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   Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 11:17:54 JST Adrianna Tan

   I think I can live quite happily in most major east coast cities. It would take a lot for me to move to another west coast city. Just vibes. I like density

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 11:33:09 JST Adrianna Tan

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     @occvlt I love Boston! Aw have a great trip. See you next time!

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     occvlt (occvlt@m.sanctv.net)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 11:33:10 JST occvlt

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     @skinnylatte how are you enjoying Boston? Sad I can’t make tomorrow’s meetup. I’ll be on a little New England island in the Atlantic for a week and my ferry leaves at noon.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:24:41 JST Adrianna Tan

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     @fembot the west coast has a lot of things going for it, density is not one. i don't think that's insulting? it's a fact!

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     ● (fembot@mstdn.social)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:24:43 JST ●

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     @skinnylatte Power to you! But why insult an entire coast?

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:38:29 JST Adrianna Tan

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     i think i spent the last 7 years thinking i was kind of depressed as an immigrant, but i think i'm just depressed to live in a part of the country that needs cars

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:41:19 JST Adrianna Tan

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     sorry i am having my california breakup moment i think

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:41:50 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Kristin (vis.social Admin)

     @kristinHenry ahaha it's not a right now plan, but i need to be more bi-coastal. i really really really think new york city is my forever place

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     Kristin (vis.social Admin) (kristinhenry@vis.social)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:41:52 JST Kristin (vis.social Admin)

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     @skinnylatte noooooo....we love you here!

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:43:52 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Jürgen Hubert

     @juergen_hubert yes, i have so far avoided: needing a car to get anywhere (or needing to get into a car at all), but i am aware that only 0.0001% of the people here get to live like that

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     Jürgen Hubert (juergen_hubert@mementomori.social)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:43:53 JST Jürgen Hubert

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     @skinnylatte

     I did not know what "car dependency" meant until I visited the USA. That was a _massive_ culture shock.

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     garrett (garrett@infosec.exchange)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:45:12 JST garrett

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     @skinnylatte Happiest I feel is when I get to ride a bicycle around but a lot of cars deciding to try taking that away lately. 😢

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:45:12 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • garrett

     @garrett cycling is a little nicer on the west coast. but the car situation is also not fun.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:52:04 JST Adrianna Tan

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     @fembot well, take portland for example. everybody says it's a great city. it is. but it is just not a city i could ever foresee myself living in happily. the situation with the sun (and the lack of it) makes it impossible. i can't even consider it. i would be morose and depressed. to the extreme. the rest of the city just doesn't vibe with me either. i feel like that about most of the west coast. even san francisco. i never loved it. it's home, but it's just not right for me.

     some people are just drawn to different things.

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     ● (fembot@mstdn.social)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:52:05 JST ●

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     @skinnylatte True, less density. Is that what you meant by vibes? Left coast is for sure different. No harm done, btw, I think I get what you're saying.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:53:15 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Ned Raggett

     @nedraggett well i came here from no-car places and... SF is a downgrade

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     Ned Raggett (nedraggett@sfba.social)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 12:53:16 JST Ned Raggett

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     @skinnylatte Haha plenty understandable. (But it can also be perspective! I've never had a car and switching from Orange County after two decades to SF was rather an upgrade. :-D )

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:09:03 JST Adrianna Tan

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     this isn't a 'you shouldn't have your car'! thing, this is a 'i have great culture shock at having to consider automobiles as part of my life here and i haven't quite fully gotten over it'. it just hasn't been a part of my life the way it is for many.

     i am much happier being able to rely on trains and buses all day (yes i know the bay area has trains, trust me i have all their sweatshirts) as an *everyday* thing i don't have to think about.

     i also just really want to live in brooklyn, and maybe nowhere else. ;/

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:09:38 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Jonathan Yu

     @jawnsy i've been in new york in the winter and it's the only place i want to be cold in!

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     Jonathan Yu (jawnsy@mastodon.social)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:09:39 JST Jonathan Yu

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     @skinnylatte see if you still feel that way in the wintertime lol

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     Jonathan Yu (jawnsy@mastodon.social)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:13:43 JST Jonathan Yu

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     @skinnylatte oh wow lol

     I don't even like winter in SF

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:13:43 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Jonathan Yu

     @jawnsy i'm depressed in SF winter (i think i've already said i'm depressed in sf)

     i am not depressed in new york in any season :)

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:16:52 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Jonathan Yu

     @jawnsy i'm a person who is very affected by my urban surroundings and things to do, and i am not really into sf for those reasons. the nature bits help, but it doesn't make up for the huge lack i feel in dining, culture, transit

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:19:55 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • scott f

     @scott well we know why it sucks in some places in new york (racism)

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     scott f (scott@carfree.city)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:19:56 JST scott f

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     @skinnylatte no no no you were right the first time, they shouldn't have their cars!

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     scott f (scott@carfree.city)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:19:56 JST scott f

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     @skinnylatte I was just in NYC and went to a botanic garden my friend recommended in the Bronx that required walking up 1/3 mile of streets missing sidewalks from the Metro North station, so I'm salty about you writing off the Bay Area as too car dependent and New York not (but I get it)

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     that pink dragon again, of all places... (kirakira@furry.engineer)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:23:38 JST that pink dragon again, of all places...

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     @skinnylatte i was a new driver the first time i went to brooklyn (drove myself) and THREE random people walking by on the street stopped to help me parallel park. like it became a collaborative effort between these unaffiliated random people on a whim. this was years ago but very good vibes from brooklyn

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:23:38 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • that pink dragon again, of all places...

     @kirakira i love it!!

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:24:05 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • scott f

     @Andres4NY @scott well parts of south and east brooklyn are also... car city

     i would probably not live in those places, but they are at least extremely diverse and fun. bay ridge had the energy and vibes of oakland and each area is so dynamic and wonderful.

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     Andres (andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it)'s status on Thursday, 18-Sep-2025 13:24:06 JST Andres

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     • scott f

     @scott @skinnylatte tbh like half of Queens is pretty car dependent (but also lots of it isn't; I have a hunch, but not proof, that western queens is more dense than brooklyn overall?)