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   kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 17:36:43 JST kaia
   hitting on anyone in a service situation, e.g. guy behind bar or waitress, is among the most inappropriate and boomerpilled things to do. it's on the level of thinking strippers like you. among my most hated memories as a teen was serving alcohol at a festival and getting touched by grubby old men.
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     Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell: (lanodan@queer.hacktivis.me)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 17:44:13 JST Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:

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     @kaia Makes me wonder if there's like prank electric shock thing that you can put in your back pockets.
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     miauz genyau (mia@movsw.0x0.st)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 17:44:29 JST miauz genyau

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     @kaia it works in reverse too (i've been hit on by taxi drivers before i learned to tell which ones are okay to have small talk with)

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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 17:45:03 JST kaia

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     @mia yeah that sucks as well, but at least you have recourse and can also avoid them.
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     miauz genyau (mia@movsw.0x0.st)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 17:50:27 JST miauz genyau

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     @kaia i just don't talk to men unless they're married and even then they're fucking creeps half the time
     
     tfw suffering from being too nice and attractive

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     Blurry Moon (sun@shitposter.world)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 17:54:17 JST Blurry Moon

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     @kaia is flirting a little the same as hitting on?
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     Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell: (lanodan@queer.hacktivis.me)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 17:59:52 JST Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:

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     @takao @kaia Those aren't weapons at all, they're harmless toys, the shock is the same as you'd get from static electricity.
     
     Real harmful would be more like tasers or push-pin/short-nail.
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     :segasaturn: (takao@shitposter.world)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 17:59:53 JST :segasaturn:

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     • Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:
     @lanodan @kaia you'd probably end up reported for assault this way. At least that's how it works over here, if le government decides you have a weapon and took it with you, the assumption is that you were prepared to initiate violence. Self-defence doesn't exist practically speaking.
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     Blurry Moon (sun@shitposter.world)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 18:02:41 JST Blurry Moon

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     • Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:
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     @lanodan @kaia @takao a lot of those shock things are basically just buzzers, they have a little rotor in them.
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     Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell: (lanodan@queer.hacktivis.me)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 18:11:53 JST Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:

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     @takao @kaia Well yeah courts are rotten all the way, but it just seems way too overkill, courts costs a ton of money after all.
     You'd more likely loose your job than anything if trouble happens and maybe a fine if it ended up too close to the cops.
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     :segasaturn: (takao@shitposter.world)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 18:11:54 JST :segasaturn:

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     • Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:
     @lanodan @kaia maybe, i wouldn't trust pigs and prosecutors (aka lv 87 pigs in wigs) with judging this regardless.
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     Nudhul (nudhul@shitposter.world)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 18:12:54 JST Nudhul

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     • miauz genyau
     @mia @kaia does it have anything to do with skin color, generally speaking? country of origin?
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     miauz genyau (mia@movsw.0x0.st)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 18:12:54 JST miauz genyau

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     @Nudhul @kaia no. just sexuality. though turkish drivers have never made me uncomfortable; they really just talk a lot (which is perfectly fine)

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     Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell: (lanodan@queer.hacktivis.me)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 18:18:09 JST Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:

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     @sun @kaia @takao All the ones I had my hands on had actual electricity (visible with an led for example) but yeah I've heard that few times.
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     Nudhul (nudhul@shitposter.world)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 18:24:56 JST Nudhul

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     • miauz genyau
     @mia @kaia just hearing a lot of neo-canadians menacing women who try to get a taxi. sometimes locking the doors until they give a fake number to the driver.
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     miauz genyau (mia@movsw.0x0.st)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 18:24:57 JST miauz genyau

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     @Nudhul @kaia they all had like a wife and 3 kids though so I'm not sure their country of origin is even relevant :cirno_shrug:

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     miauz genyau (mia@movsw.0x0.st)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 18:38:34 JST miauz genyau

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     @Nudhul @kaia funny thing is i actually had a long convo about sex with one of them but it wasn't even awkward; he was just genuinely curious about my perspective as a lesbian (which i mentioned i am because he was telling me about his family and asked if i had kids)

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     miauz genyau (mia@movsw.0x0.st)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 19:04:51 JST miauz genyau

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     • Blurry Moon

     @sun @kaia no but it's still crossing the line for some
     
     there's a time and place for such things

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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 19:28:39 JST kaia

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     • Trash Panda
     @raccoon mh almost none, since they have to be nice to you. only if they start clearly flirting with you without you flirting with them. and I had this happen to me before, but it can also be a business ploy to sell product?
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     Trash Panda (raccoon@hollow.raccoon.quest)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 19:28:40 JST Trash Panda

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     @kaia@brotka.st
     If you like the person behind the counter is there an appropriate way to see if there's a chance to get to know them without being a dickwad?

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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 19:38:05 JST lainy

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     @kaia all the autists on this network will interpret this as “I should never be charming because it could make someone uncomfortable”. Maybe good though if they can’t see the difference between being suave and grabbing a teenager’s butt
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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 19:41:11 JST kaia

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     • lainy
     @lain yeah agreed. but flirting with service staff is not okay at all. like ever.
     
     Lucy phrased it so well
     https://netzsphaere.xyz/objects/d0743fc9-26a6-4324-9793-116247b84031
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     Blurry Moon (sun@shitposter.world)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 19:50:47 JST Blurry Moon

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     • lainy
     @kaia @lain at any rate I haven't done it since my 20s, except when the other person initiated it.
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 20:05:49 JST lainy

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     • sim
     @sim @kaia in America serving staff will touch you all the time, it really depends on whatever is appropriate locally
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     sim@shitposter.world's status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 20:05:50 JST sim

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     • lainy
     @lain @kaia I think physical touch is too far but I don't see anything wrong with smiling at them, asking how they are doing and complimenting them. Leave a good impression rather than a creep impression.
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     Blurry Moon (sun@shitposter.world)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 20:08:35 JST Blurry Moon

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     @lain @kaia @sim middle aged women like to
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     Trash Panda (raccoon@hollow.raccoon.quest)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 21:30:38 JST Trash Panda

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     @kaia@brotka.st
     Sad. Capitalism ruins everything.

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     Asa (asa@shitposter.world)'s status on Monday, 16-Sep-2024 22:19:22 JST Asa

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     • Blurry Moon
     @sun @kaia depends if the woman in question is in breeding season or not, if at least 5 months have passed since she last gave birth and if she gets the ick factor or the oogabooga factor when smelling your pheromones.
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     iced depresso (icedquinn@blob.cat)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Sep-2024 03:10:11 JST iced depresso

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     @kaia i mean according to society there is literally never an appropriate moment to flirt with someone, so...