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   Ellen Teapot 🇨🇦🏳️‍⚧️ (asmallteapot@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 29-Dec-2023 08:28:36 JST Ellen Teapot 🇨🇦🏳️‍⚧️

   If you – as a cis person – ever find yourself litigating with a trans person whether something technically counts as deadnaming or not, just stop. https://hachyderm.io/@mekkaokereke/111659816370739044

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     carl marks (tillshadeisgone@blackqueer.life)'s status on Friday, 29-Dec-2023 08:28:23 JST carl marks

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     • Jay Grant 🏳️‍⚧️

     @asmallteapot @jenigrant @mekkaokereke

     Ah yes, of course anyone who disagrees with your complete mischaracterization of the situation isn't trans enough™️

     Ugh

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     Ellen Teapot 🇨🇦🏳️‍⚧️ (asmallteapot@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 29-Dec-2023 08:28:24 JST Ellen Teapot 🇨🇦🏳️‍⚧️

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     • Jay Grant 🏳️‍⚧️

     @jenigrant @mekkaokereke You’ve been out for two months, get back to me when you’ve been harassed out of a job and then we’ll litigate what is and isn’t transphobia

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     Jay Grant 🏳️‍⚧️ (jenigrant@triangletoot.party)'s status on Friday, 29-Dec-2023 08:28:31 JST Jay Grant 🏳️‍⚧️

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     @asmallteapot @mekkaokereke Mekka is not being transphobic, you're being racist. Nimarata is not a deadname, Nikki Haley is not trans, and I'm not okay with you trying to excuse your racism as "the big bad cis people are dogpiling me"

     Do better yourself.

     ETA: and leave the rest of us trans people the fuck outta this, cause no.

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     Ellen Teapot 🇨🇦🏳️‍⚧️ (asmallteapot@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 29-Dec-2023 08:28:32 JST Ellen Teapot 🇨🇦🏳️‍⚧️

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     • mekka okereke :verified:

     @mekkaokereke You invoked transphobia in the first place?? Can you show me where I said to be polite to racists? Or where I cried? Are you just here to demean and diminish trans people who aren’t useful to your cause?

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     mekka okereke :verified: (mekkaokereke@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 29-Dec-2023 08:28:33 JST mekka okereke :verified:

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     @asmallteapot

     No.

     Go away. Don't come in my mentions being wrong about what deadname means, and asking me to be more polite to racists. The answer is no.

     Don't come off half-baked in my mentions, then cry when I don't bow down.

     And don't come back here until you do something demonstrable to combat anti-Blackness. Otherwise, you're just in my way. We don't have the same goals. Maybe why we have no Black mutuals.

     Stay away from me. Go hang out with "anti-racists" that are acceptably polite.

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     Ellen Teapot 🇨🇦🏳️‍⚧️ (asmallteapot@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 29-Dec-2023 08:28:34 JST Ellen Teapot 🇨🇦🏳️‍⚧️

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     • mekka okereke :verified:

     I have been offline for the past few hours and really do not appreciate how @mekkaokereke has used his platform to dogpile me for a pretty banal objection to something he said.

     Do better.

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     carl marks (tillshadeisgone@blackqueer.life)'s status on Saturday, 30-Dec-2023 07:32:30 JST carl marks

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     • Jay Grant 🏳️‍⚧️

     @NoFlexZone @jenigrant @mekkaokereke

     to be honest it's hard to even parse the basis of what they are saying because every time someone tried to follow the logic with them, they or some other white person would just claim they aren't allowed to dispute deadnaming for some bullshit reason.

     Either they're cis, or they haven't been out for long enough to have a say, or they're TME, etc etc etc

     It's obvious they have no clue about why any colonized person would do anything. Typical white queer trying to use their queerness to shut down any conversation about race because it makes them uncomfortable and then getting mad that the Black person won't just obey and shut up. Just another day on fedi.

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     DieMadColonizer (noflexzone@blacktwitter.io)'s status on Saturday, 30-Dec-2023 07:32:31 JST DieMadColonizer

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     • carl marks
     • Jay Grant 🏳️‍⚧️

     @tillshadeisgone @asmallteapot @jenigrant

     So this person doesn't know the history of how colonized people feel pressure to anglicize their names (shit this even effected/effects non-anglo colonizers) thus @mekkaokereke is "deadnaming"? Do I have that right?