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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 19-Mar-2026 07:36:10 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
    https://www.thefp.com/p/say-it-with-me-now-open-marriages
    In conversation about 2 months ago from spinster.xyz permalink

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      Lindy West Is Wrong: Open Marriages Never Work
      from Kat Rosenfield
      All Lindy West proves in her memoir, ‘Adult Braces,’ is that she loves being treated like a child by the man she was supposed to grow old with—and the woman who has taken her place in his bed.
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 19-Mar-2026 07:36:09 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
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    • HebrideanHecate
    • Biff
    @HebrideanHecate @Biff Transcript 1/?

    Say It with Me Now: Open Marriages Never Work

    All Lindy West proves in her new memoir, ‘Adult Braces,’ is that she loves being treated like a child by the man she was supposed to grow old with—and the woman who has taken her place in his bed.

    By Kat Rosenfield

    “If you think I have been brainwashed and I am secretly miserable, I simply do not know what to tell you.”

    So proclaims the final chapter of Adult Braces, a new memoir by Lindy West that is half-travelogue, half–polyamory memoir, and 100 percent privilege-disclaiming self-deprecation of the doth-protest-too-much variety. Perhaps you recall the moment in Girls where Lena Dunham snaps, “No one could ever hate me as much as I hate myself, okay? So any mean thing someone’s gonna think of to say about me, I’ve already said to me, about me, probably within the last half hour.”

    Now imagine this moment, and those two sentences, somehow stretched to encompass a 336-page work of literature—an endless hellscape of millennial self-loathing, with no way out except through a minefield of weaponized vulnerability stretching as far as the eye can see—and you will have some idea of what it was like to spend the weekend reading Adult Braces.

    I imagine West would object to this characterization, much as she objects to the notion that she might be unhappy in her marriage—which, contrary to her original desires, now contains three people instead of two. West wanted to be monogamous, whereas her husband wanted to (and did) sleep with other women. She describes the heartbreak of this at length, repeatedly, and in excruciating, objectively sympathetic detail. Then, she pulls the rug out from under the reader by insisting that actually, if you really think about it, she was the one being selfish and unreasonable and—worst of all—conservative in her expectations of what her marriage should be.

    “In many ways, my side of the story is easier to understand than Aham’s—mine hews to cultural norms about heterosexual love and relationships while his challenges them,” she writes, in one of the book’s more standout instances of cad apologia. West, who is something of a celebrity in the world of fat activism, now insists that her desire for monogamy is simply a form of false consciousness, developed in response to societal narratives about how no man would ever want someone who looks like her. The way she felt about the idea of her husband sleeping with other women was fruit of this same poisonous tree. But she knows now where the fault lies, and no, it’s not with her cheating husband. It’s with herself, for being scared and selfish; it’s also society’s fault for making her that way. And it might be your fault too, dear reader, if you’re still wallowing around down there in the unenlightened pits of not wanting your spouse to screw other people: “Monogamous people don’t just project their relationship insecurities onto nonmonogamous couples—they’re afraid of us.”

    For millennials like me (elder, nominally feminist, and terminally online), West is something of a household name. I remember when she first came on the scene as a blogger; there was an angry theater-kid quality to her writing that made it both highly recognizable and extremely well-suited to what was at the time still a new medium, short-form bursts of prose characterized by zany overconfidence mixed with aggressive self-deprecation, all-caps for emphasis, and lots and lots of parenthetical side notes. (JOKES! Am I right, ladies?)

    There was also, increasingly, a cult of personality coalescing around West herself. She was brash, ballsy, and opinionated; she was vulnerable and funny and full of rage; she was very fat, very pretty, and apologetic about neither. She was also, somehow, always at the leading edge of whatever feminism-of-the-moment. A blogging gig at Jezebel turned into a column at The Guardian turned into a 2016 memoir, Shrill: Notes from a Loud Woman—adapted as a Hulu series starring Aidy Bryant—which ended with West’s marriage to musician Ahamefule Oluo. It seemed at the time like a happily-ever-after. Adult Braces, releasing Tuesday, complicates that happy ending in ways that you need not read it to find out, because the book’s big reveal was spoiled in advance by none other than the author herself. In a wildly viral New York Times interview released a week before Adult Braces hit bookstores, West explained that the fairy-tale coupling she always thought she wanted is now the throupling of her dreams: “It feels like I customized marriage to the specifications that are fun and fulfilling to me.”
    In conversation about 2 months ago from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Sunday, 05-Oct-2025 08:29:03 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
    I feel like if drag was about "making fun of gender roles" like some claim, then female drag queens would be far more accepted and drag kings would be more popular.
    In conversation about 7 months ago from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Sunday, 17-Aug-2025 00:46:06 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
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    • KeepTakingTheSoma
    @KeepTakingTheSoma Indeed, though I would say less jazz hands and more group vocal exercises.
    In conversation about 9 months ago from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Sunday, 17-Aug-2025 00:40:24 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
    Theater kids guzzling the kool-aid as usual.

    https://vexxed.org/o/GenderCritical/3958/sailor-attacks-musical-about-her-life-after-actors-hijack-ending-with-trans-prot
    In conversation about 9 months ago from spinster.xyz permalink

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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Friday, 18-Jul-2025 15:06:53 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
    Memeing. Which do you like better?
    In conversation about 10 months ago from spinster.xyz permalink

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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Sunday, 27-Apr-2025 08:03:12 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
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    • TriptychTwinsRidesAgain
    @TriptychTwinsRidesAgain Practice what you preach, maybe? No one will leave women with boundaries be, but I guess you don't consider them people?
    In conversation about a year ago from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Tuesday, 04-Mar-2025 23:58:13 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
    AP, you are closing in on writing an unbiased article about trans. Eliminate "assigned at birth" from your phrasing and you'll be even closer.
    https://apnews.com/article/transgender-athletes-congress-dfd81b15ebc09409f1bf6c8642f130f3
    In conversation about a year ago from spinster.xyz permalink

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      Bill to ban trans athletes from girls' and women's sports teams fails to advance in Senate
      from https://apnews.com/author/stephen-groves
      The Senate has rejected legislation aiming to bar transgender women and girls from participating in school athletic competitions designated for female athletes.
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Tuesday, 04-Mar-2025 23:58:12 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
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    • HebrideanHecate
    @HebrideanHecate The lawmakers moaning about how this would negatively affect kids are so obnoxious. They don't think about the majority of girls at all. I have no love for the Rs and their delinquent president, but the Ds need to address their misogyny.
    In conversation about a year ago from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Tuesday, 04-Mar-2025 23:48:01 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
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    @KeepTakingTheSoma I don't either, but then the algorithm starting giving me posts about her again for no reason.
    In conversation about a year ago from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Monday, 03-Mar-2025 07:29:57 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
    I begging the chronically online to PLEASE stop pathologizing everything you do. You don't have maladaptive daydreaming, you're just an obsessive nerd with a working imagination like the rest of us!
    In conversation about a year ago from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 01-Mar-2025 23:11:40 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
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    • TriptychTwinsRidesAgain
    @TriptychTwinsRidesAgain What a pathetic non-answer that was.
    In conversation about a year ago from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 22-Feb-2025 02:52:04 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
    Getting cosmetic hormones and surgery for free is not a human right.

    People calling you by the name and/or pronouns you don't like is not a crime.

    Single sex spaces and services do not prevent any human being from using the restroom, playing sports, winning awards, getting decent medical care, finding shelter, etc. And if they are, it's probably due to an inequality other than "transphobia."

    Sex markers on official documents are not there to make you feel good about yourself. They are there for the purposes of population data collection/analysis and resolving emergencies. Falsifying them is dangerous.

    I know I'm just preaching to the choir here, but I needed to put these words somewhere.
    In conversation about a year ago from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Friday, 07-Feb-2025 02:10:19 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
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    • HebrideanHecate
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    • TriptychTwinsRidesAgain
    @polarisera @HebrideanHecate @Flick @TriptychTwinsRidesAgain What a terrible day to be literate.
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Friday, 07-Feb-2025 02:07:24 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
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    • TriptychTwinsRidesAgain
    @TriptychTwinsRidesAgain Ummm... there are sets that are marketed towards girls, but you... have free will and don't have to view them as "girls only sets"? Aside from that, lego has been one of the most gender neutral toys in the world.

    File this under "everything is transphobia" and "curators had no good ideas."
    In conversation about a year ago from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 09-Jan-2025 19:01:08 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
    • Jerrica makes art
    What kinds of things should go on the bookmarks?

    RT: https://spinster.xyz/objects/fa2c88a2-732b-4af0-9b24-c97d571cb004
    In conversation Thursday, 09-Jan-2025 19:01:08 JST from spinster.xyz permalink

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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Friday, 27-Dec-2024 01:55:27 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
    Let the AI dystopia begin. Everyone made fun of creatives for being worried, but the rich AI supporters WILL find a way to automate you out of your job AND your passion. They are anti-human, and not only do they want every adult to become a hopeless wage slave, they want to train the next generation to be even more complacent.

    https://ovarit.com/o/STEM/638160/arizona-schools-curriculum-will-be-taught-by-ai-no-teachers
    In conversation Friday, 27-Dec-2024 01:55:27 JST from spinster.xyz permalink

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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Monday, 23-Dec-2024 12:52:49 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
    I think one of the many insidious psychological phenomena that accompany trans identification is a false sense of self-awareness. They believe they know themselves and their own personality in a deeper way, but are stuck on a superficial level of understanding because they're scared of the truth.
    In conversation Monday, 23-Dec-2024 12:52:49 JST from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Monday, 23-Dec-2024 12:50:59 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
    Maybe a controversial take on here: I like cats fine, but I don't LOVE them.
    In conversation Monday, 23-Dec-2024 12:50:59 JST from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Jerrica makes art (jmakesart@spinster.xyz)'s status on Tuesday, 10-Dec-2024 08:00:13 JST Jerrica makes art Jerrica makes art
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    • EatKnitSleep
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    • Elle Palmer
    @KeepTakingTheSoma @EatKnitSleepAgain @Sherri_Ingrey @ellepalmer1 It really is. Requiring complete ideological purity kills independent thought.
    In conversation Tuesday, 10-Dec-2024 08:00:13 JST from spinster.xyz permalink
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    Artist, maker, lover of birds and stories. Occasionally I say something good.

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