Notices by Carrie Shanafelt (carrideen@c18.masto.host), page 3

You'll see a lot of posts goofing on Bi Visibility Day today because many non-bi people think of us as privileged, cheaters, liars, egotists, wannabes, tourists, etc. That kind of stereotyping gets us killed every day, and drives many of us into silence and acquiescence--and far higher rates of substance abuse, self-harm, and destructive behavior. I've been there too. Knowing I'm not alone, and giving my life and love to queer people, has saved me over and over.

@FlashMobOfOne He looks gooooooood

@skinnylatte I felt a little scandalized when all my favorite YouTube cooks did nearly identical videos about how to make biang biang noodles, and then they toss off a quick mention that they learned it from ordering the biang biang noodle kit from Xi'an Famous Foods. Like, OK, but why are you replicating and profiting from the instructions that come with Xi'an's "how to make biang biang noodles" kit?

@inthehands Yeah, I don't think there was even one good-faith invitation to speak. It was impressive how well Harris maintains the face of someone who is being asked interesting thoughtful questions, even when they are not. Walz has a harder time hiding his emotions but he kept his cool.

@FlashMobOfOne I got recruited from Biochemistry into English by a professor who at first put me in her doctoral courses as an undergrad, which flattered me, but later I realized she was just using me to humiliate her grad students. When I did an MA there, she dramatically rejected my thesis to punish me for not making her the lead professor, and the rest of the department shamed her into changing her mind. Power games, mind games, sexual humiliation. I never want students to feel any of that.

@FlashMobOfOne I had a lot of ethical, good teachers in high school, and then, in college, professors all seemed only to be interested in themselves. I didn't have many who cared much about what happened to me. Several professors at my school dated students, so you either had to deal with sexual harassment or being ignored if their attention was on someone else. That was an awful feeling. I've taught college for 23 years and everything I do is about students getting education and opportunities.

Royals are quietly destroying the souls of the Reds today. #MLB

One thing I've learned from being on Mastodon is that a lot of people were permanently traumatized by being introduced to topics in elementary school that they didn't personally excel at, and because they chose careers that do not require that thing in daily practice for money, no child should ever be given any kind of introduction to it, because it is obviously torture and irrelevant to all human life. (Please rethink the imagery of "forcing down children's throats.")

Well, I sent her some money. We'll be OK or we won't. That's it. There are things we can do that will help.

If you go, pray to Old Deuteronomy not to be seated in front of a family of tweens raised on Drag Race who demand all the lore explained during quiet/emotional moments.

@FlashMobOfOne I can't believe how many plays I've seen him in before this, but in this one he was *standing right next to us* for like 10 minutes and we both cried the whole time.

Partner's boss has correctly intuited that our interests are strippers, trans people, and André de Shields. We don't care much about Andrew Lloyd Webber, but butts in fishnets, yes.

Here we are, on my partner's boss's date for us! We had a lovely dinner and the best wine at Metropolitan and now we are seeing "The Jellicle Ball," which we are assured requires no foreknowledge of Cats.

Setting up tonight's game of Trolls and Princesses, a very complicated and attractive game with a zillion little bits and gems and cows and bells and humans and gold and and and #boardgames #boardgaming

(It's been boiling hot and thunderstormy here and leaving the apartment is HARD.)

Camilla is the only person I know who can look regal with her tongue out. #CatsOfMastodon #FloofyFriday

After seven days in France, my bank card denied me for suspected fraud during my third and last purchase at the airport going home. Chase is ON THE CASE.

People say Paris is unfriendly, but three people followed me out of a movie to a crepe shop to sit at my table and ask me what I thought of it, because they liked my hair. My French was a disappointment to all of us, but it was a nice thing to happen.

When Camilla feels like her dinner should be an hour earlier, she tries all kinds of ploys for attention. She headbutts, nips, threads between your legs, and, occasionally, does circus tricks. #CatsOfMastodon

I cannot stress enough that divorce is foundational to most Protestant sects and these charlatans are lying about religion to create a white supremacist patriarchal fascist state. The separation of church and state was invented as a cornerstone of Baptist faith. They're liars and deceivers and they know nothing about their own doctrine. https://www.vox.com/today-explained-newsletter/354635/divorce-no-fault-states-marriage-republicans