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   cream queen (creamqueen@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Monday, 11-Nov-2024 08:29:16 JST cream queen

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   @mia @meso @anemone @cajax i dont consider it abuse when i said 'fuck' and got restrained and hot sauce poured down my throat, because i never said swear words again
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     meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Monday, 11-Nov-2024 08:29:16 JST meso

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     @creamqueen @cajax @anemone @mia thats way more abusive than getting hit, id classify that as abuse and not discipline, it's just humiliation
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     cream queen (creamqueen@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Monday, 11-Nov-2024 08:33:43 JST cream queen

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     @meso @cajax @anemone @mia no because there was a consequence for saying a bad word. i learned that and never swore again
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     meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Monday, 11-Nov-2024 08:33:43 JST meso

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     @creamqueen @cajax @anemone @mia i think if the kid is intelligent enough to decide what to and not to do, what is reasonable and what is clearly not, that's the best option. like some things were unreasonable and I'd just refuse or take the punishment to show I'm not budging because I disagree, because to me it's clearly unreasonable. and sometimes, one case I can remember, it was just a humiliation. and I refused to be humiliated, even my dad was like "I'm proud of you for not doing that"
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     cream queen (creamqueen@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Monday, 11-Nov-2024 08:33:49 JST cream queen

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     @teratology @cajax @anemone @mia @meso every kid ive ever seen that wasn't hit as a kid is an insufferable piece of shit
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     cipote :bishrexual: (teratology@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Monday, 11-Nov-2024 08:33:50 JST cipote :bishrexual:

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     @creamqueen @cajax @anemone @mia @meso tbh this isn't much different than how some of my relatives view things but getting out and seeing how other people were raised up made me realize those behaviors and responses to children being children weren't normal. My abulea never speaks a bad word about my dead abuelo who beat her all the time, but my mom remembers.
     
     I do believe in discipline but I think abuse is framed as the only effective method. Growing up I covered a lot for the adults in my life because of "things could be worse".
     meso repeated this.
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     cream queen (creamqueen@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Monday, 11-Nov-2024 08:33:51 JST cream queen

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     @teratology @cajax @anemone @mia @meso no, i appreciate how i was raised
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     cipote :bishrexual: (teratology@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Monday, 11-Nov-2024 08:33:52 JST cipote :bishrexual:

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     @creamqueen @cajax @anemone @mia @meso this seems a bit like denial tbh
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     meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Monday, 11-Nov-2024 08:34:39 JST meso

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     @creamqueen @cajax @anemone @mia @teratology low intelligence specimens simply, i think having hardship in your childhood will make you face things and think about situations more and therefore make you a better person but if it's actual abuse and the parents take it too far it's gonna wreck that kid's life