Notices by play in progress (playinprogress@assemblag.es)

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Naming cardiovascular and auto-immune diseases "lifestyle diseases" when often they might better be understood and treated as diseases of stress, trauma, and living in a poisoned environment, is a very peculiar framing. Making it sound as if we have choices and individual control about exactly those factors that we in fact have the least control over.

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@simsa03 as you know, and is hard to explain, this house is really *dense* in some ways. not just as a space drenched in its residents' memories but other people's memories, too. it definitely sometimes whelms me quite a bit

@simsa03 Still, I want my own books out of the basement dammit lol.

And my father *wrote* enough books as testaments of his mind at different points in time so that the books he "merely" *read* should be easier to part with...

@simsa03 there is a bunch of stuff that probably my mother originally bought but feels not "hers" as much as "this used to belong to a state of this household that no longer exists". Lots of blankets and such. Tbh I think my own confusion and attachments are probably the biggest hindrance here.

As in, *I* am probably more attached to my father's books than he is. In part because they represent a sort of record of his mind in different states from now.

@simsa03 thank you for your thoughts! I think some things are a bit different than your assumptions though - my mother has actually been reasonably diligent in getting more and more of her stuff out of here. And my father very explicitly does not care about most of the things outside his own room or upstairs - he says if he can't even remember it is there or that it is his (which is true for most of it) I can do with it whatever I want.

Does anyone here have a howto for uncluttering the accumulated stuff of other people?

I live in this house in which my father has been living in for 50+ years, and my mother for 30, and they are still alive but have both in a way abdicated their responsibility for most of the stuff in here... and it is doing my head in. But I do not know where/how to even start, and all the decisions to make make me collapse from decision fatigue before I even get there...

begonia

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I have a new better LED arting desk lamp \o/

I hear it making annoying high-pitched sounds when my ears are not plugged and I am not listening to music /o\

#actuallyAutistic

summer morning, waking up

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Was recently reminded of the ubiquity of the sentence "[person] is only doing it for attention" in care contexts and how deeply I hate it. It is almost always used as a justification for cruelty. It dismisses the distress that person is in, serving as an excuse not to do anything about it. But it is also hiding how *even if* the person was actually primarily doing "it" "for attention", attention itself is a legitimate need that people in institutions of care are often profoundly deprived of.

@mycorrhiza I don't think it gives numbers, but imho Cohen's "The New Millenium" is still a great read on this, just in case you haven't encountered it yet

@simsa03 I don't think it is from a poem, iirc it is from 'Letters to a Young Poet', quoted among other places here: https://www.themarginalian.org/2018/09/03/rilke-love-marriage/

A couple of days ago @girlonthenet linked to a posting about "the romance of being single", and I found much beauty in it, and it made me ache for London where I had many days just like the ones she describes (sans bike).

https://www.girlonthenet.com/blog/single-life-romance/

But it also got me thinking about how much of what she describes as the pleasures of freedom don't require singledom so much as just *not cohabiting* and maybe not doing the whole daily messaging song and dance. And living that life is possible both within and without romantic relationships, no?

And then that Rilke quote came to my mind,

"I hold this to be the highest task of a bond between two people: that each should stand guard over the solitude of the other. "

@GreenSkyOverMe tbh I am still a bit confused by the existence of monosexuals myself

@clarity I first encountered one member of Various Guises as she was singing in a stairwell with delicious reverb in London: https://variousguises.bandcamp.com/album/tide-take-him

@simsa03 "Here I am because of people, there I am because of topics."
- yes that pretty much sums it up

I know many people find that Xitter has become an unreadable grifter nazi hell hole, but I just looked at my timeline over there, the "Following" one, and it was so full with beautiful #art that I got sad. Filling my feed with just a shitload of amazing art from past and present is one of the things I have not been able to recreate over here, not nearly to the same degree. And yes I know about the relevant hashtags and art focused servers and all that.