@NoraReed this is one of the reasons I like being on a server that only really got going in the last year, the l33t are already somewhere else, and it's hopefully more casual.
That doesn't mean it's above or immune to the same patterns or anything, and not everyone was able to maintain the will to live on Fedi with the amount of 🤦♂️ replies.
Lost some really interesting people that way, and yeah I'd say mostly women.