, not nearly to the same degree. And yes I know about the relevant hashtags and art focused servers and all that.
...but afaict especially the art history bots that I love so much are just not here. There were a whole bunch of them a while ago at arthaus.social, but that somehow fell asleep, and I have not seen any similar endeavors anywhere since 😢 I dearly miss my daily dose of Zinaida Serebriakova, or Fantin-Latour, or anyone propagating Stephen Ellcock's curations, or the artistsofcolour account, or all the art accounts retweeting each others' most beautiful images.
It's a bit funny to me that as many people had been calling Xitter a "hellsite" already for years, it was actually easier for me to fill my feed with things that give me joy over there than it is here. And somehow also less aggressively depressing things. Yes, I put quite a bit of thought & effort into how I curated things over there. I do the same here. But somehow here is harder for me.
Ok das hat zwischen Anfaellen von "wenn schon dann richtig" und "ups, es passieren ja auch noch andere Dinge im Leben" etwas laenger gedauert als gedacht, aber. Die Fahne haengt! Und zwar richtig 😊 . Rundum mit Hutband verstaerkt und jedes Loch genietet und zu meiner Ueberraschung ist die Fahne auch noch groesser im Verhaeltnis zum Scheunentor als ich geschaetzt hatte 😁
[Edit: oh wow das Geld ist über Nacht vollständig eingetrudelt! Ich bestelle heute die Fahne.]
Ich lebe in einem Dorf in dem 23% #NoAfd und 42% CDU gewählt haben - hat jemand Lust die antifaschistische Propaganda für mein Scheunentor zu finanzieren?
Aber auch: wir müssen die Fahne noch etwas modifzieren, damit sie so aufgehängt werden kann wie angedacht, hat bisher nur an einer kurzen Seite die richtigen Löcher/Ringe. Und das soll ja zumindest potentiell schon halten, also direkt tackern is nich...
Zwischenstand: ich fuhr mit der Fahne zur Änderungsschneiderei um sie an allen Seiten statt nur einer mit Metallösen zu versehen, aber die Änderungsschneiderei meinte sie könnten das nicht machen, weil es dazu eine extra Maschine braucht die sie nicht haben. Und wer hier in der Gegend so eine Maschine hat konnten sie nicht sagen.
Jetzt erstmal unklar ob wir statt dessen direkt tackern, was die Fahne wahrscheinlich eher kurzlebig machen würde, oder nochmal weiter suchen.
Grmpf outside still looks like summer but inside this old stone house it definitely isn't anymore. But I don't want to start the whole chopping wood & firing up stove routine yet 😭 Time to get out the hot bottles.