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You have the mindset that you "must" serve your girlfriend/wife/whatever she is. I warn you that you put your relationship in jeopardy if you continue that idea. You are given authority by God to be the leader of your house hold.

You again are conflating servitude with provision. Did Solomon serve his thousands of concubines and wives? Did David? No. They served him and he provided for them. Servitude implies submission.