Notices by Ricki Crush Bandicute Tarr (rickitarr@beige.party)

I feel incredibly lucky to have a husband who will cry with me. We've been through so much together. The strength gained through mutual expression is life changing.

Something that cracks me up is the way humans talk about other animals. Be sure to wash your hands after you touch (insert animal here) they carry diseases. So do we, kiddos, so do we.

Toxic Patriarchy and Social Expectations that tells men they will be mocked and shunned by women for expressing difficult emotions and opening up.

Conservative men not mentioning they are Conservative on dating apps, because they fear Conservative women will hold them to these same toxic expectations.

Conservative men crying on the internet, because liberal women dump them when they find out they are indeed Conservative.

"No women want men to cry or express emotions." says man who blatantly lied to women, because he doesn't like the society he perpetuates, but only wants to change the parts that make his life harder.

I truly wish men felt less alone, and more able to express themselves, and I do know women who have been conditioned with the expectation that it is weak for men to cry, but the answer to this is always the same, equality, and yeah, probably therapy too. Healthy Expression is a skill many people are never taught, so it must be learned.

I remember when Handmaid's Tale first came out, my brother told me, I needed to watch it. So, I watched two episodes, and he asked what I thought. I said it was well made and had great acting, he asked if I wanted to watch more, and I replied, "Absolutely not, it's just too real."

I'm going to keep saying the Save Act is an attack on Traditional Marriage, until Republican heads explode.

You ever see something that looks wrong, and then you have to decide if there is something wrong with it or it's just you, personally.

My Dad was a very blunt person, who's routine was very important to him. The first time my parents had a get-together at their house, at 9 pm, my Dad stood up and said, "Everyone needs to leave now, it's time for bed."

Everyone was surprised, but they did as they were asked, and once everyone was gone, my Mom told him that it wasn't appropriate to just tell everyone they had to leave like that. So, the next time they had a get-together my Dad stood up at 9 pm, he said, "It's my bed time, my wife can tell you when to leave."

Me: I shouldn't make things harder for myself.

Also Me:

The funny thing about those shows like House or Sherlock is that they act like it's okay to be mean if you're in pain, like they can't help it somehow. I know lots of people, including myself, who have had chronic pain conditions for decades, and we manage to be somewhat pleasant people. Buck up baby, everyone has something, you're just a dick.

Sometimes I see comments sections, and my mind is blown. People just can't stop talking about other people's bodies. It's so fucking weird. They are too fat, too, skinny, hair is too long, too short, definitely had work done, should have work done, too masculine, too feminine, too much makeup, not enough makeup, clothes too slutty, clothes too modest, too young, too old. Aren't people exhausted by this, when it's all so arbitrary? Other people's bodies aren't anyone's business. Why would anyone even care?

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/apr/07/trump-tariffs-lawsuit

Oh no, the billionaires are mad at each other!!!

Obsessed with the amount of spite it took to make this map:

Every time I see a Sloth, I think Sentient Coconut.

One of the things I find fascinating about literature is that at some point a writer combined a few words together, and we all collectively decided we liked it, and now it's hard to separate those words. Here are two of my favorites:

Sheen of Sweat
Dappled Light

Please share your favorites too!

Conservative White People: We are tired of you all calling us racist!

Everyone Else: Okay, stop being racist.

Conservative White People: No!

I am most definitely afraid of some ghosts!

Caring about things is brave. Cowards make fun of people who are empathetic, acting as if it is a weakness. I don't know how else to say this, but they are completely full of shit.

When you are a pessimist and the bad thing happens, you live it twice. Once when you worry about it, and the second time when it happens.

-Amos Tversky

What is a good habit you've managed to cultivate for yourself? How did you do it, and why did you start?