Notices by whetstone (whetstone@romancelandia.club), page 3

@aurynn It seems to me that defederation is a boundary. Abusive people and people with poor boundaries *always* see drawing a boundary as an attack, not as a defense.

@tempest What’s going on in Jeddah? You’re the second person who has suddenly mentioned being there recently, is there some kind of film/cultural thing happening?

@jessmahler

Yeah. Like many powerful tools, in group/out group dynamics cut both ways. Exclusion for protection is valid and necessary, but unfortunately I think human psychology makes it somewhat pleasant to act like a dick if by so-doing you can cement the “we-ness” of a group by imposing “you-ness” on an outsider.

Good reminder for me to think about the *why* of exclusion when I notice these behaviors in myself.

@jessmahler It reminds me a bit of the explanation I saw for why Japan has so many distinctive local dialects. I haven’t studied the history but supposedly it was an intentional choice to ferret out outsiders.

I think that AAVE has something in common with that too, a dialect constructed to create shelter from outsiders who might know (most of) the words but not the cultural context or meaning.

@jessmahler I love this point. Henry Higgins could *never* have fit into Eliza’s world the way she fit into his.

@daihard I had to read it twice the first time I saw it too. lol

@nathan cis people really do not understand how to craft a fake pronoun joke

@internetnerdgrl I wish I had written down the originator or saved a link so I could give proper credit. I didn’t immediately realize that this joke would be living in my head rent free.

@lekowicz oof. that sounds miserable. i hope you’re fully recovered soon.

@kims

I am a refugee from that site but my aim is definitely to be different here, both in who I follow and how I react. May mute the phrase “boost if you” and unfollow accounts that get too big

@toadmode @nathan This is my favorite pronoun joke.

Fae (xe/xir): may i have your pronouns?

You (they/them): sure! they/them.

Fae (they/them): thanks ?

You ( / ): wait

@kims I hadn’t realized how exhausting it was to be broadcast to by almost everyone that I was following until I came here and realized that even people with fairly extensive followers aren’t doing that.

@ichikawathrives こたつがあればいいのに。足だけ温めると寝やすくなる気がします。

@Mooncake i am failing as a child

and have been laughing for at least a minute

a minute is much longer than you think

@tariq I love these two guys. They clearly know a boatload about music but the podcast feels really accessible. The one about “Anthems” is great too, because you can never have enough Queen.

@chancerydaily @tariq I’ve had Prince Ali in my head for days thanks to you, and then I came across this fantastic podcast. There is so much going on in that song.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/switched-on-pop/id934552872?i=1000442651517

@FLGLchicago @darius You’re entirely right, but also I’m glad it went this way because I have him blocked on The Fowl Place and am grateful not to have to do so here.

@HeavenlyPossum This is a fantastic thread. Thank you so much for posting it.

Also, “a resource
arrangement that works in practice can work in theory” is an amazing sentence.

日本人の方をいっぱいフォローすると…目覚まし時計の反対は何？寝時計？になっています。投稿の割合が半分以上日本語になると「夜遅くなってるよ、そろそろ寝れば？」と自然に思っちゃう。

みなさま、おはようございます。☺️

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@lematin Seems less like 意味 and more like雰囲気 to me. なんとなく気持ちいい言葉を並んでいるだけ。