@slothrop
All true.
Also true is that my particular upbringing coupled with having been a stay at home parent for over a decade landed me in an unusual position. To quote one of my kids' peers recently, I'm "just one of the moms, but a guy."🫤
You're absolutely correct when you say it's mainly about not doing stuff.
I'd like to add that it's also about 'order of operations'. Thinking needs to come BEFORE acting. (Speaking certainly qualifies as acting here.)