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   Carrie Shanafelt (carrideen@c18.masto.host)'s status on Tuesday, 24-Sep-2024 01:17:30 JST Carrie Shanafelt

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   You'll see a lot of posts goofing on Bi Visibility Day today because many non-bi people think of us as privileged, cheaters, liars, egotists, wannabes, tourists, etc. That kind of stereotyping gets us killed every day, and drives many of us into silence and acquiescence--and far higher rates of substance abuse, self-harm, and destructive behavior. I've been there too. Knowing I'm not alone, and giving my life and love to queer people, has saved me over and over.

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     Carrie Shanafelt (carrideen@c18.masto.host)'s status on Tuesday, 24-Sep-2024 01:17:31 JST Carrie Shanafelt

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     I first read the outcomes of these studies just 5 years ago, after 40 years of being told that the consistent, frightening violence I've experienced--and frankly, just gotten used to--in dating relationships must be my fault. None of my friends understood how it was possible that I had come to just expect physical violence from a first date. None of my partnerships lasted long, and I regularly endured IPV from age 19 on. I stopped protecting myself because I didn't feel I deserved protection.

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     Carrie Shanafelt (carrideen@c18.masto.host)'s status on Tuesday, 24-Sep-2024 01:17:32 JST Carrie Shanafelt

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     Being out is not "taking up space."
     Being bi is not "being greedy."
     Bisexuality is not a phase or a fad.
     Bi people can be poly, mono, or ace.
     If you are bi, you are bi all the time.
     All your relationships, all your solitude, all your thoughts are bi all the time.
     If you are with a non-bi partner, you are at a higher risk for physical, sexual, and psychological abuse. Seek out bi community and check in with each other. Make time for bi people. Check in on bi people. Your love is never wasted.

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     Carrie Shanafelt (carrideen@c18.masto.host)'s status on Tuesday, 24-Sep-2024 01:17:33 JST Carrie Shanafelt

     It's Bisexual Visibility Day! Time for the annual reminder that bi people have only recently begun to be studied as a distinct population, and these studies consistently show that we are, along with trans people (many of whom are also bi), the most likely to experience intimate partner violence, in addition to extremely poor mental health and isolation, despite our great numbers. Every year I say it: queer community saves lives, and bisexuals need it too. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10486155/

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     Carrie Shanafelt (carrideen@c18.masto.host)'s status on Tuesday, 24-Sep-2024 01:32:50 JST Carrie Shanafelt

     • Flash Mob Of One

     @FlashMobOfOne Most of violence I've faced has been from straight people, to be clear! I'm not a bi person who has been marginalized by queer people in real life, though I hear other people say that happens to them, and there's always shit talk on the internet.