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   Nora Reed (norareed@mastodon.social)'s status on Sunday, 06-Aug-2023 20:58:18 JST Nora Reed

   anything to avoid actually calling in your boys to tell them to shut the fuck up sometimes lol https://cosocial.ca/@evan/110839737998715967

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     Nora Reed (norareed@mastodon.social)'s status on Sunday, 06-Aug-2023 20:58:18 JST Nora Reed

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     the mansplaining problem is a cultural one with mastodon because it's full of cis men who have put more thought into their linux flavor of choice than they ever have about whether their behavior is useful or wanted. it cannot be solved with the twitter popup that says "are you sure you want to post this?" when you tell someone to eat shit

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     Nora Reed (norareed@mastodon.social)'s status on Sunday, 06-Aug-2023 21:00:13 JST Nora Reed

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     i don't get mansplained to nearly as much on bluesky, and that's not because bluesky stumbled on some kind of magical feminist UI design, it's because mastodon is dominated by FOSS nerds, who have a terrible culture

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     flabberghaster@mas.to's status on Sunday, 06-Aug-2023 21:00:13 JST flabberghaster

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     @NoraReed It really sucks too because FOSS is a worthwhile thing, IMO, but like you said there's so many people who are in to it who haven't really thought about anything other than software. Makes me a little sad whenever I hear people say they hate FOSS due to the culture, but i've heard it from several people.

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     Michał "rysiek" Woźniak · 🇺🇦 (rysiek@mstdn.social)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 14:22:20 JST Michał "rysiek" Woźniak · 🇺🇦

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     • Richard Hendricks

     @hendric you're not wrong, but honestly I doubt that this is making a measurable difference.

     Mansplainers wouldn't check for the advice being already available in replies even if all replies were visible.

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     Richard Hendricks (hendric@astronomy.city)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 14:22:21 JST Richard Hendricks

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     • Michał "rysiek" Woźniak · 🇺🇦

     @rysiek I suspect the Mastodon federation methodology causes extra mansplaining because the immediate post on a server doesnt show all the responses unless you goto the original post. I noticed that posts that seem to have little interaction actually have a bunch from servers we arent federated with and/or are on our blocklist.

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     Michał "rysiek" Woźniak · 🇺🇦 (rysiek@mstdn.social)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 14:22:22 JST Michał "rysiek" Woźniak · 🇺🇦

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     @NoraReed 💯

     Every guy on here should just read this, tbh:
     https://anotherangrywoman.com/2023/01/18/how-to-give-advice-on-the-internet-without-being-an-utter-menace/

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     Nora Reed (norareed@mastodon.social)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 14:22:23 JST Nora Reed

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     i want to add: this wasn't nearly as much of a problem on twitter when i left. partially this is because i blocked so many people who sucked but we did largely manage to fix the problem over there. i think if mastodon wants to compete with other social media we need to be having these conversations and making people self aware so they change their behavior. cultures are malleable.

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     Charlie Stross (cstross@wandering.shop)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:29:45 JST Charlie Stross

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     • Kyrre Sjøbæk
     • Sean Eric Fagan

     @kyrsjo @kithrup @NoraReed People become more themselves as they grow older—especially when they're famous. And in doing so they inevitably show you more of themselves, and it's often really unpleasant.

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     Kyrre Sjøbæk (kyrsjo@snabelen.no)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:29:46 JST Kyrre Sjøbæk

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     • Charlie Stross
     • Sean Eric Fagan

     @cstross
     Someone more like Thorvalds?

     But yeah. I've never been a fan of ESR, but my view of RMS has dimmed significantly over the last decade or so, basically going from "a bit extreme to be practical, but ok" to "wtf is wrong with him".

     @kithrup @NoraReed

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     Sean Eric Fagan (kithrup@mastodon.cloud)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:29:47 JST Sean Eric Fagan

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     • Charlie Stross

     @cstross @NoraReed I have very strong opinions about both those people.

     (For RMS, it's mostly: ugh ugh ugh ugh ugh, but the GPL and FSF have been huge, positive influences on my portion of the world.)

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     Charlie Stross (cstross@wandering.shop)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:29:47 JST Charlie Stross

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     • Sean Eric Fagan

     @kithrup @NoraReed Just think how much more good the FSF and GPL could have done if they were the product of someone who was charming, diplomatic, erudite, and not a serial abuser with bad personal hygeine!

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     Charlie Stross (cstross@wandering.shop)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:29:48 JST Charlie Stross

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     @NoraReed FOSS as a movement owes a lot to Richard M. Stallman and Eric S. Raymond—in all the worst ways imaginable.

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     Another Angry Woman (stavvers@masto.ai)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:29:51 JST Another Angry Woman

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     @NoraReed have you tried saying something even slightly critical of the UI or moderation on bsky yet? Because WOW that gets you mansplained into oblivion

     and they don't even have the clippy custom emoji on there so you can just reply to them with that

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     Nora Reed (norareed@mastodon.social)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:29:58 JST Nora Reed

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     • Aurochs
     • Anders Puck Nielsen

     @aurochs @anderspuck following other people doesn't seem to prevent straight men who misgender me and treat me like i was born yesterday from talking to me.

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     Nora Reed (norareed@mastodon.social)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:30:00 JST Nora Reed

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     • Aurochs
     • Anders Puck Nielsen

     @aurochs @anderspuck as someone on cohost and bluesky this is the straightest place i go, except instagram

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     Aurochs (aurochs@todon.eu)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:30:00 JST Aurochs

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     • Anders Puck Nielsen

     @NoraReed @anderspuck Not my experience in the least. ¿Perhaps you could follow other people?

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     Aurochs (aurochs@todon.eu)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:30:01 JST Aurochs

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     • Anders Puck Nielsen

     @anderspuck @NoraReed Much much more.

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     Anders Puck Nielsen (anderspuck@krigskunst.social)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:30:03 JST Anders Puck Nielsen

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     @NoraReed My impression is that LGBTQ people are more present here than on other platform.

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     Nora Reed (norareed@mastodon.social)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:30:38 JST Nora Reed

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     • WelshPixie, ShadowFigure
     • Aral Balkan
     • PJ Coffey

     @Homebrewandhacking @welshpixie @aral thanks for explaining that to me, I was born yesterday so i really needed it

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     PJ Coffey (homebrewandhacking@mastodon.ie)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:30:39 JST PJ Coffey

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     • Aral Balkan

     @NoraReed

     @welshpixie is an admin who deals with sexist mastoadmins publicly. As she says, you don't _need_ a reason to block anyone.

     As @aral has written before. You cannot talk to all 9bn people on earth in one lifetime. Block the rude and annoying ones.

     There are some housebroken FOSS types who don't live in a well actually, putting a note on their profile reminds me why I blocked them and should they show up in a thread again? Always well-deserved.

     Prune for your own sanity.

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     James Harris (jbwharris@mstdn.ca)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:30:43 JST James Harris

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     @NoraReed I always find this so telling about Mastodon and who uses it.

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     Nora Reed (norareed@mastodon.social)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:30:43 JST Nora Reed

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     • James Harris

     @jbwharris last time i brought this up i got a lecture on how it's not a scientific poll

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     Davey (davey_cakes@mastodon.ie)'s status on Monday, 07-Aug-2023 18:37:04 JST Davey

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     @NoraReed this is one of the reasons I like being on a server that only really got going in the last year, the l33t are already somewhere else, and it's hopefully more casual.

     That doesn't mean it's above or immune to the same patterns or anything, and not everyone was able to maintain the will to live on Fedi with the amount of 🤦♂️ replies.

     Lost some really interesting people that way, and yeah I'd say mostly women.

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