...This seems like a mind-numbingly stupid assertion, but it is a belief that millions of people incorporate into their lives every day."
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...This seems like a mind-numbingly stupid assertion, but it is a belief that millions of people incorporate into their lives every day."
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"Few developed nations are as hostile to women entering and staying in the workplace as the United States, the only peer nation that does not require employers to offer paid family or maternity leave. Many people continue to believe that money, as conservative Wisconsin state senator Glenn Grothman argued when voting against equal pay legislation in 2012, is 'more important for men,' [who], he added, 'may be a little more money conscious.' Given the reality of our lives...
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...and having more stress than any other demographic group in the United States."
--Soraya Chemaly,
RAGE BECOMES HER: THE POWER OF WOMEN'S ANGER
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This might be the start of a thread of quotes from this well-written, extremely eye-opening, and essential book
Well, this is disturbing.
"Today [2018] 40 percent of millennials are parents, and, as parents, many hold neotraditionalist views of gender. Among millennial men *without* children, 35 percent believe women should 'take care of the home and children,' a nine-point increase above GenXers and a fourteen-point jump above men older than forty-five.
"...It should come as no surprise that millennial women report feeling more constrained by gender stereotypes...
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...Within like groups, men's ability to work full-time, uninterrupted and for higher wages, is greater and, significantly, made so by women 'not working' and providing them with unpaid care resources.
"And yet being angry about this is so, well, UGLY."
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"There are always some women higher on the [ladder] than some men, and most men are trying their hardest to provide and care for their families. However, while masculinity brings with its own costs, the assumption of feminized and largely unpaid care is a very specific tax on women and their families....
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...as writer and activist Gloria Steinem called it long ago, would be impossible."
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"...(T)he discrimination men and women face in their capacities as caregivers results directly from the DEVALUATION OF WOMEN in the society.
"Women's unpaid and undervalued care work stands as the single greatest wealth transfer in today's global economy. Without this provision of care, markets would crash, economies would grind to a halt, and men could not continue to dominate entire job sectors and institutional hierarchies. Without it, the 'masculinization of wealth'...
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"...[A] fetus isn't only gestating inside a woman's body but *is* the woman's body. Each stage, from zygote to newborn, materializes FROM HER BODY: particle by particle, cell by cell, hair by hair, bone by bone. Her cells, her blood, her plasma, her placenta, her hormones, her water, her digested food, her movement, her anxiety, her fear, her pain, her discomfort, her joy, her wonder, her hopes, and her labor."
That baby *was* my body.
Only I have the right to decide what to do with my body.
...to manage it at all. Each decision she makes--or, even more importantly, is socially prohibited from making--affect her body, her relationships, her ability to earn a living, and her sense of self.
"Just a woman's *potential* for pregnancy affects how the people around her think about her and her capabilities and responsibilities. It also provides dangerous rationales for paternalistic male oversight."
--Soraya Chemaly,
RAGE BECOMES HER
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"Regardless of whether or not a woman ever has a child, ideals of motherhood shape our identities; our economic, political, and social lives; and our emotions. Maternity--and our relationship to it--informs many of the most important decisions we make as women and many of the most important decisions that are made *for us* as women.
"The demands of motherhood as an ideology, frame the thirty to forty years an average woman spends managing her fertility, if she is lucky enough to be able...
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"As mothers, women aren't supposed to care if they have status or not. Which is good because, despite so much vacuous political blather about how important this work is, our society demonstrably does not support us and, indeed, sees motherhood & care work as low status pastimes.
"The anger we experience as the result of demands that we care & care & care runs through our bodies like a current.
"Sometimes we throw plates. What we should be throwing are people with retrograde ideas out of office."
"How do average girls and women feel about what is happening around them? Once in awhile, I will read an article by a woman at her limit, sickened by images of misogynistic violence used for casual fun. She might swear off of certain movies or products. But in truth, there is no escaping them. All you have to do is glance at a newspaper or online news source....
"...We bury these unnerving stories deeply.... Personally, I've developed an absurd skill, that of being able to weaponize...
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The only things I enjoyed about being pregnant were feeling her kick and seeing her on the 3-D ultrasound.
That's it. I enjoyed literally nothing else about being pregnant. It was painful, nauseating, exhausting, relentlessly confusing, disempowering, objectifying, frustrating, depressing, and scary.
I know that this isn't every woman's experience, but it was mine. And those who haven't experienced pregnancy yet have the right to know it's potentially utterly unenjoyable. That's reality.
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"The number of people struggling with pregnancy-related stress, pain, and anger at a time that we collectively pretend is the happiest of their lives is staggering."
--Soraya Chemaly
Full disclosure: my two pregnancies were NOT the happiest times of my life. They were two of the most miserable.
The first, because it ended in miscarriage.
The second, because I was nauseated nonstop for 7 months (lost 10lbs during 1st trimester) & spent the entire pregnancy terrified I'd lose this one too.
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"For the record, being treated like a fetal container is enraging."
--Soraya Chemaly,
RAGE BECOMES HER
YES.
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All y'all really need to read this book.
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...the risks women must take as they navigate boys and men....
"...We are experts at risk taking. We are also experts at setting aside our pride, hiding our humiliation, shrinking our ambitions, and carefully calibrating our resentments."
--Soraya Chemaly,
RAGE BECOMES HER
#SorayaChemaly
#RageBecomesHer
#women
#WomensRage
#misogyny
#RapeCulture
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...virtually anything. I wear thick, heavy, and sharp-ended metal hair pins. I order hot tea when I travel alone on airplanes, easily spillable on a handsy neighbor. The list goes on and on.
"We take risks. Like walking around our own communities.... Forty-five percent (of women) say they do not feel safe compared to 73% of men (who) reported that they do....
"Most of us learn to think that boys and men are the world's risk-takers, but that is only because we don't seriously address...
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...across the criminal justice system, 'women murdered by male partners are seen as property.' Property can't fight back."
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