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   Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:49 JST Danielle Foré

   Haha classic. Thanks, anon. Not very creative though 😜

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     Haha got a couple of transphobic comments. The right really can’t meme. Oh no babe, my chromosomes? Oh you really got me 😂

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     Oof gotta be the, “You know the difference between jam and jelly?”

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     Not sure but I think I’m still working on it in therapy 😅

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     Yes absolutely, I’ve done a decent amount of traveling and California is my favorite place in the world and I love living here. It’s beautiful, there’s so much good food, places to visit, things to do, diverse culture to experience

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     I’m really sorry to hear that, anon. I wish I had good advice for you. I’m not a parent but I imagine that is a heartbreaking experience. My first instinct is family therapist. I really hope that she can find a way to accept you as her mom!

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     Hmm I mean, I’m definitely not the arbiter of what it means to be a leftist, but I would say it’s hard to be a leftist if you don’t support trans rights because trans rights are mostly bodily autonomy rights and medical privacy rights which have a heavy overlap with like reproductive rights. But as far as understanding that trans people are the gender we say we are, I’m not sure that’s a political statement in and of itself. That’s just something true I guess 😅

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:41 JST Danielle Foré

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     You know it’s funny, I was talking to Alice about this the other day. When I first came out and was still boymoding it was very convenient to have a gender neutral nickname, but now that I present female full time there are some instances where I would prefer people call me Danielle just so I know for sure that I’m not being misgendered lol In some ways makes me wonder if I should have done a bigger name change. But yeah Dani is still fine, I just also like hearing my full name :)

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     Spicy take. I feel like I’ve seen more veterans that were pushed through the system because they had no other opportunities and have come out of the system disabled and hating the military, so I’m more inclined to see veterans as victims of the system than perpetrators of it personally

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:41 JST Danielle Foré

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     For me this has two parts:
     1. I do think hate speech should come with criminal penalties, and in the US it does not.
     2. I don’t think jail is efficient or effective for most crimes. I think our justice system should focus on rehabilitation over punishment. So I think sentencing for hate speech should probably look like a class on diversity and inclusion, maybe community service, and I think imprisonment should really only be a punishment if someone has been deemed an actual danger

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:41 JST Danielle Foré

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     Aww, love you too anon 🥰😚

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:42 JST Danielle Foré

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     Ah hm, I don’t think so? I follow some really amazing women that are very cute, but I think someone can be amazing and cute and just like be a friend and not a crush

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:42 JST Danielle Foré

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     I super appreciate your kind words! In all fairness though I have been paid for like the last 8-9 years of my work on elementary, so it is my full time job. I sometimes struggle with wondering about if I’m using my time to really make an impact though so I do really appreciate the sentiment 🩷

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     Oh man, I wish I had like a good answer for you but if I’m being completely honest with you I have absolutely struggled regularly with not wanting to keep getting up in the morning. I’m burnt out a lot. I’m depressed sometimes. I dunno. Pizza? Brunch with my best friend? My cat needing to be fed? I’m not a highly motivated person or like an inspirational do anything kind of person. I try really hard at things I care about, but that’s all I got haha

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     Oof this is a tough one anon. There’s something to be said about not being to accept compliments that you don’t already believe. That self acceptance piece is so important. That said, my favorite compliments to get are ones that come from a place of genuine admiration for who I am as a person or something I’ve worked hard to achieve. It’s nice to be told you’re attractive, but it’s affirming to hear that you’re appreciated and noticed and recognized

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     Lol someone sent me the AI Ben Shapiro doing the “Which country is 🏳️⚧️ and why are all the girls from there so cute?”

     It’s because we finally love ourselves! Trans glow ups are such a thing because it’s like you finally get to appreciate who you are and your body and your place in society and liking who you are as it turns out is a very attractive trait

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     The thing you have to take into account is that going through natal puberty is also a permanent life altering choice. Puberty blockers are safe and reversible for kids who think they might be trans until they can be diagnosed. Forcing trans kids to go through the changes associated with natal puberty is not only traumatizing and painful, but it means those adults will have to undergo completely avoidable surgery and treatment to reverse what they can and just accept what they can’t

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:42 JST Danielle Foré

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     😂 Thanks anon, that got me good lmao absolutely not

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:42 JST Danielle Foré

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     🥺🫶 Thank you, anon. I’m glad

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:43 JST Danielle Foré

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     I could probably do a whole thread on what to do about Christian nationalism, but I don’t think that we can fight oppression with more opression and especially not against a foe who fantasizes about being an underdog. Lady justice is blind. We should create laws to protect ourselves from religious extremism, but singling out a specific religious group in the law isn’t the way to do it imo

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:43 JST Danielle Foré

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     It’s wild that there’s enough of us for it to be kind of a trope, but ultimately we are a minority within a minority within a minority. I’m not sure I have helpful advice since I’m in kind of a unique and privileged position with work. It is definitely frustrating to face transphobia, homophobia, sexism, and ableism all at once when you’re just trying to get your work done. I’m sorry that you’re having to deal with it all 🫂 I rely pretty heavily on therapy personally

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:43 JST Danielle Foré

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     I’m not gonna post the image here, but hopefully the response makes sense without it:

     I don’t think we should speculate on or out someone as being LGBTQIA+ (full acronym here because it’s an important reminder of who all is included) regardless of whether or not they are a good person. It sucks that there are queer people who use their power to hurt other queer people, but I think it’s important that we don’t use queer acceptance as a reward for good behavior.

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:43 JST Danielle Foré

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     Haha thanks, anon. You might not see it, but I do make an effort to hand out compliments liberally :) but in case you haven’t gotten one from me lately:

     You look cute, you did a great job, and I’m proud of you! I’m glad you exist and I appreciate that you use your time to make this world just a little bit nicer to live in. Thank you 🩷

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:43 JST Danielle Foré

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     Mexican on my dad’s side and Irish/English on my mom’s side

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:43 JST Danielle Foré

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     It’s understandably difficult to feel like part of an out group. Remember not all cis girls get periods either. But there’s also other symptoms associated with a period besides just menstruation that many trans girls do experience. Might be worth tracking changes in sleep, mood, appetite, watching for symptoms like headaches, night sweats, dry skin, diarrhea, stomach cramps, fatigue, acne. You may be having a period, it’s just much less obvious if you’re only looking for menstruation

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:43 JST Danielle Foré

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     Not sure I understand this statement. Trans people are more likely to be unemployed, poor, or face homelessness. Four times more likely to be assaulted, including sexual assault. 3 times as likely to go hungry. That’s before getting to the issue of accessing healthcare, so there are some big material needs issues in our demographic. Access to counseling is super important, but given the choice between therapy and a safe home with food and HRT, I know which one is more important to me

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     Oh noooo. Is it weird that I think this is probably only appropriate to use with someone who does have a chronic health condition?

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:44 JST Danielle Foré

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     I don’t know :( it’s frustrating and it makes me sad because I love California and I love Sacramento and I hate being afraid that the rest of the county will affect us. I really want to believe that there will be a breaking point and it get better somehow

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:44 JST Danielle Foré

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     Honestly I’d rather fucking not. I know how to fire a rifle if it comes down to it, but I’m old and have problems with my breathing

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     Lmao, something something character limits. Also, what counts as an ex? I feel like the older I get some of the relationships I’ve had feel a lot less meaningful and being completely honest I don’t remember the names of everyone I’ve dated anymore 😅 I think the most important question I ask myself about my past relationships is if I learned and changed and grew, whether that means I fell short as a partner or learned not to accept less.

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:44 JST Danielle Foré

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     I do not. I canceled my Netflix a while ago. I mostly watch anime tbh. I finished Horimiya recently and The Girl Next Door Spoils Me Rotten. Also currently watching Demon Slayer and Vinland Saga. Explosion On This Wonderful World has been cute. Oh In/Spectre I saw recently and that was good.

     Apple TV+, Extrapolations is good and pretty wild. It gives Black Mirror vibes kinda. Shrinking was cute. Big Door Prize is alright but I haven’t been like hooked on it.

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     Like 5’9”ish. 5’10”. (~176-177cm). Sadly much taller than the women’s average here and also much taller than other women in my family. My mom is like 5’3” (160cm) so I’m a giant next to her

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     Someone left some shitty transphobic comments about my body 🙄 Don’t know what the point of that is tbh. How insecure must you be to want to tear down others? I’ve never felt more attractive in my life. I doubt that anon can say the same 💁🏻♀️

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     Danielle Foré (danirabbit@mastodon.online)'s status on Thursday, 18-Jan-2024 09:45:44 JST Danielle Foré

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     I’d like to spend more time in Europe in general! I’ve been to Spain a couple times but I would love to see France and Italy. I’d like to see more of Germany. I’ve never been to Netherlands or the Nordic countries. Ireland. I’ve also never been to Asia or Oceania at all. Basically anywhere that I’m not illegal or in danger to go, I would like to see it

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     I’m sorry anon 🫂 It is really hard to navigate these kinds of relationships with family. It’s unfair that it feels like we have to sometimes accept these uncomfortable and hurtful things. I try really hard to focus on intent and giving grace to people who are genuinely trying, but also remember that we can take space when it’s overwhelming

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     Haha I guess Greek just because that’s what I’m more familiar with? I probably should learn more about Norse mythology tbh. Educate me anon. I’m here to learn 👩🏻🎓

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     As far as I understand there is a high “co-morbidity” between autism and gender dysphoria, but neither of these diagnosis are trauma-induced. Trans and neurodivergent people often experience trauma because of the way society treats us, but trauma doesn’t cause us to be trans or neurodivergent

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     Personally I find the concept of “laziness” to be kind of ableist and shitty. If you’re happy not going out much, then there’s nothing you need to change, anon. Some people get energized by being around other people and some get drained. I just had two social days in a row and I am done interacting with people for a while lol. I do not want to be social next weekend for sure.

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     Kind of a philosophical question right? I think generally the idea of virginity is kind of heteronormative and patriarchal. Like if you think about what constitutes virginity in a queer context, it becomes a lot harder to justify its existence. But with my purely feels-no-thoughts hat on, I do kind of feel that way. Like there will be a clear delineation for me where I will be able to experience sex “for the first time” in a body that I’m actually comfortable in and that’s fun to think about

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     Thank you mommy 😘

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     You’re*! Also, thank you 🥰

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     Aww. I only date ladies anon just so you’re aware, but I’m always down for drinks!

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     Hmm I guess coffee? I dunno I have hot coffee every morning. Besides coffee, like hot apple cider is pretty great

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     I mean, if you want to not pirate it then get a Switch? There’s a ton of Mario games included in Switch Online 🤷🏻♀️

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     Bruh 😒

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     In a public bathroom lmao. I was like 16 I think? If teens don’t have a safe place to do it, they will do it in unsafe places. That’s all I have to say about that 😂

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     Somebody figured out the AI thing and used it to send me what I think was intended to be homophobic Joe Biden

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     Lol, if you’re a straight couple your wife is correct 😂

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     Oh nooooo. You understood the assignment anon lmao. I’m sure you’re a wonderful person though and could attract people all on your own 😘

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     I’m not sure there’s a “general orthodoxy” but as far as common tropes, I cringe really hard at suggestion that someone is only their gender once they come out or start HRT. Like the Dylan Mulvaney “n days of being a girl” thing I think is ultimately harmful to less privileged trans folks and can even come across as transmedicalist. On the flip side I will absolutely die on the hill that trans women on HRT are biologically women and have transitioned their sex, not just their gender presentation

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     Haha so gross, anon. A true confession. I do not ever drink milk by itself and I haven’t purchased cow milk in probably years, with the exception of like buttermilk for a recipe. I pretty much only use milk when cooking and it’s oat milk for me

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     Omg spill the details, anon. Where? Of what? The people deserve to know 👀

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     I am dating currently, yes 😊 Not trying super hard at it right now but I’m open to finding someone great

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     Haha, the way I see it my AGAB may have been male but no I wouldn’t say I was ever a man. I tried real hard to be one, but I wasn’t very good at it. So glad I gave that up 😅

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     Sadly this did not make noise when I opened it. I have no idea how this is intended to work. Boo. Sorry anon. I’m doing great though! Started off my day with a tough Apple Fitness+ strength training workout and then some yoga and I’m gonna go do dinner and see Guardians of the Galaxy later with friends 🩷

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     As long as you’re not mean, anon. We’re here to have fun and maybe learn some things :)

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     Haha I wish I could hear these! No worries and I bet you’re both great too!

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     Probably the closest thing is Disc Golf! One of my goals this year is to get back to playing. I got decent at it a couple years back and I’d love to play in the local tournament again

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     Male failing before HRT is awesome! I did not experience that haha. I think it took me like 6 months of HRT before people really started to assume I’m a woman and probably a year+ before I really felt like I see a woman in the mirror every day.

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     Thanks anon. Always appreciate a compliment 🥰

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     Lmao. I am not huge on dogs myself. I feel like they can be a bit of a sensory overload and there’s a lot of dog owners who will just not care if their dog is jumping on you or shoving their nose in your crotch in a public place and it feels very inconsiderate.

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     🩷 Thanks, anon! If you attend any open source conferences we may indeed meet someday! I still need to get my passport sorted but once I do I’m hoping to get back out there

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     Be careful! Drink responsibly. Have a plan to be able to get home at any time and ideally a safe sober person that you can reach out to if you need help. No judgement, anon, just be safe :)

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     Ones I’ve watched repeatedly include like obviously Miyazaki films and Akira and other classics. But as far as shows, I’ve seen Full Metal Alchemist several times, Your Lie in April, Yu Yu Hakusho. Mushoku Tensei I’ve seen twice and loved it both times. Made in Abyss is horrific and beautiful. I’ve actually watched the first season of SAO like 3 or 4 times as well haha