This is a common belief that again, I don't personally agree with. I know plenty of people that feel if they didn't just watch you get married, then what's the point? Like having your birthday party the week after. I would judge it by intent. If the intent was forwhatever reason tp have a very small wedding and then a reception later on for the family, I don't see a huge problem. If he excluded ypu from the wedding but not others I do see a problem. Also I think he is an idiot because they shouldn't have told anyone. It's called eloping and had existed for longer than zoomers have lived.