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   Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Tuesday, 26-Sep-2023 19:45:29 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

   I've just been told to “advise ahead of time” because I had meltdowns.

   I guess “normal” (pfft) people file sick leave because they knew they'll have a fever ahead of time.

   #Rant

   @autistics @actuallyautistic

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     Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Tuesday, 26-Sep-2023 19:50:24 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

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     I'm tired of being the one who understands.

     I'm tired of begging to be understood.

     @autistics @actuallyautistic

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     Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Tuesday, 26-Sep-2023 20:00:35 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

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     • Misuse Case

     @MisuseCase Exactly!!

     It's the “you can do it”, “you'll get used to it”, “it just takes time”.

     I've been trying to explain it so we can work together, but it's like talking to a wall. Their way or no way.

     So, me was like, "okay fine, let's do it your way". And now this.

     @autistics @actuallyautistic

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     Misuse Case (misusecase@twit.social)'s status on Tuesday, 26-Sep-2023 20:00:36 JST Misuse Case

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     @youronlyone @autistics @actuallyautistic Oh and when you’re like “this situation is stressful for me and I need to go somewhere quiet so I won’t have a meltdown” they tell you to just grin and bear it right?

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     Fell (fell@ma.fellr.net)'s status on Tuesday, 26-Sep-2023 20:09:35 JST Fell

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     @youronlyone @autistics @actuallyautistic It baffles me how some employers want to to "file" sick leave. You don't file sick leave, it just happens. Being sick is by definition an unforeseen event. Otherwise you might just call it "the other holiday leave"

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     Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Tuesday, 26-Sep-2023 20:18:41 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

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     • Misuse Case

     @MisuseCase

     It was what I was doing before. It works, but at times, I still get the "this person is too sensitive" or "we're expecting more from you".

     So, now, I'm trying a different approach, being open about it. But, looks like it failed badly.

     I'll probably do a 50-50 next time. No disclosure unless they start to ask, or really need to already.

     @autistics @actuallyautistic

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     Misuse Case (misusecase@twit.social)'s status on Tuesday, 26-Sep-2023 20:18:42 JST Misuse Case

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     @youronlyone @autistics @actuallyautistic This is why at this point in my life I’m very firm about my working conditions and accommodations and unless it’s strictly necessary I don’t even ask for permission, I just do it my way. I am just like “I can’t do it now, I need to do this first” or “hold on please” and I don’t even make reference to whatever condition I have, I am just firm about it.

     I recognize that not everyone is in a position to do this.

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     Grandpa Don RIP World (dbc3@mastodon.world)'s status on Tuesday, 26-Sep-2023 20:19:24 JST Grandpa Don RIP World

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     • Misuse Case

     @youronlyone @MisuseCase @autistics @actuallyautistic

     Meltdown! That's it!
     Growing up I was identified as having "anger management issues." Have always felt flawed. "Just learn to grin&bear it."

     I never explained, because noone ever asked, that it was like a pot boiling over. I could tolerate something for a long time, but eventually something just snapped. As an adult I had 3 incidents at work that i recall with embarrassment but know damned well my blowup was beyond my control.

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     Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Tuesday, 26-Sep-2023 20:24:43 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

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     • Grandpa Don RIP World
     • Misuse Case

     @dbc3 I like that analogy! Exactly what happened to me which led to that "advise us ahead of time".

     @MisuseCase @autistics @actuallyautistic

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     Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Tuesday, 26-Sep-2023 20:26:43 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

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     I thought the worst thing I'll ever hear is “Autism doesn't exist, it's just a figment of your imagination, an excuse” (from an ex-colleague talking about his own big brother).

     Nope.

     Having meltdowns and being told to “advise ahead of time” is.

     @autistics @actuallyautistic