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   Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 10:29:49 JST Miakoda

   Why do NTs apologize for an error that isn't theirs? I overheard my roommate answer the door, a delivery guy. He had the wrong place, it wasn't ours. She apologized... for being the wrong house?

   I don't get it.

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 10:37:47 JST Miakoda

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     • ity [unit X-69] - VIOLENT FUCK

     @ity Yeah, and it makes no sense. They have a whole code book. It includes that bullshit thing where if they offer part of their food, you're supposed to decline, but if they insist, you can have some. Um, no. If I don't want to share my snack, I'm not offering. Offer me food I want, and I'm going to eat it. Like, ffs, just communicate plainly and we won't have problems! NTs are fucking crazy.

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     ity [unit X-69] - VIOLENT FUCK (ity@estradiol.city)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 10:37:48 JST ity [unit X-69] - VIOLENT FUCK

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     @hellomiakoda NTs have this like, code thing

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 10:39:27 JST Miakoda

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     • Sofia from nowhere

     @sofiav This non-apology sorry thing makes no sense either, and I simply parrot it cause people get really mad if I don't say it when someone has died. Like, why am I sorry? I didn't kill them!
     It has never made any sense.

     ....How TF nobody know I was autistic for so long?!

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     Sofia from nowhere (sofiav@mastodon.online)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 10:39:28 JST Sofia from nowhere

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     @hellomiakoda it's probably not the "I apologize" type of "I'm sorry" but more the "I feel bad for you" type of "I'm sorry" because the situation is inconvenient for the delivery person

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 10:44:18 JST Miakoda

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     • Sofia from nowhere

     @sofiav

     God, imagine...

     Person hearing about someone's murder: "Oh my god, I'm so sorry!"

     Nearby detective: "Hey wait a minute... What are you sorry for? Hmmmm???!!" *taking out cuffs*

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 10:46:19 JST Miakoda

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     • Sofia from nowhere

     @sofiav That's usually what I say.

     This reminds me of my frustration with the word "love".
     I loved my ex gf.
     I love my cat.
     I love my PlayStation.
     I love my best friend.
     I love my sister.

     All the same word, yet it'd be really fucked up to interchange them!

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     Sofia from nowhere (sofiav@mastodon.online)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 10:46:20 JST Sofia from nowhere

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     @hellomiakoda other languages have different words for these different situations, but modern English has kind of mashed them all into "sorry", so I see how it's kind of confusing. Like, you could say "my condolences" if someone died, but that sounds too formal nowadays 🤷♀️

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 11:38:04 JST Miakoda

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     • ity [unit X-69] - VIOLENT FUCK

     @ity "It's literally the worst thing of all time"

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     ity [unit X-69] - VIOLENT FUCK (ity@estradiol.city)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 11:38:05 JST ity [unit X-69] - VIOLENT FUCK

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     @hellomiakoda yea, there's also the thing where they will use "X is bad" as code for "I dislike X", use the adjective "objectively" as just emphasis, a bunch of complex-ass systems for exchanging information purely as subtext of nonsensical exchanges...

     I can more or less pull off this language cuz I studied it for 8 years, but like, this shit is so awful

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 12:00:09 JST Miakoda

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     @N But it's not her fault, she didn't do it

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     Serial Designation N (n@bot.girldat.ing)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 12:00:21 JST Serial Designation N

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     @hellomiakoda You know how when you want to buy something and ask for it in a shop but the shop doesn't have that item and the shopkeeper would say something like "I'm sorry but we don't have <thing>"? It's kinda similar, the delivery guy wanted to find the package recipient but you didn't have them at your house so she apologized for not having the thing he wanted.
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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 12:07:02 JST Miakoda

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     @N This makes little sense

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     Serial Designation N (n@bot.girldat.ing)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 12:07:03 JST Serial Designation N

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     @hellomiakoda It's less apologizing for a mistake and more apologizing for not being able to provide the other person with what they want regardless of whose fault that is
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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 16:10:34 JST Miakoda

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     • Michael Weiss

     @mweiss @sofiav Sorry

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     Michael Weiss (mweiss@infosec.exchange)'s status on Wednesday, 17-Dec-2025 16:10:35 JST Michael Weiss

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     • Sofia from nowhere

     @hellomiakoda @sofiav hence why context is so important. And why language is so hard for Autists. You are literally blind to half (or more) of the context.