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> I have affected a lot of things that make me seem more like a "tech guy" in my career.

Luckily for me, I'm a weird fucker anyway. All the effort to not seem like I was quite as spergy as I am (unfortunately there exists no way to conceal a brain lockup), so I just stopped caring and eventually figured out that people react better when you seem like they expect you to seem. The only time I have to act is when someone quotes the Star War of the Ring and I have to stifle the retching.

On the other hand, St. Terry didn't bother concealing his contempt.

> That need has relaxed some but that used to necessarily include attire. Too much business and strangers question your engineer cred.

Entirely accurate. When I was 18, I wore a suit and tie to job interviews because I heard that was how it worked. That is not remotely how it works, which is delightful, but I wish I had known earlier.

> I showed up and they almost called security. The manager came out and saw me in my band T-shirt and combat trousers, and asked if I had business with them. I told them I was the "Linux guy you called $COMPANY for" and they were overjoyed and immediately led me to the server room.

:terrylol2:

> Funny thing is I'd had a high end dinner with her at a charity event not a month before. I dressed appropriately to the event and sat right next to her. We had a great conversation. I don't think she even realized I was an engineer because I know how to do this social shit.

Reminds me of that experiment where they had a cashier duck behind the counter to get something and another cashier would pop up, sometimes one of a different race, and people almost never noticed.