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@cassidyclown @Humpleupagus @Xenophon you'll have to let your conscious be your guide.
We got married in an accelerated schedule to start trying for kids because of a murder/suicide that hit close to home. It was a destination wedding about 5 hours away and the only non-immediate family was my father's only sibling (because it was the only family wedding she got to attend) and our friend that was officiating. We had a small reception that day, but held a party for inviting everyone at our one year that would be reception caliber in scale. I had more than one uncle from my mother's side thank me for doing it that way because they hate wedding ceremonies. But that's my family and my situation.
You can send a message and be absent in protest, or attend and pull him aside and air your grievance. If one of my uncle's felt like you do, I would rather him tell me the same as you'd rather have had him tell you about the wedding. Two wrongs and that type.
I also made the joke that I didn't want to bother them if the marriage failed in the first year.
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I don't get the two wrongs. A wrong presumes an obligation. What I've been invited to is no more a wedding reception than an man on estrogen is a woman. Identifying it as a reception doesn't make it one.
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This is a common belief that again, I don't personally agree with. I know plenty of people that feel if they didn't just watch you get married, then what's the point? Like having your birthday party the week after. I would judge it by intent. If the intent was forwhatever reason tp have a very small wedding and then a reception later on for the family, I don't see a huge problem. If he excluded ypu from the wedding but not others I do see a problem. Also I think he is an idiot because they shouldn't have told anyone. It's called eloping and had existed for longer than zoomers have lived.
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> If the intent was for whatever reason tp have a very small wedding and then a reception later.
I think your confused about one fact — to my knowledge there was no intent to hold a reception later. Prior to the wedding, there were several communications between family members regarding the wedding, and not a single mention was made about this reception. The first time I heard about the reception was several weeks after the wedding. I assume word got out that several people were upset and he's playing clean up his mess.
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That's what I was asking. If that's the case then yeah fuck him. The proper way to do a destination wedding is to still invite everyone but go to a place you know they won't come, or at a time they cant/won't travel. Then they don't feel left out. Sounds like he is retarded.
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I'm not trying to get salty about it either. I can take a lot of shit as you know, but the one thing the can get me is being disrespected. And shit like this gets me in the feels.
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There was no "budget" constraints. Everyone who was invited paid for their own trip.
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Maybe expenses wouldn't allow them to host that many people wherever they went so they had to pick and choose a few but desired more.
Unless I'm missing something I'd go if it meant that much.
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My wedding wasn't like this though. 🤷♂️
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I think everyone is overcomplicating this. Weddings mean nothing to people other than being a party and the woman is princess for a day. There is no religious significance to them. They do a destination wedding to have fun. They can’t even get married outside the country legally so they get married in the US in the courthouse to then go play pretend wedding in some vacation spot. And they don’t want everyone there. Hence the lack of invitations. But they still want the party. So they do the “reception” back in the states and invite all potential gift givers. It’s about them having fun and satisfying the woman’s demands. That’s it.
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I didn't complicate nuffin, lady ☕️
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You were the princess, right? 😏
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@Rose @Omega_Variant @cassidyclown @Humpleupagus @Xenophon @EnnaComa When I got married... Shit!
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Yes. They've lived together for years. They own a house together too.
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Well I imagine that was many years ago. And perhaps you actually see the religious significance of marriage. Hence why you’re still successfully married.
But most people getting married now days just don’t. Let me ask you, was your nephew sleeping with/living with his wife before they got married?
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