Notices by Emily 🏳️‍⚧️ (Injection Arc) (emilygb2023@chaosfem.tw)

@faithisleaping @RogerBW @RickiTarr

100%.

I'll add that once we DO transition, our acceptance -- and this is by allies -- is often contingent on not just adhering to the expected gender expression and roles, but we're often held to a stricter standard than cis women, forced to walk an even narrower tightrope than they are.

If I DON'T sufficiently like "girl things", if I don't dress sufficiently feminine, I get criticized for not being committed, for thinking being a woman is just a label, for not taking it seriously.

But of course if I like too MANY girl things, if I dress TOO feminine -- well, I'm accused of thinking being a woman is just hair and makeup and dresses.

And every person has their own idea of where those lines are and it's EXHAUSTING.

And then as the shit fucking cherry on top, every once in awhile I'll have some "abolish gender" type tell me that gender isn't real, it's a social construct and totally imaginary, and that really I shouldn't have needed to transition at ALL, and I'd just be happy in their post-gender world. I've even been accused of "perpetuating gender" (and gender roles and gender expression and even patriarchy!) for transitioning at all.

How do I know I'm being seen as a woman? People talk over me, tell me what I think, tell me what I feel, and are certain they know best for me.

I started playing Wingspan.

I'm enjoying it a lot. It's a fun board game. It's complex enough to handle several different approaches, requires adapting to the cards you're dealt and making careful choices, but ultimately built on some fairly simple concepts and thus is fairly easy to pick up.

It won't dethrone Splendor as my current go-to social game, but it's a darn good addition to my collection.

@bridget @DivineKestrel

No fucking shit. People wonder why I never did the job hopping thing you're "supposed" to

Because of this

And it's just gotten worse, and over the worst things.

"Quick, regurgitate trivia off the top of your head instead of using a search engine like a normal person".

"Quick, do a five day project in two days for FREE, in round six of your interview for a position we're going to fill internally".

"Under no circumstances will we actually test your ability to break down a problem, or how you think about coding, or look at your process, or test anything that matters"

You know what my strongest skill is as a developer -- and I'm a good one? I'm the only damn one in the whole department that can communicate with everyone else well

I get people on the same page, smooth over miscommunications, and can actually discuss things with clients and users without everyone being confused

And I'm also the best they have at "wtf" bugs and program architecture design

@DivineKestrel @bridget

No shit. Sadly I'm in an engineering firm. I love my job, I love my team, I love the work I'm doing.

But promotions? Nothing over project lead, really.

Core focus isn't software engineering, so......we don't really get considered.

@storybead @DivineKestrel @bridget

They all want rockstars at entry level pay, and they all think the rockstars won't just leave in two years, leaving the team with a half finished, undocumented mess written to fit rockstars' coding style -- not anyone else's, with half the plan still written only in said rockstar's now departed head.

I'm STILL cleaning up after a "rockstars" damn near decade old mess.

Undocumented, poorly designed, unextensible MESS due to his "refactoring" of it (because he couldn't be bothered to learn how it worked, obviously it's better if he rewrote it)

Lightning fast, where it works (he left before he finished it), but without any NEED to be lightning fast.

Ridiculous amounts of blazing fast pointer arrays (with multiple scope errors he never noticed, but I did and fixed) that can't be altered without updating a thousand other places in the code, when speed was unnecessary.

Using classes where they don't fit. NOT using them where they do.

UGH.

@storybead @DivineKestrel @bridget

Wait, you guys get exception handling?

I've got stuff that's been under continuous development and expansion since the late 90s.

With zero budget for refactoring, updating, or extending things. I'm still struggling to find time to bring all our GUI aspects into the brave world of dynamic layouts and sizing.

OTOH, the users are pretty darn happy with it and keep plowing money into more capabilities so.....the duct tape is holding.

At the expense of my sanity.

@siege For me, the the thing that cracks me up about chasers is how bad they are at it.

They are the most self-sabotaging people I've ever met.

it's bizarre.

Laying aside the ick factor and the fetishistic objectification of people, I just can't get over how someone can be that obsessed with something and yet know nothing about it.

Actually they know less than nothing -- they have knowledge that they believe with all the faith of a thousand hard-ons and as unshakeable as the most fervent believer, but that knowledge is literally the opposite of reality.

I don't ever bother to correct them. First, why help them try their shit with the next trans person? Second, they wouldn't believe me.

His primary question wasn't what to do or not do -- the seizure was over by the the time he contacted me.

His question was "Does this person need to go to the ER or just make a doctor's appointment".

And here is the answer: If this person does NOT have a prior history of seizures, they always need to go to the ER. You should call paramedics as soon as you can/

They need a full neurological workup and monitoring.

Seizures can be either the problem itself (seizure disorder, in which your seizure threshold is just very low) -- or a symptom of a different problem. Stroke, for instance, or a bad drug interaction. Or a tumor. Or a million other things, some trivial and some not, and some -- like a stroke -- where speed is off the essence.

Last night, late, a friend texted me. He knows I've had seizure disorder since I was a teen (thankfully well controlled by medication).

He asked me (apparently about a friend) what to do if you've had a seizure.

First what NOT to do:

"Here's what NOT to do: Do not put anything into their mouth or restrain or move the person, unless they are in danger.:

I cannot stress enough DO NOT PUT SOMETHING IN THEIR MOUTH.

Here's what to do (https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/epilepsy-first-aid-and-safety#epileptic-seizure-first-aid)

Stay calm and remain with the person.

Keep them safe and protect them from injury.

Place something soft under their head and loosen any tight clothing.

After the seizure is over, roll them on their side (if they have food or fluid in their mouth, roll them onto their side immediately).

Reassure the person until they recover.

Time the seizure, if you can.