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> Luckily for me, I'm a weird fucker anyway. All the effort to not seem like I was quite as spergy as I am (unfortunately there exists no way to conceal a brain lockup), so I just stopped caring and eventually figured out that people react better when you seem like they expect you to seem. The only time I have to act is when someone quotes the Star War of the Ring and I have to stifle the retching.

I grew up in a weird-rich environment that gamified learning to act normal. The adjustments I had to make were to professionally mesh with the stereotypes rather than being my own brand of weird. But the gamified environment taught me the skills people interpret as "business acumen"

> Entirely accurate. When I was 18, I wore a suit and tie to job interviews because I heard that was how it worked. That is not remotely how it works, which is delightful, but I wish I had known earlier.

I wore a suit and tie to that company I was consulting for's interview. They almost didn't interview me because it made them believe I was a poor fit for the job. They told me this after hiring and told me never to wear a tie to anything for that job/company again.

> Reminds me of that experiment where they had a cashier duck behind the counter to get something and another cashier would pop up, sometimes one of a different race, and people almost never noticed.

Yep. That told me everyhting I needed to know about that manager that I had not had the opportunity to pick up at the dinner.

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