@CloudyMrs @Mabande We are judging you by your words and the attitudes that underlie them. We're allowed.
And as a fellow white person, I am going to say: you are, indeed, "the enemy." MLK called people like you "the white moderate," people who say they care about racism but both won't ever use their not insignificant social power to do anything about it AND will actively tell POC to quiet down.
A lot of POC and other marginalized people consider you worse than outright bigots. That's a fact.