@simsa03 there is a bunch of stuff that probably my mother originally bought but feels not "hers" as much as "this used to belong to a state of this household that no longer exists". Lots of blankets and such. Tbh I think my own confusion and attachments are probably the biggest hindrance here.
As in, *I* am probably more attached to my father's books than he is. In part because they represent a sort of record of his mind in different states from now.