Notices by Doc Impossible (impossible_phd@hachyderm.io), page 2

@TonyaMarie I do shorts and a top reasonably often. More importantly, no makeup.

Makeup just feels so good.

Trans on trains!

OK so

I saw a trans gal wearing these

And it was fucking *hilarious*.

Yes, that writing is across the front.

Every now and again, I sit down to make a transition timeline, because I took a selfie I like in particular and I just go

Holy shit. How did that used to be *me*?

Dear god, I feel like I need to shout this from the rooftops because every time I mention it in passing, it feels like someone's jaw drops in astonishment:

YOU CAN HAVE BOTH A PENIS AND A VAGINA! IT'S CALLED A PENIS-PRESERVING VAGINOPLASTY (if you're AMAB) OR A VAGINA-PRESERVING PHALLOPLASTY/METOIDIOPLASTY (if you're AFAB)!

YOU CAN HAVE BOTH! YOU'RE ALLOWED TO HAVE BOTH!

@holyramenempire I get where you're coming from, but when it's the British press, and especially places like The Guardian? They have a pretty long record of straight-up lying to people they interview about trans stuff, up to and including Judith Butler, to smear us.

It's just not worth it.

Just as a friendly reminder for anyone not aware:

The British press is not our friend. They, as a rule, do not publish anything, ever, favorable about trans folks, because those who control their content would very much prefer that we didn't exist.

So, if a reporter for, say, The Guardian wants to talk to you?

Don't.

... so, Stained Glass Woman just got cited in the scholarly literature. A literary analysis of transness in Nimona.

That was unexpected.

For so many of us, coming out isn't just about ourselves--it's about the people we love most, and especially our partners.

But we do come out to them, and then the person we love the most is faced with the reality that, "Oh, s#!t, my partner just told me they're trans." What the fuck do I do?!

They deserve support in those tender first moments, and this week, I'm going to try and give them a little with a jumbo edition of #StainedGlassWoman!

#MtF #FtM #Nonbinary #TDoV

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-my-partner-just-told-me-theyre

While some of us knew from a very, very young age that we were trans, a whole lot of us... well, we didn't. We thought that the way things were for us was normal.

And then, one day, maybe all of a sudden, maybe after a long time exploring ourselves, we said the magic words: "Oh, s#!t, I think I'm not cis."

This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we've got a guide for what to do after the bottom drops out of your world, and you got your gender wrong.

#Trans #MtF #FtM #Enby

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-i-think-im-not-cis

This article is the first in a little miniseries I'm doing, tentatively and affectionately called the "Oh shit" articles. They're meant to be starter education/guide tools for the first little bit after transness suddenly enters a person's life.

One of the really hard parts about being on the asexual spectrum is once in a while you'll just casually mention a basic fact if your existence, and an allosexual person will tell you with authority & confidence that you're broken. It's always freighted and veiled, but that's the message: your perceptions and feelings are wrong. Be more like us.

And the part that's hardest for me is queer communities are pretty much always worse about it than cishet ones, because queer culture is so sexualized.

@shaggyzed SERIOUSLY I like pleasers for, erm, certain things, but they feel weird to wear going into work or whatever.

The thing that persuaded him, if you're curious:

Holy shit. I just talked a cis guy on the internet down from "Let kids be kids" and got him to see why gender-affirming care for teens absolutely cannot wait.

This is one of my greatest achievements. I have a legitimate urge to take a victory lap.

@Tattie *Hammering* that retoot button because FUCK YES! And the inverse can be true too--people can have a binary phase before realizing that they're not! And that's fucking fantastic!

Assigning gender is the tool of our enemy. We do not need it. We must not use it!

One of the magical things about being trans and out it that, just by existing, you're going to help other people figure out how to embrace that part of themselves. We're everywhere! But... we're often pretty scared.

So, what do you do when someone asks you for help questioning their gender?

This week on #StainedGlassWoman, it's a guide on Being the Big Sib, so you can help them without hurting them, or yourself, in the process.

#transgender #MtF #FtM #nonbinary

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/being-the-big-sib

If you're questioning, recently hatched, and/or afraid you'll lose your identity in transition:

You'll GAIN your identity. You'll LOSE the 17 trauma responses in a trenchcoat that you *think* is your identity.

If you're white and part of the trans community and think that this doesn't apply to you?

Think. Fucking. Again.

We have a *lot* of work to do.

https://www.washingtonblade.com/2024/02/12/hrcs-forthcoming-2023-black-lgbtq-youth-report-finds-intersectional-challenges/?utm_source=flipboard&utm_content=topic%2Fgaycommunity

And for those of you who aren't doing the work on your white supremacy, here's a brief list of the core tenets that support it:

1. Perfectionism: by devaluing work and holding people to an impossible standard, white supremacist structures devalue human life and labor. People's mistakes are seen as reflections of their character, rather than simple hallmarks of learning and growing. This is particularly seen in talking about the inadequacies of a person/their work without talking to them.