>a fraternity

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You've got a bead on it. He pressed endlessly for me to join a fraternity, too

I talked to them. Didn't join. There came a point where I had to (sadly) keep my dad out of my affairs for some years. He probably could have given me better advice for some parts during that time (I was young, so of course), but I needed his "He won't mind if I sign him up for this, drop him out of this" and so on overreach away.