Notices by Rosalin Kellyanna (singingnala@allovertheplace.ca)

@Fragglemuppet Those types of mornings are annoying. I have so been there. Hugs if wanted.

What were they doing to get the live version of this track to come out so good? I have a theory. They're using a recording of themselves on a back-up track. Why would they do that? Because, in the studio version, you always hear their voices singing double. And the only way they could produce that effect live is a back-up track. Plus, the girls sound like they're not on stage. And it's hard to sing that low and still be loud in concert. So then where does Hector come in, because he's not in the original track? He seems to be doing a. call and response and b. making the doubling effect a tripling effect in the bridge by singing the whole thing as Alexis and Fido do call and response together. Hector's voice used to be hard for me to pick out live. So I had trouble following what he was doing unless he was singing. But he does make a great live edition to this song. And it was a great way to have him sing enough lines that Alexis and Fido could take a breath between lyrics. This song was super popular when I was in high school. It could be heard at Spanish clubs across the world and at dance parties with friends. Think prom, even.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKDwxP425II

Have an eight+-minute slower swinging jazy hip hop piece. This one's called Tadou. Blame my YouTube algorithm. It's being multicultural tonight. Lol.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hC8CH0Z3L54

I was never a big fan of small talk. If we've interacted enough in person, that may be hard for you to believe. But, given that I'd often walk around with things on my mind like trauma, flash-backs, looping memories, the imprints of others despair just absorbing into the empath part of my brain. But small talk is how we prove trust, how we gain enough rapport with someone to talk about the big things. So the next time you find yourself hating small talk, just remember that something you may never foresee can come as a result of it. In my case, it's exposure therapy. Replacing bad memories with good ones. What do I mean by this? Say we had a bad interaction with someone. Maybe I left a sour taste in your mouth. maybe you said something that pissed me off. But the next time we see each other, we forget about that for a minute and just talk about audio or tech instead. Do that enough times, and all you eventually remember about the bad interaction, at least in your heart if maybe not your brain, is the fact that neither of you triggered each other. And maybe that's the start you both needed to begin to heal. I'm not here to be too heavy for anyone. I want to know what is the right level of deep for you and me as friends. With my closest of friends, I'm going to have heavy conversations, because that comes with the territory. With my closer friends, maybe the right level of deep is sharing stories but leaving the intensity out of it. But if we're still getting to know each other, maybe it's just enough to know how you think or feel about something. Maybe that's the right kind of deep for us in that moment.

All that to say, the past year or two has taught me three important life lessons.

1. Don't look at PTSD as a disorder. Look at it as a group of injuries that can heal over time, if given the right care. In my case, talking about the bad memories until they don't hurt anymore. And you have to do this with the right people, because not everyone will have the spoons. And low and slow exposure. Through slow exposure, I notice things that used to trigger me just don't anymore.

2. ADHD brain invites hyper focus. This can be great if fixating on things that make our neurodivergent brains stim. But for a trauma survivor with PTSI, hyper focus can be catastrophic. It can lead to sleepless nights and even mania. Invite in hyper focus when it's for a good purpose. But when it comes to trauma, flash-backs can be the match to an ADHD fire. Lean on folks who know how to help manage these symptoms. But also realize that your ADHD people and your trauma people will not always be one and the same. And that's okay.

3. If someone or something is triggering us, it's okay to distance ourselves until we can process. Nobody minds a person who pulls away because they're feeling sick. But as a society, we have a lot less tolerance for trauma trigger moments that mask themselves as passive aggressive bitch fits. And if you stick around just to please someone else, that doesn't really work. Because the person who wants to see you happy just gets to watch you relive flash-backs for the duration of that person or thing being present. Distance is not a bad word. It's a healthy one.

@Fragglemuppet It's my Pro Max. :)

Hotel lobby part 2. I call this one, Organic Encounters.

Come on, guys! We can’t meet the Vulcans and join the federation if our craft keep exploding. Jk, but seriously. Onward and upward into space. Not downward. https://mastodon.social/@br00t4c/114119911951283704

If I can hear you snoring one floor up, you have a problem. Time to throw on something to distract me from whoever that is snoring down there.

V.I friends: If you needed to convert a .brf file to txt, how would you do it? I have a number of .brf files that I can only read on my braille display atm.

So, I was researching female condoms the other day after an ad popped up on Fb. And, did you know there is only one female condom that is FDA approved in the US? And you need a prescription for it? No wonder why I never hear of people using these.

@quanin @FreakyFwoof you can force your PC browser to show the mobile site by adding "force∓mobile=1 but that doesn't let you see messages. If you click the Messages button, you are invited to get the previously discussed inaccessible app.

I dreamed of broken iPhone and iPad screens. What a weird thing for my brain to fixate on in the dream world.

@startrek2025 I think they'd call that pica, friend. Lol.

Am I the only one who skips episodes or scenes of a show where a character dies? Like, I’ll watch the episode at least once. But like, I don’t want to see Kira kill Jennifer Sisco again in DS9. I always skip the episodes in Grey’s where Lexi and Mark die. In TNG, I always skip Skin of Evil, because I don’t want to see Tasha die. Yesterday’s Enterprise is hit or miss. In HBP, I skip the chapter where Dumbledore dies… You get the point. Does anyone else do this?

J.j showed a few of us this bossa cover of an 80's hit, and I am so here for it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9nTfQt-gGIQ

I'm trying something new, because brother from another mother Onj has inspired me. During the hours of noon and 5 PM, local time wherever I happen to be, I will not post about, or discuss, any politics (or religion). Yes, this goes for UK, Canadian, and Australian politics as well. But, now, we are past 5 mountain time. So anything's free game. If the no politics 5-hour-a-day challenge appeals to you, why not try it? If more of us did this, our feeds would be less of a doom scroll. PS: The original challenge was only politics. I'm just adding in religion because of the peer support work I do in the name of assisting fellow religious trauma survivors. @FreakyFwoof

Oh come on. Walmart still thinks I'm a fraudster and won't let me place an order using my old high school gmail. I know I haven't used this account in a while, but force resetting my password because you can't actually be bothered to verify me is stupid. So done with this mess.

So the latest in the Walmart saga: I called them and said, hey, my order keeps auto-canceling. And they were like, oh, the last rep tried to clear your fraud flag, but it didn't work. I'll send an escalation, but it can take up to 72 hours to have this fraud flag lifted. So I tried creating a new account, using my Google Voice number, using PayPal, and a different browser. And nope. The laptop I want is still sitting there, unpurchased. And I'm still waiting for funds to return to my bank and my credit card. Along with every auto cancel, I get an email telling me to reset my password because Walmart thinks I'm trying to break into my own account. *screams into the void*

Okay y'all. Theoretically, if I were to buy a new PC laptop with 32 gb ram, what would y'all recommend? I'm looking at this for school. My laptop I have now only has 16 gb.

@JamminJerry @simon I have to use two programs for school that require 32 gb, even with a screen reader.