@NicolaElle @JoscelynTransient @emmalilian @faithisleaping @rooster @siege As a postscript, I think that the reason that urge (and the plans connected to it) often falls apart is because transition is an act of profound self-love. If, as psychology argues, we generally become who we pretend to be, by enacting self-love on ourselves for long enough we come to love ourselves whether we believe that love to be worthy or not.