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Why are they specifically on a bagel?
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That makes sense actually, a mini pizza prob wouldn't work well. Depends what sort of plane tho but even if it was a cool fighter plane or whatever then it still seems very egocentric, like why?
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An interesting question. I think the answer is mouth feel. More appealing to chew than a soggy flat circle. Did notice how the voiceover called it a "wholesome bagel" like some kind selling point though when it's clearly made with bleached flour. The 90s were weird like this. Everyone thought pita pockets were inherently healthy for a long time too.
btw i was gonna make a "this sounds like something bot would say" post but you're already here so
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Ok so lets say you worked in a warehouse or whatever and used a forklift, do you think its normal to propose in front of a dirty stinky forklift?
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Wait so are you agreeing with the girl then because lol if so comfy i was right moment
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@mitchconner @bot *texture
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@bot @mitchconner I agree it seems very egocentric to demand a second proposal
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Idk maybe thats fair but theres a time and place for important life events? I don't think in front of a plane or forklift is the right place to propose so maybe she should've just said no but otoh military couples aren't exactly normal well adjusted ppl, I'd like to know if he was even a pilot
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@bot @mitchconner I saw a clip of a successful proposal in a McDonalds kitchen while the couple was on-shift but proposing in front of people is gay
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It could be ok if its close friends that knew what was going on but that definitely wasn't the situation in a McDonalds lol. Idk really but I do think making it a public thing adds some unfair pressure but that depends on the relationship really
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Ok let's all pile in bot's electric car and go find out 🚗
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I don't have an electric car
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i do get the pressure side of it yeah
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It definitely shouldn't be a total surprise anyway
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@bot @mitchconner The nicest married couples I know are embarrassed by how mundane their proposal stories are, when asked. Meanwhile I know firsthand and secondhand way too many people that spent 1-3 years' salary on extravagant wedding celebrations (sometimes the end result wasn't even flashy to the point where you'd ever guess they blew $200k on it) only to separate before paying off the incurred debt.
I don't think it's a coincidence that this particular bridezilla's first comment on her upcoming marriage is "yay military spouse benefits", like shit, if I got engaged on this trip, I'd save the "yay spouse visa" bit for after "holy shit I'm finally getting married, my entire life has been preparation for this and I finally found a nice woman who is willing to tolerate me, death of despair plans are CANCELLED"
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The benefits bit made me think the whole post was fake actually but its probably close enough to being true to believe it
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@bot @cassidyclown @mitchconner Yeah making a show of it in front of strangers is cringe.
Pressure from presence of known witnesses is understandable, but I do think if I were on the other end of an elaborate fancy proposal without witnesses I'd feel some pressure from the setup regardless (I'm not a woman so obviously this could be way off the mark). Plus you occasionally hear gossip about how some dude went to all the effort of doing one of those fairytale proposals only for the chick to turn him down and then people give her the stinkeye even if they weren't there when it happened, so pressure seems unavoidable outside of the proposition being nonchalantly slipped into a casual conversation.
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@birdulon @mitchconner @bot there's definitely pressure if it looks like the guy dropped a boatload of money on the setup which there really should be no need to do. You can make things "fancy" or special without doing that though.
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I would feel literally zero pressure to reject the proposal regardless of what was spent but I would feel a lot of pressure based on who was there but it really shouldn't even be like that and if it was a complete surprise to me to the point of being inappropriate and it was in front of ppl I cared about then I would probably say no
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So there's something wrong with rejecting a proposal in front of a dumpster then? I mean I KNOW you understand context and inappropriate behaviour, so idgi
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I think the original spirit of the post I had the screenshot of was about girls rejecting a proposal because the venue was "lame" and demanding a do over, nothing to do with pressure
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@mitchconner @cassidyclown @bot the pressure came from the female side of that story :P
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@mitchconner @bot @birdulon what if they met while dumpster diving :blobcatanimeeyes:
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What if we... kissed in the dumpster? Haha I'm jk... but what if...?
😳 👉👈
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It's a really extreme example but ehhh I guess rejecting it in front of a dumpster, that would be ok? Context really matters with romance
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That's not always a good investment
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@birdulon @mitchconner @bot put your money into land
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@bot @cassidyclown @mitchconner I don't think there's anything wrong with rejecting any proposal, and I don't like the idea that the proposal has to be some ritual where the answer was guaranteed indirectly ahead of time (wink wink nod nod when's it coming wink wink nod nod). I know it's a really important event to some people much like some (ok huge overlap) think the wedding needs to put them into house-level debt. Personally I'd rather elope and put all my resources into the honeymoon.
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I don't graze normally
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@bot @mitchconner @birdulon it's always worth at least what you can grow or graze on it
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bot knows all about real estate, having met with men wearing hard hats recently
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Certain types of development are definitely risky, but most are a risk too
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So the debt is irrelevant for you then?
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Being picky is totally fine but that also means you need to have basic self awareness and social competence
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@bot @cassidyclown @mitchconner I'm just saying I support people being as picky as they want with one of the most important decisions of their life even if I disagree with their criteria.
If someone said to me that I need to marry a woman to save the white race and there's tattoos/piercings/alcoholism/other substance abuse/prior sexual partners/obesity involved, call me a race traitor because I'd let it all end sooner than accept that burden.
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Dating tip: remove "alas" from your vocabulary
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@bot @cassidyclown @mitchconner alas, I put all my points into raw utility, so I'm doomed to envy men who have to get their wives to change lightbulbs for them
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@bot @cassidyclown @mitchconner @birdulon yeah get you A LASS instead
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It's horrifying but also funny in a weird way, better have abs and be super charming imo
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@bot @cassidyclown @mitchconner @birdulon bot this is unironically one of the best pieces of advice you've ever given (besides getting fit, that one is also good)
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You literally want it, don't pretend you dont
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@bot @birdulon @cassidyclown @mitchconner to be honest I'm not sure my ego could handle being hot, however
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@bot @cassidyclown @mitchconner @birdulon I can get away with using words people don't normally use, I'm charming and cute.
No abs yet, tho.
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